Quarter life crisis?

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Adri23

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I don't know where i'm going in this life. i mean, yea i go to school trying to get a degree in criminal justice, but nothing much else. I was working as a temp in retail ,but it was only for max 90 days. it kinda sucks because i was applying for a really long time and then all of the sudden i was let go because thing are slow and i was only working two days out of the week. And now i have to look for work again which is suffering. I'm usually positive but life sometimes just gets to me. The way people are, and the way society works. Not to mention all the current events that are happening in this country. it's just depressing. I don't know how people go through life not believing in God. Anyways going back on topic....My friends all have jobs. some of them have jobs where they sit on their butts and do nothing and get payed good money. The others have to work pretty hard though. But now i'm the only one without a job. everyone in my group of friends are in good relationships, but i'm not happy in mine. I'm with a guy that had no license and no car so we can't spend much time together. He would always say "yea i just need to read the manual to take the test" but he never does. Now that i'm thinking of breaking up with him and telling him how i feel he wants for me to wait a bit longer so he can show me how special iam. He is not even saved. i would talk to him about God and the bible. I would ask him to come to church with me when i could and nothing. all i get is "ok" and he never mentions it again. i have to tell him "hey check out this christian video", or "lets go to church". i have to tell him to do things. I never hear him mention to me that hes getting a license or a car so he can come and take me out i have to ask him. He does work and he helps out around the house by paying for some of his parents bills , but other than that he spends the extra cash on video games. not all of it just some. i feel like from the lack of us spending time together i'm drifting apart. so i'm just not happy.


I also don't know what to do with my life. i'm not good at anything and i'm not smart. I want to travel but i have no money. I want to buy programs to better myself, too expensive. I wanna take classes, not enough money. There is also not enough time. I'm just depressed all around. I pray every single day for God to give me peace and it works, but then the depression comes back when i think about my life and where i'm going. Anyone going through the same thing? Feel free to ask questions.
 
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Ugly

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If you are telling someone what to do in a relationship, end it. Then, look at yourself. You choose to date someone you shouldn't, then you boss them around (i'm sure you'll deny that, but really, that's what you're doing if you have to keep telling him what to do). And if you're not happy why stay? He's not going to change. And would you really want to marry a non-Christian? If not why date him?

And so God is answering your prayer, but then you don't control your thoughts, so you slip back into what He takes you out of. Oftentimes we have to take initiative. If you want change, then create it. If God moves you forward, don't let yourself keep falling back.

Have you looked into grants? Loans?

You assume all their relationships are good, but they all aren't, i'm sure. People often hide the unhappiness they feel in relationships.

i go to school
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I wanna take classes, not enough money
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Adri23

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Hi! Thanks for answering. well by classes i meant like a dance class or something as a hobby. but i know with God anything is possible. i just needed to vent. My college classes are just fine though.

"You assume all their relationships are good, but they all aren't, i'm sure. People often hide the unhappiness they feel in relationships."

true. all relationships are not the same. I'm not even sure if he is doing something about his licence and i don't know it. what i do know is that he's had plenty of opportunity and time to get it and he hasn't so i figure it's because he has a phobia which he does.
 
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Aqua_Girl09

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Theres a MILLION and one lessons on youtube. If you want to learn to dance start there. and when you feel like you're good enough you'll find a way to get into lessons.

As for a job. I've learned that daycares are ALWAYS hiring. because it takes a person with plenty of patience to work with kids and people who don't quit. Go find a daycare to work out at least until you have another job lined up so that you can have money in your pocket for now.

With the boyfriend. my EX was JUST like that. and it took for me to BREAKUP with him to convince him that he had to do better with his life. I broke up with him, he got a job, we got back together, i broke up with him, he went to school, we got back together. I didn't want to live my life with a guy who I had to fill out job applications for because it was "too hard". I wanted a best friend. not to be the mother of some guy who couldn't fend for himself. I have my own issues to deal with.

And you have your own issues too! don't break up with him telling him that he may have a chance at getting back with you if he "cleans up his act". cause he'll do just enough to get you back and you'll be back to square one. you deserve someone who makes you want to help him out because you know he can do things. and vice versa.

also if you don't already start exercising. I've been telling everyone this because i've never seen anyone EVER regret getting off their butt and start working out. you'll feel better about yourself and thus better about your life! its something thats cheap and easy to do at home (though the activity itself is hard. >_>) but you'll be amazed at the difference you feel about yourself.
 
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MisterHarmony

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Please dont be too hard on yourself. You are young. I can certainly relate to having no job. I serve as a musician without pay currently. The part that really gets to me sometimes that others have (that i dont) though is a relationship - not a job. We gotta be on our best watch not to covet though. If you bless those who have what you want and pray good things for them instead of coveting, I believe the Lord likes this very much, and you will benefit also. Maybe you could try making little investments of saying thank you to the Lord for what you do have. Not saying you are ungrateful at all. I just read where it says you are usually a positive person so putting in a few moments where you thank the Lord might get you back on the positive track. Especially the simple things, like having a glass of water when you are thirsty. :)
Hope this helps.
God bless.
 
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