Girls deserve respect!

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PRAIASEmyGOD

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asamanthinketh said:
GOD created women and their beauty is part of that. If a man is commenting on a woman's appearance I think it matters his intent because although he may not choose the most appropriate words he may mean well. But at the same time you are right, some men are not commenting from an admiration of a woman as a creation to be appreciated and admired.
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well picture your in a bar, some guy wearing his pants down low and his hat backwords comes up and says, "hey sexy", it may arouse you, but let us remember gods intent and most girls would call him a perv

but if some guy comes up to you in a suite saying, 'may i take this dance?" or "my word, you sure do look quite astonishing this evening," you as a female, i think would be thinking,
wow what a kind and awsome guy!"

Proverbs 19:22

kindness makes a man attractive
 
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PRAIASEmyGOD

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beth18 said:
i agree with this very much so. As a girl i would much rather a guy call me beautiful. Sometimes it just feels disgusting to be call hot or sexy. Guys say that all the time and its just words but being called beautiful makes girls feel good, and it is much more respectful. Thanks for posting this
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Well blessed that you are not one of the many devoting there life to trying to look "hot" or "sexy" instead one who wants to be admired as beautiful
 
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callthe5o

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and its not just those words, as PRAISEmyGOD said in his 1st message, its also when men call women "slut, whore, or b**ch," it realy makes my day miserable because those words can really change a persons life for the worst, and i seen it happen.
 
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PRAIASEmyGOD

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callthe5o said:
thats really true. but most ppl these days dont mean it in a different way, its mostly about lust these days.
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So i suppose your a guy callof5o? But i completely understand what you mean, and fourth let us not forget that this planet will soon be doomed do to the sinners that are contained here
 
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callthe5o

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lol yes i'm a guy(didn't u see my profile pic?) and everything you just said is true. this world will be doomed to the sinners, thats why it brings us christians joy to see ppl like you trying to make a change. =)
 
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PRAIASEmyGOD

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callthe5o said:
thats really true. but most ppl these days dont mean it in a different way, its mostly about lust these days.
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well i know what you mean and it is just terrible how people can do this to such beautiful woman
 
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callthe5o

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yup, it is so disapointing. well, all we can do is let God's light shine through us about this situation in public(and for me, at school with God's help :( ) and hopefully someone will see it and probably change.
 
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Maddog

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RubberDuckie said:
wow my mom and I were just talking about this today! I'm really sick of young men coming up to me and saying "ur hot!" or "ur sexy". It makes me feel gross...like I'm not beautiful to you? I'm just hot or sexy? It sounds like they're calling me trash.
Thanks for posting!
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I'm not trying to belittle your offence, but might I suggest that these young lads are trying to pay you a sincere compliment? To be honest, the problem seems to be one of semantics. I'd even bet that even if a lad did call you beautiful, he'd still think you were sexy...which isn't a bad thing, you know.
 
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callthe5o

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well that word only brings one thing to a persons mind, sex. i'm srry, but thats the truth.
 
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Maddog

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beth18 said:
i agree with this very much so. As a girl i would much rather a guy call me beautiful. Sometimes it just feels disgusting to be call hot or sexy. Guys say that all the time and its just words but being called beautiful makes girls feel good, and it is much more respectful. Thanks for posting this
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You know, I thought I was doing quite well understanding women...I'd rate myself at about 0.1% of understanding. But reading this thread I think I've dropped down to 0.001%

If I'm reading your post correctly, it seems as though you only want to accept a compliment that makes you feel good. Not entirely unreasonable in itself, though I'd advise that just because a particular word doesn't appeal to you doesn't mean he isn't paying you a compliment. Saying someone is sexy is simply an acknowledgment of their sexual attractiveness, and I should add that it is right and good that men find women sexually attractive.

Of course we all find certain things offensive, but I think we must always strive to interpret people's words as charitably as possible, and that includes presuming that their motives are good and their words honest.
 
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Maddog

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callthe5o said:
well that word only brings one thing to a persons mind, sex. i'm srry, but thats the truth.
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No it means they find them sexually attractive. Some would say such a quality is a vital component of courtship, marriage and human reproduction etc. Moreover, it is hard-wired into men and women to seek relationships, including sexual ones.
 
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callthe5o

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but as christians we know even looking at a girl in that way is commiting adultery to your heart, which is a sin. this word is as you said, commplimenting there sexual atractiveness, but sexual attractiveness brings lustfull thoughts to the human mind, which, as i mentioned earlier, commiting adultery. so to me, the word sexy is a polight way to tell a girl that they had lustfull thoughts about them, which is why these girls feel dirty or disgusted or just flat out hate it.
 
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Maddog

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callthe5o said:
but as christians we know even looking at a girl in that way is commiting adultery to your heart, which is a sin. this word is as you said, commplimenting there sexual atractiveness, but sexual attractiveness brings lustfull thoughts to the human mind, which, as i mentioned earlier, commiting adultery. so to me, the word sexy is a polight way to tell a girl that they had lustfull thoughts about them, which is why these girls feel dirty or disgusted or just flat out hate it.
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As respectfully as possible I submit that this is nonsense. As a red blooded man I know it is perfectly possible to acknowledge that women are appealling in a sexual way, yet not lust after them.

Or are you suggesting the impossible? That men shouldn't fancy women?
 
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callthe5o

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whats the difference between sexual attraction and lust?
 
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Mari

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i agree. if a man says u are beautiful girls like that better than ur sexy or hot. atleast in my case lol
 
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callthe5o

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thnx! exactly! without sexual attractiveness, there wouldn't be lust! lust is an affect of sexial attraction! they both go together!
 
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PRAIASEmyGOD

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callthe5o said:
thnx! exactly! without sexual attractiveness, there wouldn't be lust! lust is an affect of sexial attraction! they both go together!
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Yep aint no denying that! its straight up lust and sexual attractiveness go hand and hand~
 
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Maddog

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callthe5o said:
whats the difference between sexual attraction and lust?
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I'm reluctant to give a definitive definition since sexual ethics and human psychology is not my forte. However, I'd suggest that normal sexual attraction is the innate response (that is 'hard-wired') that we have to members of the opposite sex that 'fit the bill' in terms of their suitabilty as a partner. Biologically speaking, the criteria could be categorised in terms of their genetic make up, their health, their fertility etc. For the laymen, this boils down to physical appearance, smell, and possibly their personality as well. For the even layer layman, this boils down to ''Blimey, s/he's fit!"

I would say that lust is an act of the will, and would be the corruption of this natural instinct to the point where one is only interested in one's own sexual gratification. This may typically entail sexual fantasies about that person, or even attempting to bed them, both of which would be violating both one's own and the other party's dignity, and reducing them simply to a means to an end, that is, sexual satisfaction. Simply put, it's sex taken out of its proper context.

Sexual attraction is vital and is pretty much the only reason men and women tolerate each other enough to court, marry and have children. By this stage, one has developed a stong emotional attachment, but without the initial attraction to set things off, humanity would die out.

So, I don't believe that expressing one's sexual attraction to the opposite sex is necessarily an indication that they are lusting. In fact, I think as Christians we have a duty to withold such a judgement based only on the utterance of the word 'sexy'.
 
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Maddog

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PRAIASEmyGOD said:
nothing whatsoever
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Maybe the two concepts are difficult to distinguish for a 14 year old hormone filled lad when one can so easily lead to the other (yes, I was young once), but trust me, there is a distniction. Related? Most definitely. The same? No, not unless our Lord was suggesting that every man and woman who ever lives is guilty of adultery due to their innate biological urges. Think of the difference between hunger and gluttony. Of course it's not wrong to want to eat, but it is wrong to be a glutton, or to 'lust' after food.
 
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