My dad is a terrible controlling person.I can't stand him.I am 24,he sees me as 8 years old and it will never change.Sometimes,he talks in a way I can't stand,my cousin would laugh..like watch your steps,don't fall.That sounds crazy.Even it is out of love,I don't appreciate,I feel so enough.On the other hand,my dad is a crazy careful person and is bad tempered.If I have to go out with him,I have to wait and wait and wait,I can't ask him to be quick,he would be very mad.Usually he can get angry in 3 seconds,cursing and really mad.I hate to do something with him,like moving a furniture.He would get so mad and curse.It would not be like that in any other family.He is also strange,he can sit by the computer for a whole day as if the world has only him,then suddenly,like awaken from a dream,he thinks of me and comes to my bedroom to check what I am doing,never knocks,just push my door wide open,ask a question and puff, goes away.So I lock my door when I pray.It makes him mad sometimes.If I want to do something,I have to do secretly.When he sees,he would judge and say something that makes me as mad as him.He wants to control every corner of my life.He wants to mold me to a person like him,indeed I am much like him,always worried,anxious,the man in a case.My heart yells leave me alone,the situation is,till I get married and leave the house.
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My mom and my best friend said,don't take his words serious,ignore him.In the past during holidays,I would quarrel with him every three days.I remember one time I locked my door to sleep,the next day around 7:30 am my dad knocked and asked me to get up,I didn't answer and he kicked the door and cursed.And he said angrily,"You must have played your computer the whole night so you locked the door"What???!!!It sounded crazy..Now I tried hard not to start a quarrel,I tell myself not to get angry.I want to repent my sins.This morning I failed and it spoiled my mood to pray.
C
Dear Sweet,
It sounds like you are bitter about the situation your going through. I do understand why but in Hebrews 12:15 it warns us against allowing a root of bitterness to grow and cause trouble for us. I think it might help to look at it from a different aspect. I know your frustrated but its all about attitude. God is love and forgiveness. Even though your Dad and Mom are doing all these things you still have to love and forgive them because that's what Christ has called us to do.
Also, during all this you still need to be obedient to your parents. In Ephesians 6 "Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth." Also in Colossians 3:20, "Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord."
The Lord knows your situation and he knows what your going through. My advice to you is to pray continuously about the situation and have faith that God will bring about a change.
It sounds like you are bitter about the situation your going through. I do understand why but in Hebrews 12:15 it warns us against allowing a root of bitterness to grow and cause trouble for us. I think it might help to look at it from a different aspect. I know your frustrated but its all about attitude. God is love and forgiveness. Even though your Dad and Mom are doing all these things you still have to love and forgive them because that's what Christ has called us to do.
Also, during all this you still need to be obedient to your parents. In Ephesians 6 "Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth." Also in Colossians 3:20, "Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord."
The Lord knows your situation and he knows what your going through. My advice to you is to pray continuously about the situation and have faith that God will bring about a change.
My dad spoiled my mood again in the morning with his complaints about this and that. If I didn't ask him to shut up,I would be a bitter person just like him. Indeed I am bitter enough. I want to change, I want to hear positive words, I want to hear happy things. I want to see a generous smiling gentle dad like my friend's .I don't want to get angry, I don't want to sin.I feel so enough. I think God is displeased.I have a thought in me,"God, I am sinful enough, if you want to kill me,kill me now. I can't withhold my anger."
As far as I remember,70% words from my dad's mouth are negative. Even when we visit his friend, he would talk about negative things, complaining country,society... Everything is bad so I believed.When I grow up, I realize my way of talking and thinking is like him,it's wrong. Then I resist but its influence is so great. Even today, he spoiled my morning with his negative talks and he doesn't care at all.I felt awful because I got angry. I think its sinful. I think because of him, I displeased God again, I get more angry.Struggling with insomnia,I feel awful enough, I think God helped me last night but I repay him with this. I don't know how to calm down.