I've noticed a few posts in the past about gender roles, so was hoping this would be a good place to get some insight. I'm a 24-year-old male who doesn't have a car and can't drive. All my life I could never afford one, but also never needed one, as I went to school where everything was walking distance and I get around on bike now. I'm in the midst of paying back student loans and saving for grad school, so a car is a long way away. While spending time with family yesterday, both my uncle and aunt were stern in saying that I'm going to need to drive soon enough and employers won't hire me because I don't (even though I currently do have a job). The whole reason behind this post is, does it matter to God that I can't drive? I have the strongest lens yet even with glasses I have trouble seeing, and I am completely blind at night. I also struggle with major anxiety that goes a long with it. I know how men are supposed to be the leaders and provide, so I've wondered if being limited in driving goes against any of that. This post may look or sound silly, but it's something I've spent the entire day thinking and researching. I don't want to be limited in 5 10 and 20 years from now, and if it's in God's will I would like to meet someone, but at the sametime I know I'm not capable of doing something like driving and I don't know how it would go if I had a wife that did all the driving.I have a scar in the back of my eye, which is a reason why my eyesight is as bad as it is. Does this go against what the Bible teaches at all when it comes to men and gender roles? Sometimes these threads can get a little nasty, so please be respectful. I've never opened about my eye condition like this before and would like some feedback.
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You're not married. So you aren't required to be a leader. No where does the bible say that all men are meant to be leaders.
Many gender roles are cultural, not biblical. Not that there aren't biblical roles for gender, but much of what people feel pressured to be has nothing to do with any specific bible teaching. It's just the norm for where they live and what is accepted and expected by society. And if you notice, the role of gender, by American culture, is changing. Some of it is irrelevant biblically while some of it is going against the bible.
Until you become a husband, or unless you accept a specific role of leadership elsewhere, it's not a concern. And long as you are able to perform what is expected of you in those situations, the things you worry about don't matter.
Many gender roles are cultural, not biblical. Not that there aren't biblical roles for gender, but much of what people feel pressured to be has nothing to do with any specific bible teaching. It's just the norm for where they live and what is accepted and expected by society. And if you notice, the role of gender, by American culture, is changing. Some of it is irrelevant biblically while some of it is going against the bible.
Until you become a husband, or unless you accept a specific role of leadership elsewhere, it's not a concern. And long as you are able to perform what is expected of you in those situations, the things you worry about don't matter.
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Eh, as long as you have the means to get where you need to go then don't worry about it. As said, you have loans and other means to take care of. Sometimes I feel the same even though I'm a few years younger and there's pretty much everyone driving while I take public transportation. To be honest, I feel safer with public transport anyway since the drivers where I am are crazy... and rude. Sometimes I have to double check to even cross the street since I wouldn't know if someone randomly goes past me while speeding. I don't think I'd handle being on the road like that.
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Like they said, as long as you have a job, you have the means to support a family. Yes, you have student loans, and yes, you have physical ailments. However, limited driving has nothing to do with being unable to be a leader in a family. Neither is it against the Bible if the wife drives. Even if the wife is the only one that works (see Proverbs 31), you can still be the leader of the household. Who cares what American culture, or any other culture for that matter, thinks? Your only real allegiance is to Jesus Christ, NOT this culture.
Ask yourself this: What is it in your life that you want more than anything else in the world? What is the one thing that you are willing to give up everything for? Once you figure that out, then go and do it. If it's a stable income, you already have it. If it's more freedom via transportation, as long as it's what God wants (and pray about this too), invest your heart towards that. If it's a wife, again, as long as it's what God wants (and pray about this too), invest your heart towards that.
Don't give up. Keep on fighting in conviction!
Ask yourself this: What is it in your life that you want more than anything else in the world? What is the one thing that you are willing to give up everything for? Once you figure that out, then go and do it. If it's a stable income, you already have it. If it's more freedom via transportation, as long as it's what God wants (and pray about this too), invest your heart towards that. If it's a wife, again, as long as it's what God wants (and pray about this too), invest your heart towards that.
Don't give up. Keep on fighting in conviction!