Public Displays of Affection:

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cmarieh

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I have been curious into what different people would consider appropriate and inappropriate forms of PDA.

I would consider inappropriate PDA to be groping, making out, and being all over each other in a public place, no matter how long you have been seeing each other or married. I have seen it done and it makes everyone feel uncomfortable.

Now, I think holding hands, holding each other, and hugs to be okay (as long as it doesn't fall in the groping category).

I have been thinking about this for a while now, about what many other people may think is okay and isn't okay.
 
JonahLynx

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If you wouldn't do it in front of your parents, don't do it in public.
 
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JustAnotherUser

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JonahLynx said:
If you wouldn't do it in front of your parents, don't do it in public.
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Then that would mean we wouldn't get into relationships in the first place.

Here's been a topic made not too long ago about this. Most agreed that there's boundaries set for it.
 
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I believe that in an earlier thread it was the consensus of those responding that 'appropriate' groping is allowed in a public setting provided that it is conducted in a discrete manner. Inappropriate grouping is discouraged in both public and in private and is generally frowned upon.
 
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JustAnotherUser said:
Then that would mean we wouldn't get into relationships in the first place. Here's been a topic made not too long ago about this. Most agreed that there's boundaries set for it.
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I just mean with regards to PDA. I think most people have the common sense to know the difference between polite and impolite actions, though.
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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If it makes anyone in public, including either person engaging in the PDA, feel uncomfortable, perhaps then it can be said that it's inappropriate. Since perceptions on this sort of thing are so subjective, my response has to remain a bit ambiguous. :eek:

Be respectful to each other and to onlookers to the best of your knowledge. Different cultures, upbringings, personalities, genders, etcetera, take different things for granted, so there's no common denominator to defer to.
 
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I would definately be ok with arms around eachother (no hands on butts), holding hands, playful elbowing, pecks on the cheek, that sort of thing. Making out or whatever? No.
 
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Holding hands is cute...holding anything else is not hehe. :)
Also no french kissing or serious making out. Maybe a small peck on the lips is fine but nothing major with open mouths. They should leave that in the bedroom.
Like you said, it makes me uncomfortable to see people do this in public.
 
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What I do and how often I do it and how long I do it will depend, of course, on where we are and what we're doing and what's going on around us.

I plan on holding hands and would think that most situations would allow that.

I'll also be hugg'n the wife in public. I want the world to know she's MINE MINE MINE(muah ha ha) and I love her!

If there's not a lot of people around, or the atmosphere is playful, I can see myself grabbing her tush. Heck, I might even blurt out "Oops!" :eek:

 
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Test_F_i_2_Luv said:
What I do and how often I do it and how long I do it will depend, of course, on where we are and what we're doing and what's going on around us.

I plan on holding hands and would think that most situations would allow that.

I'll also be hugg'n the wife in public. I want the world to know she's MINE MINE MINE(muah ha ha) and I love her!

If there's not a lot of people around, or the atmosphere is playful, I can see myself grabbing her tush. Heck, I might even blurt out "Oops!" :eek:
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Important additional comment(hehe):

Oh, and if we're out in the park and playing tag or running around...then I'll probably tackle her & hold her down & tickle her. I'll make up for my "hostility" later in the day...uhhh...evening.
 
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If anyone is wondering a whistle is definately not a display of affection
 
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cmarieh said:
I have been curious into what different people would consider appropriate and inappropriate forms of PDA.

I would consider inappropriate PDA to be groping, making out, and being all over each other in a public place, no matter how long you have been seeing each other or married. I have seen it done and it makes everyone feel uncomfortable.

Now, I think holding hands, holding each other, and hugs to be okay (as long as it doesn't fall in the groping category).

I have been thinking about this for a while now, about what many other people may think is okay and isn't okay.
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Few days back, I had to work on Elisha´s email and in his FB. The pictures I saw there shocked me a lot, not his, but another on my children, their friends and friends of friends.

I don´t mind having seen one of my kids kissing their GF in a pic worldwide published, but having seen one of their GF in a beach showing almost everything, even her ex-BF, their hugs/kisses and that beautiful girl partially naked...

What would be the public message she´s giving her "friends" or viewers?

If she is engaged with my boy (pregnant now) what would be the end result of such misplaced openness?

I´m glad I canceled and deleted my FB accounts (FB is not "guilty" but its users´ contents)

I don´t feel "safe" now that I know how her public profile is, since i don´t want any of my children hurt, for loving.

And I know about my daughter´s online activities because she also monitored to spare her from making a "mistake" but, to FALL in, a hole is simple needed, and it could be the dry gutter of any street.

Of course!

Creeping or groping seem to be easier these days online, that´s what I confirmed when my own son asked me to do something for him, online.
 
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lady_of_jotunheim

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What's inappropriate? Easy. Just think of how you would feel if you were forced to sit in front of it and watch it. If it makes you cringe, it probably needs to be kept in private.

There's a couple that shows up at my workplace every week without fail. They always sit in the big comfy chairs, picking two chairs that are next to each other, and proceed to sweet/baby talk to each other for a while. Eventually they stop talking and start stroking each other's faces and nuzzling noses... for hours (I'm not even kidding). And by the end they usually lean over as close as they can in their chairs, her with her head on his shoulder, and him with his face hovering over her cheek, whispering stuff in her ear and nuzzling her with her nose. Again, this goes on for hours. They usually show up around 1pm and they stay til closing which is 10pm. And the funny thing? Aside from making me and the other salesfloor people who have to walk by it and work around it VERY uncomfortable, the other customers are sick of it as well. They have gone so far out of their way to avoid them that we've watched them pull the surrounding chairs away from these guys just to avoid having to sit near it.

Moral of the story, you don't have to be making out and groping to be inappropriate. Again, just imagine if you were forced to sit in front of yourself with your significant other, and watch. If it makes you cringe, then don't do it in public. Some PDA's are fine, but there's a limit.
 
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I think common sense has a lot to do with it. Hugs, holding hands, I see nothing wrong with, even a quick kiss, in our Church, when the Priest says "let us offer each other the sign of peace" I kiss my wife quick. Anything other than that which is more physical should be done when the couple is alone
 
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A short kiss,holdings hands, general playfullness, hugs i think are all fine. But im uncomfortable with too much pda too. I dont like it when a couple squeezing,grabbing,making out in publuc. To me those things are meant for an intimate setting
 
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