Need outside outlook on relationship

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aknele1510

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I have a boyfriend who is wonderful, sensitive person with a good heart. We have been together for almost 1 year. I am a christian and he is agnostic. I have met him when I was born again christian, basically a baby in my faith and walk with Jesus. We became intimate early, and honestly I was not aware of consequences. He later told me that at the beginning of our relationship he had a dream and heard a voice in his dream saying ,,she is not the one". It left bad feeling in him. But we carried on because things were very good between us and we got along in every aspect of the relationship. I started to feel God telling me in my heart to stop being intimate with him, otherwise He cannot bless us. I have tried to ignore it, but eventually I couldn´t turn my back to it. I started to feel bad, cried out to God, yet I was not ready to repent. God pointed a verse in the Bible for me- Acts 27:22-25 which gave me a bit of insight. The sin started to be evident in my soul and I prayed to God not to let me go, that night before I fell asleep I have heard a voice telling me a Bible verses about the sin and God´s mercy. The next day I read the Bible and I felt the conviction of the Holy Spirit so I could not take it anymore and cried out and repented for my sin, I could immediately feel I was forgiven and that God loves me more than anyone ever could. I have decided to talk to my partner straight away but didnt know how. Satan was trying to deceive me once again. So I asked Holy Spirit to put words into my mouth and to lead me in wisdom. There it happened - I heard the voice, it was not inside of me, but it sounded like someone being with me in the room and talking to me. the voice said ,,tell him (my partner) that I am waiting for him." It was very calm, steady voice, full of reassurence. I talked to my partner and we agreed that we will no longer sleep together. I told him as well about my experience and that God is waiting for him. He seemed calm and said that he will go to the church. Later in the evening I have started to doubt whether it was God´s voice or enemy´s voice (Please, don´t judge me, I love God with all my heart but I had too much confusion and pain lately and I am aware of the fact that it is only my responsibility) and suddenly the voice said ,,blessed are those who did not see and yet believed". My question is - I had terrible squeezing feeling inside of me several times after this happened, the feeling was literally urging me to leave my bf. It was very painful emotion and full of despair. Since God works on the 2 or 3 witnesses, do you think my relationship has the future and God has plan for us? How would you define these feelings full of despair that I have now and then, even though I have repented and sin no more? Could it be satan trying to make me feel bad?
I am sorry for a long story. In prayers I am reassured that everything will be okay, and I feel peace within me, yet sometimes feeling of despair overwhelmes me out of the blue.
Thank you for your replies, brothers and sisters
 
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withGodalone

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That is a tough one sister, being in that type of relationship is very difficult especially since you two have been intimate. Once that happens you build a connection that is hard to break. And since you are a Christian and he is not then you are faced with the inevitable hardship of having to deal with staying with him or not.


I have been in a similar situation with two different girls who were young in the faith. It is similar to yours because since I was more spiritually mature than them we were unevenly yoked (Paul tells us we should not be yoked with unbelievers, but I'm sure unequally yoked is just as bad). Since it seems you are young in the faith it would be very difficult to lead your boyfriend to Christ. It is rare that God will ask you to do that since you still have a lot to learn about God and yourself.

I let the girl go of the girl I was recently seeing because I know that the most important thing in her life is her relationship with God. If I were to try to date her at the same time, it would complicate things, and she might end up doing things for me instead of God.

I have felt the same exact way you did. I didn't want to let her go. I made every excuse. I tried to do it half way, but the feelings of uncertainty kept coming. It was overwhelming, and it seemed like every time something bad happened it seemed like it was because I was not willing to give her to God. I finally did, and explained it to her, and I feel at peace. Even though I care about her still, I know she will be better off with God to develop her better than I ever could, and that is more than enough for me.

I think you should pray about this and let him go. You are not called to save others by being in a romantic relationship with them. The best thing you can do is develop your own relationship with Christ and trust that God can save your boyfriend without you having to date him. God bless and I hope it all works out.
 
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