Feeling Discouraged

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C-Dawn

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I am feeling so discouraged about life right now. Just everything in it feels hopeless to me. I try my best to grow in my relationship with God but I feel so distant from him at times. I don't feel motivated to read or pray. I honestly can't say I have had steady faith for more than 4 or 5 months at a time. And because of this I am engaged to a guy that isn't a Christian. Because when we fell in love I wasn't strong in my faith. When we got engaged I wasn't strong in my faith. And then I have moments where I am strong in faith and I don't want to leave him. I don't have a lot of people to talk to. I feel I'm going crazy in my own thoughts. Any advice would be nice.
 
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Ugly

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Lets see. You are lukewarm about your faith, you seem to rarely read your bible or pray. Because of this you chose to get engaged to a man that God would not approve of. And then you say God feels distant. And then that life seems hopeless. There's a pattern here.
-not Truly taking your faith seriously
-which leads to a lack of motivation to pray and read
-which leads to an unGodly relationship
-which leads to feeling distant from God
-which leads to being hopeless

Which of these issues seems to be the foundation of all your other problems? You aren't dedicated to God and because of this your choices and your life reflect it. Having 'serious' times and then falling out and going into phases where you do whatever doesn't make things balance out. Not how it works. You can't live 6 months a sinner and 6 months a saint and call it equal and try to say you're taking it serious.
Your wanting to be with a man who is not capable of being to you what a Christian husband should be only serves to reinforce that you are not dedicated to God. You've picked someone who tolerates your beliefs, but doesn't, Can't, teach you in them, encourage you in them, help you to grow in them. You picked someone that when you're serious he'll not care, when you're slack he'll not care. You've set your future up to continue on as you always have. Until you decide God full time and not just part of the time your life will continue as it is. It's up to you to make things change. Then when you act God will provide. Right now i believe God is just watching and waiting to see what you're going to do.
You are distant from God, not the other way around, because a few months out of the year isn't closeness to God.
 
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Pres19

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I'd have to agree with ugly.

Your relationship with God needs to be taken more serious.
If not you'll keep feeling discouraged, hopeless and you won't want to pray or read His word. And every relationship you have will not work out with this non-believer or even with a believer. Without a relationship with God you'll never know how to truly love or treat someone.
Take a moment and pray to God. Just pour your heart out until you feel a little better. Do this everyday. Its hard when your feeling discouraged believe me i know but make yourself if you have to. Ask God for help. it does help.
 
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Pres19

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Please don't take this as me being rude or putting you down..

But...

You are living like a "Christian Atheist"
You believe in the Lord but live as if He doesn't exist.

I've been there. Its hard to get out of the habit.
You need to understand that you can't change this on your own.
Keep seeking, keep trying, keep praying.

I'll be praying for you sister.
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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One foot in the Word and one foot in the World can result in feeling a bit overstretched. Christ said that we are either for or against Him, or as Ugly put it, "You can't live 6 months a sinner and 6 months a saint and call it equal(...)"

If you're willing to share, why, specifically, do you struggle with your relationship with God? Why do you not feel motivated to read your Bible? Why the inconsistency, or the struggle of committing yourself to this faith?
 
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Leadfoot5311

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One of the tough parts of life is a "vicious cycle". Satan wants you to get away from being in the Word, being in prayer, and being in communion. When you slip up, you get the feeling down, and then you'll not want to go back. You'll want to settle back in your old ways. The more you settle, the tougher it is to get back in the swing of things.

A good analogy of this is the concept of working out. When you start working out, it will feel weird and foreign to you. You'll ache, you'll groan, you'll feel uncomfortable. However, as you keep being consistent with it, you'll adjust to it, and become more comfortable.

Humans are masters at "adapting". If you slip out of the exercising, you'll find yourself falling back into old habits, and falling away from what you were previously comfortable with. If you get back into exercising, you'll feel uncomfortable, and will have to re-adapt.

Similarly, to get back into the word, in prayer, and into fellowship, it'll likely be a bit of a shock to you. However, it will definitely be worth it when you're back in where God intends you to be.
 
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LeeHeart

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C-Dawn said:
I am feeling so discouraged about life right now. Just everything in it feels hopeless to me. I try my best to grow in my relationship with God but I feel so distant from him at times. I don't feel motivated to read or pray. I honestly can't say I have had steady faith for more than 4 or 5 months at a time. And because of this I am engaged to a guy that isn't a Christian. Because when we fell in love I wasn't strong in my faith. When we got engaged I wasn't strong in my faith. And then I have moments where I am strong in faith and I don't want to leave him. I don't have a lot of people to talk to. I feel I'm going crazy in my own thoughts. Any advice would be nice.
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I know it can be really hard to stay on track! I am sorry that it is being so hard for you. We live in a world full of sin and trying to focous on God can be simply hard. Do you go to a church? If so I think a good idea would be to fiend someone there who you admire there faithfulness ask them to be an accountability partner with them. They help you to keep your focus on God! Make sure you are reading your Bible, and yes I know oh too well how it can just seem like you are going through the motions. Still, soon the "motions" will become your want and that want will lead you closer to God!
A while back there was a guy that I liked a lot but he was not living in a way that met my standards as a Christian. I knew I needed to leave him and it was so hard. I am telling you it is probably going to be really hard to leave him, but it will be best for your walk with God in the end. And believe me you are only going to be tormented if you stay with him because as a Christian you know it is wrong.
 
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