This is something I've always struggled with and wanted to better myself at. We all get rejected by someone at somepoint- whether it's asking a girl/guy out, or interview for a job. My question is, as Christians, how were you able to get the answers you needed after being rejected over a period of time? So you could become the person you wanted and knew you could be? When did things start turning when you made those changes? Thanks to anyone who reads and responds.
Handling rejection
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As Christians? Are you referring to a specific set of answers? I'm a bit confused by your phraseology. 
That's one of the biggest problems with getting hooked up on the worldly idea of having good self esteem, as opposed to living with contented self acceptance.
No matter how much you may hype yourself up that you can do anything, there are many things that some people just will never excel at. What if Zacchaeus had obsessed that he should be a pro basketball player? I'm 6'-5", 235 lbs... suppose I just had to be a jockey to feel fulfilled?
BUT it is our perceptions of our lot in life that often upsets us most. We tend to look at ourselves and our desires, instead of where we are in God's plan.
No matter how much you may hype yourself up that you can do anything, there are many things that some people just will never excel at. What if Zacchaeus had obsessed that he should be a pro basketball player? I'm 6'-5", 235 lbs... suppose I just had to be a jockey to feel fulfilled?
BUT it is our perceptions of our lot in life that often upsets us most. We tend to look at ourselves and our desires, instead of where we are in God's plan.
This helps me: God's commitment to you is greater than the experiences of perceived "success" or "failure."
His grace is sufficient and it is His unmerited love that brings success. People may cheat, but God will grade. Just as a professor can choose how to grade a paper, it is God who perfectly judges our efforts. Therefore, do not let what people say determine if you are "doomed to fail" or "succeed." All things are possible with God, in Christ, who gives us strength. Was Jesus' going to the cross a failure, a rejection only? Rather, did God not have a better plan than man? As a Christian, this is what I need to remember.
Does being a Christian mean that I am perfect? nope. Does it mean that I know the plan? nope. Does it mean that I am the best one for a particular career choice, etcetera? Being a Christian means my chief purpose is to trust and obey God (empowered by His Spirit). In the words of a wise Christian woman: Many times, the end is a beginning in disguise.
For instance, see Jesus on the cross.
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My short answer is: A perceived rejection/failure situation may not be as bad as you understand it to be, even though the feelings are very real. Give the perceived and actual pain to God. (Forgiveness can be hard; God can help with that, too.)
His grace is sufficient and it is His unmerited love that brings success. People may cheat, but God will grade. Just as a professor can choose how to grade a paper, it is God who perfectly judges our efforts. Therefore, do not let what people say determine if you are "doomed to fail" or "succeed." All things are possible with God, in Christ, who gives us strength. Was Jesus' going to the cross a failure, a rejection only? Rather, did God not have a better plan than man? As a Christian, this is what I need to remember.
Does being a Christian mean that I am perfect? nope. Does it mean that I know the plan? nope. Does it mean that I am the best one for a particular career choice, etcetera? Being a Christian means my chief purpose is to trust and obey God (empowered by His Spirit). In the words of a wise Christian woman: Many times, the end is a beginning in disguise.
For instance, see Jesus on the cross.
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My short answer is: A perceived rejection/failure situation may not be as bad as you understand it to be, even though the feelings are very real. Give the perceived and actual pain to God. (Forgiveness can be hard; God can help with that, too.)
S
Hmm. I struggled far more with insecurity than I do now. Self worth seems to be, exclusively, a worldly concept. C.S. Lewis also has said, "Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it's about thinking about yourself less."
This is rather subjective to the culture. Americans are very staunch in being independent, whereas many other cultures place a greater value on the family dynamic.
This is rather subjective to the culture. Americans are very staunch in being independent, whereas many other cultures place a greater value on the family dynamic.
G
Rejection , its everywhere , God has given us a spirit of love and of a sound mind , he said be nt afraid for he is with us , I would say cling to those words of encouragement, if Jesus was rejected (even for the thruth) then what we face in this life time is nothing to fret abt . That's y he instructed us to put him first in everything that we do and say ,u knw whenever I face rejection ,yes it hurts and that's coz we only human , bt I say thank u Lord , for sumtyms its thru that rejection that God protects us , prevents us from going to places or being with people or risking our lives and letting satan get the better of us.