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(I don't know what forum would be the best for this question. So sorry if it's not in the right place.)
Im looking for some advice.
So ive recently found myself in a relationship with a christian guy. We've been friends for over a year now and he asked me out a couple of days ago and I said yes
He started showing a lot more interest in me over the last month or so and I actually had a friend encourage me to think about how I felt about him because of this. She put the question to me of what would you say to him if he asked you out tomorrow and I couldn't answer that question. So I have given it a lot of thought and prayer as to whether he was, based on a biblical standard, someone I could consider for marriage (as I feel dating should be with marriage in mind). The answer I came out with after much consideration and prayer and realigning my heart with Gods was yes. But the problem is that it did take a lot of prayer and consideration. In talking to him over the last couple of days and doing the 'how long have you liked me' conversation, it's become clear to me that he has liked me for a lot longer (between 4-6 months) than I have been thinking of him like that for (about 3weeks). And also that he is a lot more sure of how he feels about me (i.e. that he likes me) than I am about him. That is not to say that I don't like him, because I do it's just taken me a lot longer to get here and it seems like a lot more of a choice that I've made to put effort into likening him because he is a godly man that would be a great boyfriend/husband/father from what I know of him.
I guess the main question is that I don't know how honest I should be with him now (3-4 days into our relationship) about how hard a process it's been for me to get to the point where I could say yes to him. Especially because it doesnt seem like he's had the same problem. And if nows not the time how long till I tell him?
Im looking for some advice.
So ive recently found myself in a relationship with a christian guy. We've been friends for over a year now and he asked me out a couple of days ago and I said yes
He started showing a lot more interest in me over the last month or so and I actually had a friend encourage me to think about how I felt about him because of this. She put the question to me of what would you say to him if he asked you out tomorrow and I couldn't answer that question. So I have given it a lot of thought and prayer as to whether he was, based on a biblical standard, someone I could consider for marriage (as I feel dating should be with marriage in mind). The answer I came out with after much consideration and prayer and realigning my heart with Gods was yes. But the problem is that it did take a lot of prayer and consideration. In talking to him over the last couple of days and doing the 'how long have you liked me' conversation, it's become clear to me that he has liked me for a lot longer (between 4-6 months) than I have been thinking of him like that for (about 3weeks). And also that he is a lot more sure of how he feels about me (i.e. that he likes me) than I am about him. That is not to say that I don't like him, because I do it's just taken me a lot longer to get here and it seems like a lot more of a choice that I've made to put effort into likening him because he is a godly man that would be a great boyfriend/husband/father from what I know of him.
I guess the main question is that I don't know how honest I should be with him now (3-4 days into our relationship) about how hard a process it's been for me to get to the point where I could say yes to him. Especially because it doesnt seem like he's had the same problem. And if nows not the time how long till I tell him?