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It's a really long story, so I'll just break it down.
-I was in an abusive relationship for the past two years with a guy named Alex. I went out with him in the first place because I felt as if God was calling me to go to him. I was partying, taking drugs, drinking, and having one night stands.
-Alex sobered me up and convinced me to be a "good girl". The thing is, we had sex. After a while, I wanted to commit myself to the Lord and do my best to please him. I told Alex I didn't want to have sex anymore, this is when he started getting mad and telling me its B.S. that I'm a Christian and I'm probably just cheating on him.
-In the mean while, I still keep in touch with another ex boyfriend, Aaron. For some reason, even though I love my boyfriend, I can't just push him away. Even though Alex tells me he's going to cut off my hair and beat me up, I still talk to Aaron once in a while behind his back.
-After verbal/physical abuse of 2 years, I leave Alex.
-Aaron and I start dating. We had an intense relationship 3 years ago...it ended badly. We started getting a little closer and he told me how he's so sorry for the way he treated me and he's happy that he can even talk to me. He told me how beautiful I am and just talking about my eyes and saying how he never should have treated me like that. He told me I'm the only girl that actually truely cares about him besides his family (which is kind of true. He's really rich so a lot of girls just use him)
-He's been tied up in partying and drugs, but is trying hard to stop. He's been going to church and praying for the past couple of months. He tells me he wants to be with me, but he doesn't want people to think bad of me because I switch relationships so fast. He also said he wants to settle down soon so he wants to be sure he has the right woman. The thing is, he still wants to do things with me like kiss me and he loves to hug me and cuddle me.
I don't know what to think.
I need advice from people who have a lot of wisdom in this area. I know the answer might be right in front of me...
I think I'm like in love with this guy. Usually I just date multiple guys at once...but I'm not even attracted to any other guys.
His parents and friends refer to me as his girl and they really like me. So I don't see what the problem.
I reaaaallly like him too. It's just that it feels wrong doing things outside of a relationship. I admit, labels are childish. I don't mind what people think of me in some cases, but being called a slut is not right.
I don't know what to do. This guy also has high expectations. Like he wants his girlfriend to have a job so she can eventually move in with him if things get really serious as he wants to settle down. We're both Christians, but we're not perfect. We try though.
I've been praying to God, but I always feel as though I get mixed signals--or I'm just not sure what to do. I need to see other peoples opinions.
-I was in an abusive relationship for the past two years with a guy named Alex. I went out with him in the first place because I felt as if God was calling me to go to him. I was partying, taking drugs, drinking, and having one night stands.
-Alex sobered me up and convinced me to be a "good girl". The thing is, we had sex. After a while, I wanted to commit myself to the Lord and do my best to please him. I told Alex I didn't want to have sex anymore, this is when he started getting mad and telling me its B.S. that I'm a Christian and I'm probably just cheating on him.
-In the mean while, I still keep in touch with another ex boyfriend, Aaron. For some reason, even though I love my boyfriend, I can't just push him away. Even though Alex tells me he's going to cut off my hair and beat me up, I still talk to Aaron once in a while behind his back.
-After verbal/physical abuse of 2 years, I leave Alex.
-Aaron and I start dating. We had an intense relationship 3 years ago...it ended badly. We started getting a little closer and he told me how he's so sorry for the way he treated me and he's happy that he can even talk to me. He told me how beautiful I am and just talking about my eyes and saying how he never should have treated me like that. He told me I'm the only girl that actually truely cares about him besides his family (which is kind of true. He's really rich so a lot of girls just use him)
-He's been tied up in partying and drugs, but is trying hard to stop. He's been going to church and praying for the past couple of months. He tells me he wants to be with me, but he doesn't want people to think bad of me because I switch relationships so fast. He also said he wants to settle down soon so he wants to be sure he has the right woman. The thing is, he still wants to do things with me like kiss me and he loves to hug me and cuddle me.
I don't know what to think.
I need advice from people who have a lot of wisdom in this area. I know the answer might be right in front of me...
I think I'm like in love with this guy. Usually I just date multiple guys at once...but I'm not even attracted to any other guys.
His parents and friends refer to me as his girl and they really like me. So I don't see what the problem.
I reaaaallly like him too. It's just that it feels wrong doing things outside of a relationship. I admit, labels are childish. I don't mind what people think of me in some cases, but being called a slut is not right.
I don't know what to do. This guy also has high expectations. Like he wants his girlfriend to have a job so she can eventually move in with him if things get really serious as he wants to settle down. We're both Christians, but we're not perfect. We try though.
I've been praying to God, but I always feel as though I get mixed signals--or I'm just not sure what to do. I need to see other peoples opinions.