How to deal with offense and move on

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ScottDachau

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Hey all,

Two years ago, I was hurt by several members, leaders and pastor. After that, I took a break from church for a year and now I am occasionally attending.

Now, when I step into church and meet the people who hurt me, I still feel sadness, anger and disappointment. I find that I am unable to trust and love like how I used to. I find that I am unable to trust other members in the church as well. This may be due to the fact that I am afraid of being hurt again.

I have tried many times to forgive. And yes, I have tried to pray about it several times. Apparently, forgiveness is a daily thing, and I just can't seem to keep up.

Any tips?

Thanks
 
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persontalkto

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The steps to forgiveness even in the bible are said to require the offender to admit and repent. If these things are really necessary, go find those people who hurt you and confront them, not in anger, but tell them how they hurt you and ask for an apology, if they see what they did, and apologize, then it will be easier to forgive them, if they don't, discount them, let them who are stuck in their ways then stay in their ways, and show you not to trust them, and remember that everyone else in that building is not guilty of what they did, see trusting them as shaming the ones who hurt you because their actions would then not make you hate toward people who have not transgressed against you, and you would not then be passing their transgression to innocent people by making it make you distrust them, distrust the ones who hurt you but hold in higher regard the ones who did not, because they did not hurt you, which means they chose not to hurt you, so until they show otherwise, trust and love everyone there who has shown they have chosen not to hurt you by not hurting you

And if you can't find them, then the place is the same as every other place you went in the year you did not go to the church, no one there has hurt you
 
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