Cheating and forgiveness

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Confusedwonderer

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I have been with my boyfriend 9 years. Last August we moved in together we had been through a bit of a rough patch but nothing major not long before. Last October I found out he had sent explicit messages to another girl during the rough patch and then every other rough patch during our relationship for about the past 5 years. He was really angry when I found out and was prepared to end it all because I asked him to delete them from his messaging list (one of them he was still good friends with). To cut a long story short he did eventually choose to delete them but in january I found he had messaged someone again. I broke it off with him for a bit but we were still living together. In February we moved house with the intentions of just being housemates (for expenses sake). Not long after this he was diagnosed with depression and has been signed off work since, he really wanted to give us another go promised he had changed n would prove it and we have since been trying to make it work going to councillors etc. My concern is that I feel like I'm going against gods will being with him because of what he has done. He isn't a Christian (though says he would like to believe and wants to go to church). I always think cheating (if thats what it was) is a sin so god will hate me for going back to him but at the same time he taught forgiveness. So what is the more important thing here? Also I worry that god wouldn't want me to be with him because he isn't a Christian either. Help please I'm in a real quandary! Sorry if this is a but deep and out there :/ thanks.
 
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Confusedwonderer

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I should add that he is now very remorseful for what he did. Says he didn't see it as cheating at the time and regularly gets upset with himself for it.
 
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Ugly

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God wouldn't hate you for going back to a cheater. I'm not even sure where you got that idea from.
He may, though, be unhappy you are with a non-believer.
And if this guy has cheated twice already then, in my opinion, that is the beginnings of a pattern. How many more times must be cheat before it becomes unacceptable for you?
 
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Ariel82

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If you were my sister and told me this, I would tell you get a small place or different roommate
...He is just "trying to make it work" because he is unemployed and your letting him stay for free.

He has already cheated on you and will again. Especially since he doesn't have the Holy Spirit to guide him. If you want to waste more time and tears on him, it's your choice.

However I urge you to pray and remember that you are a beloved child of God and deserve so much more in a husband.