Recovering from a relationship with an unbeliever

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bijanka

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Hi there, I am completely new to this site as well as this positing thing. But as I have find myself feeling more and more exhausted following the happenings of the past few months, i turned to anonymous help from fellow believers. I was in a very tumultuous relationship for about 8 months. He was an unbeliever. Although I firmly believed that the lord would bring his heart to believing, that never happened. About a month ago, he left me. I consoled myself in the fact that he did not believe in the Lord, and that perhaps the Lord was sparing me from some future heartache. I've spent hours a day in prayer about this,but to no avail. Yes, I have found comfort in the Lord during this time of heartbreak. Yes, God has comforted me and strengthened me immensely as only He can. However i have not heard an answer from Him. I have not felt my heart restored or even at peace with the situation yet. I still think about my previous partner everyday. I had hoped and prayed that the lord would set a peace in my heart about the ending of this relationship but that hasn't happened. Has anyone had a similar experience, or can anyone offer any words during this time?
I want to reiterate that I know the Lord has a plan and that I do trust in Him. I just am feeling very far from any sort of resolution at this stage and it's almost been two months now. I am in serious need of prayer and intervention.
 
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The Lord does have a plan but the pain of heartbreak is real. God will help you to get beyond the pain so that you can move forward with your life. I would continue to pray for him but make plans for your life without him. Welcome to CC.
 
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kaylagrl

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bijanka said:
Hi there, I am completely new to this site as well as this positing thing. But as I have find myself feeling more and more exhausted following the happenings of the past few months, i turned to anonymous help from fellow believers. I was in a very tumultuous relationship for about 8 months. He was an unbeliever. Although I firmly believed that the lord would bring his heart to believing, that never happened. About a month ago, he left me. I consoled myself in the fact that he did not believe in the Lord, and that perhaps the Lord was sparing me from some future heartache. I've spent hours a day in prayer about this,but to no avail. Yes, I have found comfort in the Lord during this time of heartbreak. Yes, God has comforted me and strengthened me immensely as only He can. However i have not heard an answer from Him. I have not felt my heart restored or even at peace with the situation yet. I still think about my previous partner everyday. I had hoped and prayed that the lord would set a peace in my heart about the ending of this relationship but that hasn't happened. Has anyone had a similar experience, or can anyone offer any words during this time?
I want to reiterate that I know the Lord has a plan and that I do trust in Him. I just am feeling very far from any sort of resolution at this stage and it's almost been two months now. I am in serious need of prayer and intervention.
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Im not a young adult but I went through this very situation. I dated a guy that was not a Christian but indicated that he was willing to become one. It's a long story but I was never one to think a Christian should date a non Christian but felt that God had sent him my way but only to point him to the truth. Well then I became entangled with him and the next thing we were dating. It didn't end well and he took off after a year. I prayed every night for a full year for him. I hope that those prayers were answered and he came to know the Lord,or will in the future.

Satan knows our weaknesses. And we can get tripped up pretty easily,especially in matters of the heart. Im married now and haven't heard from the one I dated in about 8yrs. And I don't expect to. I cannot save anyone,I can only point the way. I should never have allowed myself to get entangled with him. I grieved for so long,cried and prayed. Finally I had to get up and move on. God did not want me involved with him in that way in the first place. I repented and moved on and now Im married and that person only crosses my mind to hope that he will come to the Lord someday. Let him go and let God work in his life. You move on. If one day you find he has given his heart to the Lord,wonderful. But you let go,let God and move on.I know where you are,and its hurts but its for the best. God has the best for you,move forward and trust him. Blessings.
 
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Marek

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Keep your head up and keep on walking. Peace.
 
JesusLives

JesusLives

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Sorry you have gone through this situation which is painful, prayers for you and know that God is with you through this and has a better plan for your life. Welcome to CC hugs.
 
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inkyford

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Sorry to hear this. Thanks for sharing.
 
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Chris2552

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1 Corinthians 7:12

If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.

15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.

Here is the answer, if he wants to leave, let him. I found this out the hard way as well, the bible says we shouldn't have a relationship with non-believers, and you have experienced first hand why. Sometimes we think we know better, or it doesn't apply for us, or love will make it work, but what your going through is a consequence of not listening to the bible. Ask for forgivness, work on getting over the relationship, then seek a relationship with a believer, it will make life much better.
 
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Chris2552

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And this one

2 Corithians 6:14

14 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?
 
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