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AUG85

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I have been married for 6yrs but have never experienced joy in my marriage.my husband changed completely when he realized that I was pregnant with my first born.......quarrels, calling of names and looked down at me as a stupid person. all this I had to do with and i hoped for change...now things are worse...he drinks too much...infidelity...and sleeping outside...I have cried, prayed but ...........no. life is so difficulty..I feel like going away but I have no courage...

..................just what would you do if you are in my situation and you are a Christians?
 
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I'm so sorry you have been betrayed. Something triggered the change in your husband and only a counselor can figure it out, if he will go. Meanwhile, here is an article that could help you:Just Discovered That Spouse Has Had an Affair Soak up God's word meanwhile and meditate on His love for you like the following: Eph. 3:16-21, Ps. 143:8, Songs 2:4, Zephaniah 3:17, Is. 51:12, Ps. 91 God loves you and never fails, keep praying and belileving God knows exactly what is going on and is at work for your marriage sake. Ammabev
 
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If he's cheating on you, then you have grounds for divorce. But try all other options first. And get yourself checked for STD's..
 
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Cheating on your spouse is the worse thing that you can possibly do in a marriage. The damage that is caused is irreparable. A man that loves his spouse does not cheat on her. My advice is to divorce him.
 
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I'm so sorry this is happening to you. My heart goes to you.
 
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I’m so sorry to hear that, girl. My heart ached as I read your post, and wish I could give you a hug - I just cannot imagine going through what you're experiencing. It's pretty obvious that you want to have a good marriage and happy family. I just said a prayer for you and I hope that God will provide the comfort and help you need at this time. Do you think it would help to speak with a counselor? It might be worth trying. Sending hugs & prayers your way!
 
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AUG85

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thax a lot. honestly I wanted to have a great marriage but my husband has failed me...I hurt since then. just waiting for God.
 
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AUG85

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thax a lot.......pray for me
 
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I am so sorry! What a shame he is missing out on some fun, memory making years...and so are you. Makes me want to come and bop him in the head. Some of us have gone through similar things on this post...I know for one, to hang in there..God WILL make a way. Make sure you are making time for your husband, plan a date, get a sitter. Call a counselor to help you! Focus on the Family has counselors at 855-382-5433.
Also, here is an article that may help too... I'm praying for you.
 
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AUG85

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sorry am going back to the issue again. I have tried a lot to help this marriage but he is the stubborn one here.
I have booked a date with a counselor but he leaves me alone saying that there is nothing he does not know and no one can tell him . I tried calling his parents but he refused to talk to them....
....I have gone to the counselor myself ...he says I should trust in God and pray for him...and that I should do all to my husband because am his wife..
.........I have done this all these years.. respected him and always being there for him...but what do i I get at the end. "he treats me like I do not have feelings. he does not recognize my love for him even though how had I try"
.........I think i have reached a point in life I need to think about myself..........you know what I do not know whether there is happiness in marriage.........there is much pain and hatred in my heart....even all this grieve has made me feel bad ABOUT GOD. SOME TIMES I TRY TO PRAY AND I FIND DIFFUCULTIES I JUST END UP CRYING........WITH MUCH PAIN..HUH
 
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Hi, I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. In my 20 years of marriage, I learned the importance of communication, that we should not let the sun goes down with our anger (Ephesians 4:26). There is no perfect marriage but we have a perfect God. There will be some misunderstanding along the way but things will be alright when we discussed things.
Have you discussed having children? Is it possible he was caught off guard and didn’t know how to respond at the news of your first baby?
Have you tried Marriage counselling? Or talking with your Pastor or other believers, I believe it will be a big help in your situation.
This article might be helpful in your situation.
Meditating on God’s Word will change everything, the situation may seem to be difficult but with God’s help, all things will work together for the good of those who love Him (Romans 8:28) Give all your concerns to God because He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7) Trust Him that this problems are only temporary, after this testing, the Lord will build you up again, and you will come out stronger and better. I hope you will feel better soon and your marriage will be alright. Jesus loves you. You are in my prayers.
 
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I respectfully disagree with a prior poster and their assessment that the problem is because he changed after you got married,thats not it.

As a man I think that the problem is that he didn't change BEFORE you married him unfortunately this seems to be prevalent in the younger generation and thats one of the reasons that the world economy collapsed.

People are not growing up fully in regards to their intellectual,emotional,and spiritual depth so they don't take the responsibility for their actions that mature adults do.

I don't think that anything will change until you point out the fact that he hasn't grown up yet.
 
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AUG85 said:
sorry am going back to the issue again. I have tried a lot to help this marriage but he is the stubborn one here.
I have booked a date with a counselor but he leaves me alone saying that there is nothing he does not know and no one can tell him . I tried calling his parents but he refused to talk to them....
....I have gone to the counselor myself ...he says I should trust in God and pray for him...and that I should do all to my husband because am his wife..
.........I have done this all these years.. respected him and always being there for him...but what do i I get at the end. "he treats me like I do not have feelings. he does not recognize my love for him even though how had I try"
.........I think i have reached a point in life I need to think about myself..........you know what I do not know whether there is happiness in marriage.........there is much pain and hatred in my heart....even all this grieve has made me feel bad ABOUT GOD. SOME TIMES I TRY TO PRAY AND I FIND DIFFUCULTIES I JUST END UP CRYING........WITH MUCH PAIN..HUH
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Hi aug,
I am not sure, but i think i read ur OP and not returned to it after a week, not coming over to the young adults thread often. How are you? I know this problem does not solve itself just like that, and that u must still be hurting/ in pain. CC friends are just here if u need to talk some, but of course real friends and family may be able to help better. I hope u are taking of yourself though, and your child is alright also. There will be some disruption or consequences when there are marital problems, but i really hope ur husband will begin to see how he is affecting both ur lives and your child too. May God give u grace and comfort, and the strength to face the days with courage and joy in Him, in spite of whatever is going on.
 
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