Confession of a selfish sinner

[Nomi]

I got in a car accident today. It was pretty much a 50/50. I turned left at a yellow light, and the other person involved was driving really fast and couldn't stop. We both got out of our vehicles and walked towards each other. She was crying. I was scared. She said it was my fault, I replied with an equally sensible response claiming it was indeed NOT my fault, but hers. She cried, saying she just lost her mother, and she couldn't believe this was happening to her. I can't even believe what I said to her... I said "sh** happens, we are just going to have to deal with this". How insensitive e and selfish!!! Bystander took me aside and said that what I said and how I said it was wY out of line. I agreed. I was just so concerned with being right, with winning the Icbc claim, with my own selfish agenda. is this my true nature? What's wrong with me? God knows my heart and im afraid of what the truth about my true intentions are. I want to be a caring unselfish person. But only to benifit myself! What a contradicfion! I'm hoping someone sees this and would like to start a discussion, or share with me some advice. I just don't know what to think about this.

 

[T_Laurich]

When we first become a Christian we see sexual immorality, idolatry, and every big sin...
The more you notice sin, the more you see how great it covers you, and you start to notice sin not in only the big things, but every day life... And at some point you realize, that seeing all these sins makes you more grateful for what Christ has done...
This does not justify sin because we can see Christ through it, but it is a nice way to look at it and help overcome it and grow in Christ.

There is a great story about David, where he gave so much forgiveness to his enemy, but when a friend came he blew up with hate... I can't remember the verse or whatever, but I am sure a google search would find it.

 

[PrynceNY]

Sorry to hear you were in a accident. Ask God for forgiveness for the comments you made to that woman. God can transform your heart, as the scriptures says in John 14:14 - You may ask me for anything in my name, and I will do it. Ezekiel 36:26 - I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh.If you are willing to fully submit to God & desire to change he will help you.

 

[Hungry]

Good for you! Obviously not because your reaction to stress was revealing selfishness. Most people react to stress selfishly, but only a fraction identify that it is sinful. You are responding to the rebuke of the Holy Spirit with admission and remorse. Just like regular fruit, if you want to test the ripeness of your spiritual fruit, you have to squeeze it from time to time. How can you tell if you are patient if you never have to wait for anything? When everybody is showing you constant love and affirmation, it's easy to love them back. Our true love for others becomes evident when we have someone come against us. Being a father I think helps me understand the heart of God more intimately. When my kids screw up, I accept that mistakes happen. We are human. It's when they can't admit that they are wrong that gets me angry. The more they defend their stupidity, the more angry I become. We are all works in progress. Identifying that we screwed up is the first step to growth. God doesn't require us to be perfect, He requires us to want to be perfect. Defending our inadequacy and blaming others prevents us from going to God for forgiveness. The advice that I have is confess your sin to God and to the lady you had the accident with....and next time wait for all oncoming traffic to stop before you turn left. I've known two people with this same scenario and both times the police blamed the driver who was turning left (just saying).

 

[PeterJens]

I got in a car accident today.

Blame in accidents is for a later time.
Dealing with shock is the first item.
Unfortunately turning across the path of another vehical is the fault of the
turning vehical, because there is no proof the other party was going too fast.

Could you allow yourself to be wrong and take 100% of the responsibility out of
love for other party?

Is blame more important than reaching out to others and being a witness?

We go through life so defended, as if we have something to loose when all we
have in Christ is something to give. It is what Christ on the cross did to teach
us. And it is hard, because we recon ourselves of so much more value than those
around, yet we are just the same, sinners in need of a saviour.

 

[Ugly]

Usually the person going through yellow is at fault since it is a warning to prepare to slow down. Often people speed up instead.

But to answer your question 'what's wrong with me?', we'll, you're a normal, sinful human being. Things like that are why Christ died for us and why God works to make us new creatures. We don't simply stop being sinful because we're saved, but rather it is a process, not to mention something we must actively and mindfully work at. Habits change through consciously trying to alter them.

While we are supposed to feel conviction and a desire to change, we are Not supposed to dwell on our sins and beat ourselves up over them. That's counterproductive. God provides grace for moments such as this. Realize your mistake, own it, feel the conviction, learn from it and how you could be different and move on. If you focus too much on it it will only bring you down and have nothing good coming out of it.

 

[thisguyisnyeh1]

you are what who you are, trying to be good you are if you want to be, it can't always be you being fully aware of people's circumstances all the time, you were more concerned about the car crash, matter at hand, doesn't cause you to be a terrible person, simply not taking on others problems, don't have to spiral off into a full reflection of yourself cause having been in a car crash you wanted to focus on the crash, simply means you wanted to take care of what happened.

Also, you are the kind of person who goes off into a self examination based on some words you said in a car crash, more than a selfish person, single act of selfishness sent you into full self examination. The kind of person you are doesn't like selfishness, or you would not be here, deeper down than some not thought out words on a car crash. I would have also taken your words to be comforting, stuff does happen, be strong and get through it is how I would have taken it, nothing wrong there.