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    Quote Originally Posted by NoNameMcgee View Post
    i was similar...

    started early with flings and serious relationships
    almost even got married to a girlfriend i had from when i turned 16 till right before i turned 18

    since then (the end of my 17th year) ive been single

    i wasnt aware of God yet so i did continue to look around for awhile and try to uhhhh i dunno "play the field"
    but when i found God ive been single ever since
    been years im celebate and in the mindset of giving my whole life to God and not getting married but that doesnt mean i wont

    theres nothing wrong with gettin married
    maybe you can live for God for 10 years and one day he will provide for you a good man and then getting married and serving God at the same time will be an option

    maybe its best to not close any doors
    but just serve God in the present and grow in the Word

    never know what he wants for us
    maybe theres someone out there who God wants you to marry or maybe he wants you to devote yourself entirely to him
    What is your definition of a "fling"? What happens in a fling?
    Often neglected verses on tithing: "‘If, therefore, a man wishes to redeem part of his tithe, he shall add to it one-fifth of it. ‘For every tenth part of herd or flock, whatever passes under the rod, the tenth one shall be holy to the LORD. ‘He is not to be concerned whether it is good or bad, nor shall he exchange it; or if he does exchange it, then both it and its substitute shall become holy. It shall not be redeemed.’” -Lev 27:32-33.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Test_F_i_2_Luv View Post
    What is your definition of a "fling"? What happens in a fling?
    nothing good
    sinful activites that im no longer going to entertain


    maybe not always fornication but that can in a fling

    just short of a relationship
    its based on lust not love
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    Quote Originally Posted by Test_F_i_2_Luv View Post
    We should probably find out what she means by "fling".

    Not too long ago I was talking with a person and we learned that our definitions of "promiscuous" were different.
    Disclaimer: My definition of a fling isn't some widespread definition that people my age go by.

    For me, a "fling" was where we were "talking." It never officially turned into a relationship, but we still talked to each other and treated each other as if we were in a relationship. So basically, benefits of a relationship without a commitment. Usually lasted a month or two. I always thought of it as trying to decide if that person was someone I wanted to be with, but that was the wrong way to figure that out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by NoNameMcgee View Post
    nothing good
    sinful activites that im no longer going to entertain


    maybe not always fornication but that can in a fling

    just short of a relationship
    its based on lust not love
    I'm not really asking you to reveal what you did. I'm just asking for your definition. We can have a definition for X without actually being a participant in X.

    So, if I'm reading right, your definition of a fling is basically anything a married couple does when they are romantic, possibly including sex?
    Often neglected verses on tithing: "‘If, therefore, a man wishes to redeem part of his tithe, he shall add to it one-fifth of it. ‘For every tenth part of herd or flock, whatever passes under the rod, the tenth one shall be holy to the LORD. ‘He is not to be concerned whether it is good or bad, nor shall he exchange it; or if he does exchange it, then both it and its substitute shall become holy. It shall not be redeemed.’” -Lev 27:32-33.

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    Quote Originally Posted by elizabethlear View Post
    Disclaimer: My definition of a fling isn't some widespread definition that people my age go by.
    How do you think other people your age define "fling"?

    Quote Originally Posted by elizabethlear View Post
    For me, a "fling" was where we were "talking." It never officially turned into a relationship, but we still talked to each other and treated each other as if we were in a relationship. So basically, benefits of a relationship without a commitment. Usually lasted a month or two. I always thought of it as trying to decide if that person was someone I wanted to be with, but that was the wrong way to figure that out.
    So a fling is simply fake romantic chatter?
    Often neglected verses on tithing: "‘If, therefore, a man wishes to redeem part of his tithe, he shall add to it one-fifth of it. ‘For every tenth part of herd or flock, whatever passes under the rod, the tenth one shall be holy to the LORD. ‘He is not to be concerned whether it is good or bad, nor shall he exchange it; or if he does exchange it, then both it and its substitute shall become holy. It shall not be redeemed.’” -Lev 27:32-33.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Test_F_i_2_Luv View Post
    I'm not really asking you to reveal what you did. I'm just asking for your definition. We can have a definition for X without actually being a participant in X.

    So, if I'm reading right, your definition of a fling is basically anything a married couple does when they are romantic, possibly including sex?
    ya to me that what it means

    maybe im wrong ._.

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    I'm the last person to be giving marriage advice but here I go, if you find someone you like you have to make sure that man is a Christian so that you both have the understanding that God comes first. Once you guys put God first everything will be fine from there.
    “Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and often times we call a man cold when he is only sad.”
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