A post on a break up.

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ck12

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Hi, we both met as Christians.
but I don't think we placed God at the center.

Yes I have told a few of my frienda.

Even though my words are few, thank you for the encouragement and willingness to share.

I cry sometimes, but I have obligations to the workplace and to my family. So I feel like a burst of emotions that I have to suppress a little. It's okay, I want God to be the one that deals with it too, it would just help if the pain went away as well.

The first day was shock, the second day was a huge devastation, today I am still holding fast into the Lord.

I would want to pray for God to give me an opportunity to be a better person to everyone. To have wisdom on when to be firm or when to turn the other cheek. To have compassion for those who have suffered the things I have (not necessarily relationship matters), and to be wholly loving and humble in all my ways.

I want God to be present in this person's life. To pour in him an abundance of Love and understanding of His grace and mercies. I want him to experience God. I want a chance to apologize for the way I make him feel or for not being a good support., I want a chance to be that support and truly put the person I love before myself. And I know this is just what I want. But I would like to pray for it.

Perhaps overtime God would place what he wants in me, I would like that too.

But this is how I feel now. Where I am at now. Perhaps it seems selfish to some of you. But these are the deep cries in my heart.
 
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Hi Ck12, the Lord sees your heart and He heard your requests. You have good intentions for your boyfriend to grow in the Lord. You are not being selfish, you are just sharing your thoughts and this is the purpose of this group.
I will be praying for you that you will be a good influence to your boyfriend, the Bible says, we are the head and not the tail, top and not beneath. You will make a difference in his life and you will lead him closer to Jesus, in Jesus name.


Hi, we both met as Christians.
but I don't think we placed God at the center.

Yes I have told a few of my frienda.

Even though my words are few, thank you for the encouragement and willingness to share.

I cry sometimes, but I have obligations to the workplace and to my family. So I feel like a burst of emotions that I have to suppress a little. It's okay, I want God to be the one that deals with it too, it would just help if the pain went away as well.

The first day was shock, the second day was a huge devastation, today I am still holding fast into the Lord.

I would want to pray for God to give me an opportunity to be a better person to everyone. To have wisdom on when to be firm or when to turn the other cheek. To have compassion for those who have suffered the things I have (not necessarily relationship matters), and to be wholly loving and humble in all my ways.

I want God to be present in this person's life. To pour in him an abundance of Love and understanding of His grace and mercies. I want him to experience God. I want a chance to apologize for the way I make him feel or for not being a good support., I want a chance to be that support and truly put the person I love before myself. And I know this is just what I want. But I would like to pray for it.

Perhaps overtime God would place what he wants in me, I would like that too.

But this is how I feel now. Where I am at now. Perhaps it seems selfish to some of you. But these are the deep cries in my heart.
 
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ck12

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Hi everyone, thank you for your encouragement, and also toughness. Both is needed equally.
I would like to keep myself accountable.

I did not give him space today. I let my flesh take over.

I was told that perhaps this is a wake up call to change, and not just try to change.

I'm really grateful for everyone here, I will continue to update, if anyone is willing to listen.

Sometimes things that I think come from a place of good intention, may be disguised as such.
I don't think I messaged him with true good intentions, even though I made sure to end it as such.

I am sorry to anyone who has to witness this and feel the urge to slap me awake. Like truly. I understand what a frustrating person I must be.
 

blue_ladybug

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Sweetie, keeping in contact with him will only prolong the inevitable.. I'm not gonna sugar coat this for you, I don't play that game. I know it hurts, I know you want him back, BUT he has made his wishes crystal clear to you. By his own admission, he doesn't want to be with you any longer, and he doesn't love you anymore. Nor does he still believe in God. This guy has turned his back on everything, it seems, and nothing you do will bring him back. You need to step aside and let God get to work in both of your lives.. You say here in your post that you don't think your intentions were good when you messaged him, so you probably did it in hopes that he'd change his mind. Right?

But he's made it clear that he isn't going to, so let go of him and let God introduce you to something better. :) My ex, Thomas, was the love of my life, and I tortured myself alot before I realized that I had to let him go, for my own well-being, health and sanity.. Big hugs to you. :)


Hi everyone, thank you for your encouragement, and also toughness. Both is needed equally.
I would like to keep myself accountable.

I did not give him space today. I let my flesh take over.

I was told that perhaps this is a wake up call to change, and not just try to change.

I'm really grateful for everyone here, I will continue to update, if anyone is willing to listen.

Sometimes things that I think come from a place of good intention, may be disguised as such.
I don't think I messaged him with true good intentions, even though I made sure to end it as such.

I am sorry to anyone who has to witness this and feel the urge to slap me awake. Like truly. I understand what a frustrating person I must be.
 
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joefizz

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Sweetie, keeping in contact with him will only prolong the inevitable.. I'm not gonna sugar coat this for you, I don't play that game. I know it hurts, I know you want him back, BUT he has made his wishes crystal clear to you. By his own admission, he doesn't want to be with you any longer, and he doesn't love you anymore. Nor does he still believe in God. This guy has turned his back on everything, it seems, and nothing you do will bring him back. You need to step aside and let God get to work in both of your lives.. You say here in your post that you don't think your intentions were good when you messaged him, so you probably did it in hopes that he'd change his mind. Right?

But he's made it clear that he isn't going to, so let go of him and let God introduce you to something better. :) My ex, Thomas, was the love of my life, and I tortured myself alot before I realized that I had to let him go, for my own well-being, health and sanity.. Big hugs to you. :)
Yeah we go through tough times with loved ones but God strengthens us and leads us to what is best.
 
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ck12

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still in pain. i dont even know how i function at work but i do.

how do you guys cope at work?

do you laugh with your colleagues? confide in friends for support? break down sometimes but get back up?
 
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Just accept it. The truth will set you free. I accept... :)

still in pain. i dont even know how i function at work but i do.

how do you guys cope at work?
 

spunkycat08

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still in pain. i dont even know how i function at work but i do.

how do you guys cope at work?

do you laugh with your colleagues? confide in friends for support? break down sometimes but get back up?
Just talk to God about what you are going through as well as how you feel.

Ask God for his wisdom and guidance.
 

Nikoko

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[FONT=&quot]My heart goes out to you friend, breakups are never fun. You have grown over those three years, and it sounds like he has grown too. It is hard to do, but let go and let God be God. I will be praying that God will give you strength and peace.[/FONT]