What will god think?

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dani_210

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I'm new here so I don't know if this is the right place. I just don't know what to do and I feel I messed up. I don't know where I am anymore with god. I feel Iv messed up so bad I can't go back. The story is I met this guy and we hung out and everything was fine and then later that night it just got worse. He did stuff that I wasn't ready for and I told him no. I gave him reasons why we shouldn't do anything he didn't have a condom and I'm not on birth control. He kept saying everything was fine I told him no and he kept going and said sorry. I was crying the whole time and it just hurt. He finally stopped to stop me crying we talked I stopped crying then he did it again and it was the worst thing in my life. I had never had sex before because it's supposed to be with someone you care about and love. It's supposed to be with your husband and i just feel like gross like that's gone and now I don't know what to do I know now I'm not pregnant but I don't know if there is anything else. I'm scared and my body just doesn't feel right. I feel bad and that god won't forgive me for this and I made a big mistake and it's my fault. I can't take back what is lost. I just feel like a shell and my soul has been ripped out.
 
MissAfricanNproud2B

MissAfricanNproud2B

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Hi Dani, i would simply tell you one thing

Well, no one could cast a stone to kill that woman as it is written in Moses law for the Christ said that the one who hasn't sinned take the first rock and throw at her... remember all is sinners and not perfect except for God who is the ultimate perfection
Then Jesus told the woman who was adulterer that her sins are forgiven and do not sin again So really take this verse at your heart and yes, God forgives his children but there's a condition, do not sin anymore.

Take care, Jesus Christ loves you
 
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Ugly

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Ignore the above post, she clearly missed what happened.
What happened that night was rape. And rape is NEVER the fault of the victim. You did nothing wrong and have nothing to be forgiven of. In God's eyes you are still sexually pure.

You gave no time frame, but the more recent this was the more you should go to the police.

Rape isn't always a violent act. Once you say no, and he proceeds then it's rape. Regardless of how gentle he seems. He tried pressuring you, coercing you and ignored your no and ignored your reasons for saying no. It doesn't matter if you screamed and fought or just laid there crying, it's wrong.
I would encourage you to seek out some counseling to help get past this and heal. Perhaps talk to a pastor as well, who can help you have a better biblical understanding of why you aren't guilty in God's eyes.
I'm sorry this happened to you. I believe some others here have been through something similar and may have more to offer through their experience than I can.
 
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dani_210

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Thank you,

I just feel so lost. I don't have a church here I'm at my university and I just feel so lost. Physically, mentally and emotionally I just feel broken and so low and I keep trying to get back up and cover it up but then this overwhelming feeling comes back. And in the back of my mind I know I still need to get check and they told me I have to wait three weeks I just don't want anything I would just die like I never did anything and I didn't want it and to get something would kill me. I don't know what I would do. I feel like something is wrong.
 
blue_ladybug

blue_ladybug

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Something IS wrong. You don't have God in your life. It's good that you're not pregnant, and hopefully this ascot doesn't have any STD's to pass onto you. I've been raped, so I know how lost and afraid you feel.. You do NOT have to wait 3 weeks to get checked out for STD's. That's absolute baloney. Go and get checked NOW. As in, go to the phone and make an appointment, NOW..


dani_210 said:
Thank you,

I just feel so lost. I don't have a church here I'm at my university and I just feel so lost. Physically, mentally and emotionally I just feel broken and so low and I keep trying to get back up and cover it up but then this overwhelming feeling comes back. And in the back of my mind I know I still need to get check and they told me I have to wait three weeks I just don't want anything I would just die like I never did anything and I didn't want it and to get something would kill me. I don't know what I would do. I feel like something is wrong.
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blue_ladybug

blue_ladybug

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MissA, the OP didn't have premarital sex, nor did she commit adultery. She was sexually assaulted..BIG difference.


MissAfricanNproud2B said:
Hi Dani, i would simply tell you one thing

Well, no one could cast a stone to kill that woman as it is written in Moses law for the Christ said that the one who hasn't sinned take the first rock and throw at her... remember all is sinners and not perfect except for God who is the ultimate perfection
Then Jesus told the woman who was adulterer that her sins are forgiven and do not sin again So really take this verse at your heart and yes, God forgives his children but there's a condition, do not sin anymore.

Take care, Jesus Christ loves you
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dani_210

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blue_ladybug said:
Something IS wrong. You don't have God in your life. It's good that you're not pregnant, and hopefully this ascot doesn't have any STD's to pass onto you. I've been raped, so I know how lost and afraid you feel.. You do NOT have to wait 3 weeks to get checked out for STD's. That's absolute baloney. Go and get checked NOW. As in, go to the phone and make an appointment, NOW..
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I did call places they said I had to wait which is killing me
 
MissAfricanNproud2B

MissAfricanNproud2B

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oh Dani.. let me explain... then my point


When i read your post, i know that you didn't... But what i thought is to encourage by that verse when Jesus forgave that woman in her life ( not in my mind i thought you were that woman) of course and you do not have to feel like a shell and your soul have been ripped out, Jesus Christ do forgive and will make justice in your life!

2nd, if she were an adulterer and a sinner, God has forgiven her. While you didn't do of it, then why not God will forgive you and erase in your mind to remove all the painful moments... ??His peace will be unto your heart and soul like it was in that woman...

Well, i didn't detailed what i meant by this verse... thanks ugly and lady bug, you've made me clear out my point. I hope that now you do understand...

miss africa :)
 
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j2415p44

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Hi Dani, I’m so sorry.
I want you to know that the Lord has forgiven you the moment you repented. He is faithful and just to forgive us. You are forgiven. There is no condemnation to those who belong to Jesus. God loves you. Please try to forgive your boyfriend, I know it’s hard to forgive and let it go, but we must do it for our own good. Do you have someone to talk to, like a friend or family member, or you can talk to your Pastor. I want to encourage you to surrender this situation completely to the Lord. I will be praying for you for peace that surpasses all understanding as you trust God to work in your life. Thank you for sharing, please update us.
 
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j2415p44

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Hi Dani, I’m so sorry.
I want you to know that the Lord has forgiven you the moment you repented. He is faithful and just to forgive us. You are forgiven. There is no condemnation to those who belong to Jesus. God loves you. Please try to forgive your boyfriend, I know it’s hard to forgive and let it go, but we must do it for our own good. Do you have someone to talk to, like a friend or family member, or you can talk to your Pastor. I want to encourage you to surrender this situation completely to the Lord. I will be praying for you for peace that surpasses all understanding as you trust God to work in your life. Thank you for sharing, please update us.
 
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j2415p44

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Jan 25, 2017
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Hi Dani, I'm so sorry for what happened. I was trying to edit my reply but it did not go through. I thought it's pre-marital sex. Thanks to lady bug and Miss African, after I have read their reply, I understood that it's not.
I pray for comfort as you go through this. I pray that you will feel God's love because He loves you so much. Please update us. Jesus loves you.
 
Oncefallen

Oncefallen

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blue_ladybug said:
Something IS wrong. You don't have God in your life. It's good that you're not pregnant, and hopefully this ascot doesn't have any STD's to pass onto you. I've been raped, so I know how lost and afraid you feel.. You do NOT have to wait 3 weeks to get checked out for STD's. That's absolute baloney. Go and get checked NOW. As in, go to the phone and make an appointment, NOW..
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The reason that she's being told to wait three weeks is that IF an STD was transmitted it is highly likely that she would test negative early on just because it takes a while for the virus or bacteria to reproduce to a point where it would show up on standard tests. Test too early and she could come up with a false negative.

From what I've read, someone should be tested at 3 to 4 weeks and then again after a couple of months just to be sure.
 
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Ugly

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MissAfricanNproud2B said:
oh Dani.. let me explain... then my point


When i read your post, i know that you didn't... But what i thought is to encourage by that verse when Jesus forgave that woman in her life ( not in my mind i thought you were that woman) of course and you do not have to feel like a shell and your soul have been ripped out, Jesus Christ do forgive and will make justice in your life!

2nd, if she were an adulterer and a sinner, God has forgiven her. While you didn't do of it, then why not God will forgive you and erase in your mind to remove all the painful moments... ??His peace will be unto your heart and soul like it was in that woman...

Well, i didn't detailed what i meant by this verse... thanks ugly and lady bug, you've made me clear out my point. I hope that now you do understand...

miss africa :)
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She doesn't need to be forgiven. She did nothing wrong. That's the point.
 
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joefizz

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Yeah rape messes with someone's head typically too,some female relatives in my family have been raped and they were never mentally stable again.
 
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