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    Default Re: I am tempted by a coworker

    Quote Originally Posted by Frontios1996 View Post
    I work as a chef,and one of the waitresses appears to have a crush on me, and she is not being subtle. Ie. Flirting, asking if I'm single,my age, other things that go past a professional relationship.

    From what I understand, she is currently in a relationship with another man. I am currently happily single, but have always felt a bit insecure about my overall attractiveness to the other gender. I am also worried that I may never find that special someone, when the time comes.

    How do I maintain a friendly professional relationship with this woman, and still be godly and polite?

    PS. I am in no way considering taking it up with HR, as I think she's basically a good person, but just on the wrong track a little?
    Being in a relationship with another man is the same thing as being married so I would not let that stop me if I were interested.
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    Quote Originally Posted by tourist View Post
    Being in a relationship with another man is the same thing as being married so I would not let that stop me if I were interested.
    So, you go after married women?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Tommy379 View Post
    So, you go after married women?
    Perhaps some clarification is in order. The chef is a man, the waitress a woman. The waitress is in a relationship with a man who is also interested in another man, the chef.

    Oh yeah, there was a little typo in my post that changed the meaning slightly. I meant to write that it is 'not the same thing'. My bad. I hope that I did not inadvertently steer the guy in a wrong direction.
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    Quote Originally Posted by tourist View Post
    Perhaps some clarification is in order. The chef is a man, the waitress a woman. The waitress is in a relationship with a man who is also interested in another man, the chef.

    Oh yeah, there was a little typo in my post that changed the meaning slightly. I meant to write that it is 'not the same thing'. My bad. I hope that I did not inadvertently steer the guy in a wrong direction.
    If he doesn't make a move, I will.
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    Default Re: I am tempted by a coworker

    Quote Originally Posted by tourist View Post
    Perhaps some clarification is in order. The chef is a man, the waitress a woman. The waitress is in a relationship with a man who is also interested in another man, the chef.

    Oh yeah, there was a little typo in my post that changed the meaning slightly. I meant to write that it is 'not the same thing'. My bad. I hope that I did not inadvertently steer the guy in a wrong direction.
    Yeah, another clarification is in order. It is the waitress that is interested in another man who is the chef, and not her boyfriend who is interested in the chef. At least not at this time.

    I obviously suck at relationships. I used to be a chef though if that's any consolation.
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    Default Re: I am tempted by a coworker

    If your not comfortable with it it's actually sexual harassment and you don't have to put up with it.

    And your posts are contradictory... You reckon she has a man yet is flirting with you and saying you think she's a relatively good person, how can you possibly think that?
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    Quote Originally Posted by breno785au View Post
    If your not comfortable with it it's actually sexual harassment and you don't have to put up with it.

    And your posts are contradictory... You reckon she has a man yet is flirting with you and saying you think she's a relatively good person, how can you possibly think that?
    How is that sexual harassment? What would she know, how he feels?
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    Default Re: I am tempted by a coworker

    I've read through three nearly three pages of content and saw no mention of scriptural advice, sad!

    1) If you are born again, it is imperative you find a mate that is also a saved believer in Christ. Scripture warns of being unequally yoked with non-believers.

    Further reading: https://www.gotquestions.org/date-marry-unbeliever.html

    2) Based on what little information you have described, the girl sounds more like the character of Proverbs 7 than of Proverbs 31.

    With her much fair speech she caused him to yield, with the flattering of her lips she forced him. He goeth after her straightway, as an ox goeth to the slaughter, or as a fool to the correction of the stocks; Till a dart strike through his liver; as a bird hasteth to the snare, and knoweth not that it is for his life.
    Hearken unto me now therefore, O ye children, and attend to the words of my mouth. Let not thine heart decline to her ways, go not astray in her paths. For she hath cast down many wounded: yea, many strong men have been slain by her. Her house is the way to hell, going down to the chambers of death. - Proverbs 7:21-27

    3) Since you described behaviour as uncomfortable, the best option is to report it to HR, pray for her, and ignore her. God will provide you with someone more in line with Proverbs 31 when the time is right.
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    Default Re: I am tempted by a coworker

    Quick update, I've since spoken to her about the behavior, she was just kidding with me, and apologized if she made me feel uncomfortable ,and we now share a friendly relationship, but no flirty behavior at all

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    Default Re: I am tempted by a coworker

    Quote Originally Posted by Frontios1996 View Post
    Quick update, I've since spoken to her about the behavior, she was just kidding with me, and apologized if she made me feel uncomfortable ,and we now share a friendly relationship, but no flirty behavior at all
    Problem solved.
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