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Thread: She’s acting cold I don’t know why

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    I don’t get why my girlfriend is giving me the cold shoulder. We’ve been doing so well the past few days then she suddenly gave me one-word replies. I don’t know what I did although I have a hunch. I may have slipped a comment about how hot her brother’s girlfriend was. The said girlfriend was from a foreign dating event and when she showed me a photo I said she looked hot. I already apologized but to know avail. I also asked her what was wrong and she said nothing was but everything just feels so wrong. I don’t think I deserve to be treated coldly if I didn’t do anything wrong.

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    Default Re: She’s acting cold I don’t know why

    Yeah, you don't do that.
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    Default Re: She’s acting cold I don’t know why

    The better response would have been..."oh that's nice...good for him. He's not as lucky as me".
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    You can't take it back and she is probably hurting emotionally because of that comment and not sure how to express herself to you as a result. Us women are horrendous to compare ourselves to other women and when the person we are in a relationship with thinks someone else is hot, it hurts a lot. You apologized and that's really all you can do. Now, what you should do is send her some flowers with chocolate or a stuffed bear and include a sweet romantic note about how blessed you are to have such a beautiful girl in your life. Trust me....she needs to be reassured you still think she's beautiful
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    Default Re: She’s acting cold I don’t know why

    I echo Tommy's response. Not a good start, man.
    So you're telling me this is a signature line??

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    Default Re: She’s acting cold I don’t know why

    they say for a single negative comment ...you need 7 positive ones to feel much better.that said your girlfriend could also have underlying insecurities,once you guys have resolved this issue,going forward,you guys need to resolve some underlying issues...all the best..

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    Quote Originally Posted by renewed_hope View Post
    You can't take it back and she is probably hurting emotionally because of that comment and not sure how to express herself to you as a result. Us women are horrendous to compare ourselves to other women and when the person we are in a relationship with thinks someone else is hot, it hurts a lot. You apologized and that's really all you can do. Now, what you should do is send her some flowers with chocolate or a stuffed bear and include a sweet romantic note about how blessed you are to have such a beautiful girl in your life. Trust me....she needs to be reassured you still think she's beautiful
    I don't particularly like it when my girl does it to me either.
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    also you need to work on choosing your words correctly, and our words come from the fullness of our hearts...theres nothing wrong with complementing another woman,but if you have lust in your heart,you may speak the wrong word,,its amaizing what God has created,i see some really beautiful men...and women that litteraly take my breath away...but always remember to stay on guard of your thoughts,and heart,as this are the things we will be judged with...
    BUT am puzzled...when she was showing you a picture of the said girl...what response was she expecting? i used to do this to my ex when i wanted to test him or see how he would respond to other women,ilater discovered i had insecurity and esteem issues that i had to work on.
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    Default Re: She’s acting cold I don’t know why

    I believe this is a typical communication issue between men and women. You’re using the word “hot” to express that other lady in a positive manner, but to your girl that sounds real bad and she might could think you’re interested in that other lady.

    Shes angry with you and she is expecting you to apologize big time now.

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    Default Re: She’s acting cold I don’t know why

    Quote Originally Posted by KoonAgnes View Post
    I don’t get why my girlfriend is giving me the cold shoulder. We’ve been doing so well the past few days then she suddenly gave me one-word replies. I don’t know what I did although I have a hunch. I may have slipped a comment about how hot her brother’s girlfriend was. The said girlfriend was from a foreign dating event and when she showed me a photo I said she looked hot. I already apologized but to know avail. I also asked her what was wrong and she said nothing was but everything just feels so wrong. I don’t think I deserve to be treated coldly if I didn’t do anything wrong.

    For future reference,when you ask a woman "whats wrong" and she says "nothing" its not ever "nothing"! Nothing usually means Im upset and I cant believe you aren't smart enough to figure it out. rofl

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    Default Re: She’s acting cold I don’t know why

    Just think of it as a temperature analogy:

    Your girlfriend is acting "cold" toward you because you said that another woman was "hot".

    Cool yourself down so that your GF will warm back up to you.
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    So you're telling me this is a signature line??

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    Default Re: She’s acting cold I don’t know why

    Quote Originally Posted by Jennie-Mae View Post
    I believe this is a typical communication issue between men and women. You’re using the word “hot” to express that other lady in a positive manner, but to your girl that sounds real bad and she might could think you’re interested in that other lady.

    Shes angry with you and she is expecting you to apologize big time now.
    Do I hate autocorrect? Yep...

    Not only is that doggone thing changing my words, also it is stealing some of the words whenever I’m not minding that junior AI thing. lolol.

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    Also I despise the five minutes editing rule.

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    Default Re: She’s acting cold I don’t know why

    You told her how hot you think her brother's girlfriend is.. So she's probably thinking that you don't find HER hot anymore. So yes, you are in the wrong. You apologized, just let it go and don't mention it again.


    Quote Originally Posted by KoonAgnes View Post
    I don’t get why my girlfriend is giving me the cold shoulder. We’ve been doing so well the past few days then she suddenly gave me one-word replies. I don’t know what I did although I have a hunch. I may have slipped a comment about how hot her brother’s girlfriend was. The said girlfriend was from a foreign dating event and when she showed me a photo I said she looked hot. I already apologized but to know avail. I also asked her what was wrong and she said nothing was but everything just feels so wrong. I don’t think I deserve to be treated coldly if I didn’t do anything wrong.
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    Default Re: She’s acting cold I don’t know why

    This right here.. ^^^

    Quote Originally Posted by Lighthearted View Post
    The better response would have been..."oh that's nice...good for him. He's not as lucky as me".
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    Quote Originally Posted by kaylagrl View Post
    For future reference,when you ask a woman "whats wrong" and she says "nothing" its not ever "nothing"! Nothing usually means Im upset and I cant believe you aren't smart enough to figure it out. rofl
    you can take that one to the bank
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