Are we proud of unholy things we did?

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Brandon777

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Unfortunately, in a couple instances I find myself telling stories of my past in a positive light. And I know it's not coming from a Christ following perspective. I've been saved my whole life and I'm not sure how good of a person I am. I'm trying to figure myself out and figure out how to have the correct attitude to grow in holiness. If I am so passionate to know and love God yet I'm also passionate about speaking and thinking of sinful things like fornication with my ex-girl friend, then who am I? I want to know if I'm blameless. Living above reproach. Because just by looking at my life someone would probably say that I'm below average on the holiness scale, but I suppose they would also be confused at how much I genuinely and honestly desire God. I desire Him aboundingly, desiring Him for who He is rather than just what He can give.

The problem is that sometimes I think about the inappropriate things we did as something to be proud of/brag about or have a fondness of. And I know that this is my flesh and my bipolar illness that does this to me.
 
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ASK

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I know where you're coming from. And as soon as you say something you feel the sting of guilt, but it's already been said. I don't think it helps that I don't have any Christian friends that I am in close contact with, that's just asking for sinful thoughts and words to be present.
 
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rainacorn

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If you're truly repentant, it's not funny and it's nothing to brag about.

God forgives and forgets. Take that as your opportunity to repent and then forget about it! He will make it like it never happened, and eventually those memories will fade from your mind... that is unless you keep bringing it up like it's something awesome lol
 
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Brandon777

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Thanks for your responses. I want more! More responses!
 
zeroturbulence

zeroturbulence

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I wasn't a christian most of my life and there are still things I feel sort of proud of even though they were sinful things. Its just part of being a guy I think.
 
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tif

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Brandon:

2 Corinthians 5:17
New King James Version (NKJV)
17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.​

I know it's hard to leave that old stuff behind, especially when they seemed like such fun, normal, good things. But trust me, thinking of them fondly can lead to wishing for them, wishing for them can lead to lusting after them, lusting after them can lead to DOING them,... And then, you start back at square one.

But you cannot take away something in your life without putting something in. This is a BIG concept in the addiction community (I work in mental health and recovery). You can't just quit drugs/alcohol; you have to fill that void with something else. What better than to fill it with Christ-based things?

I play either Christian music or sermons on my car radio at all times. I (try) to read my bible daily. (Sometimes, I fail, but I'm trying.) I get my butt to church and actively seek new, Christian relationships (non-romantic) to fill the emptiness left by my last relationship. I serve others as I am able at church.

That's what works for me. And I have good days and bad days, just like any other sinner on the planet.
 
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GOD_IS_LOVE

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I think as you draw closer to God and grow in Him these things will fade away. God bless!
 
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Whyllow

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GOD_IS_LOVE said:
I think as you draw closer to God and grow in Him these things will fade away. God bless!
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They do fade away. It will take a long time, but they do.
 
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thimsrebma

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Brandon777 said:
Unfortunately, in a couple instances I find myself telling stories of my past in a positive light. And I know it's not coming from a Christ following perspective. I've been saved my whole life and I'm not sure how good of a person I am. I'm trying to figure myself out and figure out how to have the correct attitude to grow in holiness. If I am so passionate to know and love God yet I'm also passionate about speaking and thinking of sinful things like fornication with my ex-girl friend, then who am I? I want to know if I'm blameless. Living above reproach. Because just by looking at my life someone would probably say that I'm below average on the holiness scale, but I suppose they would also be confused at how much I genuinely and honestly desire God. I desire Him aboundingly, desiring Him for who He is rather than just what He can give.

The problem is that sometimes I think about the inappropriate things we did as something to be proud of/brag about or have a fondness of. And I know that this is my flesh and my bipolar illness that does this to me.
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I must first point out that NO ONE HAS BEEN SAVED THEIR WHOLE LIFE. Its just not possible. Maybe that is the problem with the Holiness factor. You think you are saved but you may not be.

You have to repent, turn away from sin. You hvae to ask God for forgiveness of all your sins and t doing them to the best of your ability.

Many people think just because they grew up in church that they know God but then they find themselves, like you, lacking "holiness" not doing the right things.

You have to be willing to put those things away.

I am in no way claiming to be above sin. Cause just like everyone else, I was created in His image but born into sin, carnal by nature, desiring after the flesh. But we can all change that. It starts with acknowledging that you are a sinner and you need to change your life.
 
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Brandon777

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I know it's hard to leave that old stuff behind, especially when they seemed like such fun, normal, good things. But trust me, thinking of them fondly can lead to wishing for them, wishing for them can lead to lusting after them
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Actually I was a Christian at the time, so it's not really old, and it wasn't normal or good what I did. It was something that I'd probably get kicked off for saying on this site. And it's not that I think of it fondly so much as being proud of it.
This is a BIG concept in the addiction community
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I'm not addicted to being proud of things in my past...

thimsrebma: I'm a Christian, since I was three. I believe that the age of accountability is a little after that. So I don't think I would've gone to hell at any point in my life.
 
specialtogod

specialtogod

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only one i went to a Halloween party when my mom told me not to and saw many different lookings boys there it was amazing and so may people were nice to me i really enjoyed it
 
specialtogod

specialtogod

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i have done things in the spiritual world i did not know was bad then i found out they were bad so wont do them anymore
 
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NewWine

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I am "proud" of every unholy thing I've ever done. I don't brag about them, but they helped make me into the person I am today, and had I not experienced these things, I might be different. I kinda like the way I am now, so I think I'll keep it :p
 
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