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May 4, 2009
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Seriously, I was picked on during elementry, high school, even a little now at college, some workers at work, and even some managers at work.Where ever I go there are always people that don't me.
Even with in my own group of friends, I'm not sure how they actually care about me...
Even in chat rooms and message boards, I'm always the people don't like.

Even worse girls don't like me or even pay any attention to me...
 
Mar 26, 2009
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Dude, from your discription that you posted on the "Singles" forum you sound exactly like me (almost). In my book, your cool.
 
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missy2shoes

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Ya know...one day you'll come back here when you've been married for 20 years.....have 6 kids and smile at the many posts you wrote over never having a gf etc.....:).......vanity vanity all is vanity saith the preacher......;)
 

cate

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Seriously, I was picked on during elementry, high school, even a little now at college, some workers at work, and even some managers at work.Where ever I go there are always people that don't me.
Even with in my own group of friends, I'm not sure how they actually care about me...
Even in chat rooms and message boards, I'm always the people don't like.

Even worse girls don't like me or even pay any attention to me...
hi why dont start by appreciating your self and loving your self it works.you not entitled to peoples opinion but Gods opinion.you are special and a person of infinate worth be proud of your self and i pray God connect you to people who celebrate you and love you for who you are.wish luck.
 
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thefightinglamb

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I would give the opposite advice as Cate...

Stop wanting people to like you...Focus on wanting Jesus to be pleased with you...and ask why don't people love Jesus? That is much more profound, He died for his love for them--and they still don't like him...You have not done this for anyone to the extant that Jesus did...
So, focus on Jesus and who cares what everyone else thinks...and if they persecuted Jesus and you reflect him they WILL persecute you as well...the good Word says this...
But then again, I don't want you to be paranoid and think you are an angel and everyone else is persecuting you just because you're holy...maybe you have the log still in your eye, maybe there are really good reasons why people don't like you...I don't know...pray about it...and if the Lord convicts you, change...

God bless--I really hope this helps
and may the Lord be with you always
tony
 
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Child

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I like you.
I'm in the chatroom a lot and I see ya and I think you're pretty ballin'.
 
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Pineapple

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If you don't see any redeeming features within yourself, why should any other human?

You've got to start appreciating and putting more confidence in yourself first, and then others will see what a quality guy you can really be.
 
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Trilogic

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Dude, are you the type of person i was? I was one of those guys who always tried to make people like me by changing who i was. If this is you, then they'll never like you, cause, like me, theyll always know you are a fake. Just be yourself. The entire world will never like you. Even Jesus and had a few good firends. When you become yourself, those meant to be your friends in the life will just naturally gravitate to you. God bless
 
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rjb1116

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remember, Jesus was hated and betrayed first by one of His best friends, Judas. So when you are rejected, its not you they reject, but Christ that lives in you...
 
Apr 24, 2009
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Dude posting on message boards about how you're a depressed person who is not like by anyone and who cannot find a girlfriend isn't going to get you anywhere. People may read your posts and comment on them but they have no real idea of who you are and could possibly care less. If you want to change your life, you also gotta work on it. Make plans! Be realistic.
Can't find a girlfriend? Well, if you never talk to girls you're never gonna find one. Dont' expect God to send you this beautifully formed, attractive girl form heaven just because you're a christian. Organize a plan, pick a girl you like, consider her pros and cons, is she an spiritua person? Can you have a cup of cofee together while holding a meaninful conversation? if she too look looking for you? too short, too tall, too fat,too matelialistic, you know what I mean? Be smart. Think of an ocasion when you're gonna have the time and the space to approach her and simply be yourself with a smile.
Can't get real friends? Then look for people who are compatible to you, being a Christian isn't enough, we also have our own personalities. If you're a reader, go to the library, of you like sports, join a team, if you like missions, join a mission.
Be optimistic, keep your head up, risk yourself even when the nerves are about to burst your belly. God did not give his children an spirit of cowardness! Show it!
 
May 4, 2009
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Dude, are you the type of person i was? I was one of those guys who always tried to make people like me by changing who i was. If this is you, then they'll never like you, cause, like me, theyll always know you are a fake. Just be yourself. The entire world will never like you. Even Jesus and had a few good firends. When you become yourself, those meant to be your friends in the life will just naturally gravitate to you. God bless
I'm not changing for anyone, the only changes I'm making are to help myself out. When I say changes I mean I'm trying to make myself less of a shy person and stuff like that.
 
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ForeverYours

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Sometimes I feel like this too, but you know what, you can't do that. Don't throw a pity party for yourself cause it ain't gonna get you anywhere. You need to be confident in yourself and don't come across desperate to other people. If they don't like you for no reason, then that's their fault and their loss. It may seem bad right now, like no one will ever like you and you'll never have a GF, but everything happens in God's time. Be patient and trust Him, that's what He wants.
 

J0Y

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Reading between the lines I wonder if the real issue here is not whether people like you or not but if you like yourself. We can project our own self image onto others subconsciously and if our own self esteem isnt that hot then this can affect how we interact with others. Im sorry that you've had such a hard time, I can sooo relate to that as I was massively picked on and beaten up at school too. Even after I left school I was the victim of work place bullying. One of the most important things I did was to spend time getting to know what God thinks of me, memorising scripture which affirmed me and taking hold of my self talk. What is running through your head right now? Do you feel that you are a worthless waste of space, do you think that no matter how hard you try you will always be rejected? Take heart my brother, I have been there, these lies are negative self talk which is the root that needs to be killed and the only way I know is with replacing the negative with the TRUTH. For example: Do I feel the sting of rejection and am I pondering it and letting it drag me down? As soon as that thought pops into your head REPLACE it with the truth that God loves you and will never forsake you. Do you find that you are constantly beating yourself up for not being as cool as others? REPLACE it with I am a unique individual loved and created by God.

These may sound reaaaaally cheesy and stupid, but with repetition, they begin to work on your mind. I know, I am a testament to that!!
I used to be paranoid to go out with a group of friends, I was always worried that I would be the one left out and as soon as they would all start talking and I wasnt part of the conversation I would think to myself 'they dont really like me, I may as well not be here, man, why did I come' and so on. The one TRUTH which a counsellor gave me that helped with those situations is this: I am accepted unless someone says otherwise. So what if the conversation is happening around you - sit and listen and contribute where you can.

Building your own self esteem and being able to believe and I mean REALLY believe in your heart that God made you, he loves you, he doesnt make junk and he will restore you will be the most freeing experience ever. The Devil will always ALWAYS try to use rejection against you because that is where you are susceptable, so pray and ask God to protect you and give you the strength. Also pray he will alert you to the lies you believe about yourself!

I encourage you to seek out a Christian Counsellor so you can talk through the issues of the past and look at ways you can tackle this. It sure helped me!! Finally - "the theif's (devils) purpose is to steal kill and destroy. My purpose (Jesus) is to give LIFE in all its FULNESS." John 10:10.
Be encouraged, if I can see some freedom in this, SO CAN YOU!!
Be strong in the Lord and trust in his power. Blessings to you!
 
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brigetteburk

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- And ye shall be hated of all men for my name's sake: but he that endureth to the end shall be saved. Matt 10:22(KJV)
- Marvel not, my brethren, if the world hate you. 1 John 3:13(KJV)
- He that heareth you heareth me; and he that despiseth you despiseth me; and he that despiseth me despiseth him that sent me. Luke 10:16(KJV)
It may not be that people hate or dislike you, but more what you believe in and stand for. It's happend to me a few times. Hope things work out for you and serve the the Lord with gladness!!!
 
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Kite

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Like thefightinglamb says, don't think about how people view you, but how God sees you. I'm not picked on, but sometimes I feel like I'm ignored. It gets kinda hard at some points, but then I remember that I have God. ^^ And as for the issue for people seeming to always pick on you...maybe God is testing you or something, I don't know. That's just my mindset though.

With friends, (don't answer this) but (not putting you down or whoever in any way) but are they Christian? (Oh, and even if you don't feel like they care about you, that might not necessarily be true.)

Hahha...well, if God wants you to meet someone, I'm sure He'll send someone to you (maybe you just haven't met her yet.)

Anywhoos, just keep praying, keep you trust in God, no matter how hard it is, and don't give up! <><

"The LORD Himself goes before you and will be with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged." Deuter. 31:8 (NIV)
 
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Dragoon9

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I'd echo thefightinglamb's advice, but I'd also add; stop worrying about how others love you, and consider how you can better serve and love others.

Most people feel rejected and alone, at least at some point in their life. Often it's because we're so focussed on our own loneliness that we don't see how others are hurting too. A good book related to the topic is '5 Languages of Love'. I'd also recommend doing something like a Myers-Briggs type personality profiler to help you both understand yourself and give a lens on understanding others.

Lastly, I'd say that just being rejected does not mean you are walking a Godly life. Many 'sinners' are rejected as well.

If you're going to be rejected, choose to be rejected for following Christ.
 
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da67thEpistle

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hi why dont start by appreciating your self and loving your self it works.you not entitled to peoples opinion but Gods opinion.you are special and a person of infinate worth be proud of your self and i pray God connect you to people who celebrate you and love you for who you are.wish luck.
Exactly. We're here to please God not man.
 
Jun 7, 2009
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The longer you live, the more you will understand that is more like a game, than anything else when it comes to this topic...

You will be amazed...