Sex and marriage

  • Christian Chat is a moderated online Christian community allowing Christians around the world to fellowship with each other in real time chat via webcam, voice, and text, with the Christian Chat app. You can also start or participate in a Bible-based discussion here in the Christian Chat Forums, where members can also share with each other their own videos, pictures, or favorite Christian music.

    If you are a Christian and need encouragement and fellowship, we're here for you! If you are not a Christian but interested in knowing more about Jesus our Lord, you're also welcome! Want to know what the Bible says, and how you can apply it to your life? Join us!

    To make new Christian friends now around the world, click here to join Christian Chat.
M

maddy

Guest
#1
#1
God invented sex but he also gave us boundaries that should be keept in those boundaries or it could becomes deadly and destructive. In some cases it can become like a drug and get addictive. It starts slowly it can destroy your mind, family, marriage, your future no one just wakes up and is addicted to porn, necrophilia, and other sick things out there. God created sex for marriage between a man and a woman only anything else is a sin and it's called fornication. Sex outside marriage can effect you! It breaks your heart ,effects you soul, unwanted pregnancies, sexual transmitted diseases and so forth. You don't have to believe the lies the culture tells you. As Christian we should be looking at what God's word says, not what the media and shows tell you. Parents should be honest with there kids not just tell them to remain virgins and that is all the education they get. I'm not preaching ignorance but truth. Tell them why they should not have sex ,teach them why it's wrong, and what the bible says. Have them ask questions so that they are not left curious about the facts of sexual intercourse. God says sex is good in marriage and wrong outside of marriage. All sin is pleasurable for a season then the wages sin come.

But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passions.1 Corinthians 7:9
 
M

maddy

Guest
#2
#2
Hmmm christian young adults no comments? Any opinions?
 
Christianrkchk89

Christianrkchk89

Senior Member
#3
Aug 27, 2005
1,282
12
38
34
#3
According to the other ridiculous posts and replies I've seen in this area of the forum.. If you were to actually get a reply.. It would go like this:

Marriage is all legalized these days.. They didn't have marriage licenses and stuff back in the day.. So who knows exactly what they mean by marriage. And it's nobody's business who I'm sleeping with and why... It doesn't hurt anybody and I use condoms so I'm safe... Blah blah blah. I won't get pregnant 'cause I'm invincible. Oh! And if I do .. Abortion isn't a sin so I'll just go have one of those without a second thought. Also, if you're curious I actually smoke marijuana and it makes me close to God right b4 I fornicate. Life is good.. And I'm living to make myself happy and enjoy smearing the idea of Christianity while I'm at it. :)


HOWEVER! I don't believe any of that that I just typed. I agree with you whole-heartedly :) I definitely stayed abstinent :) saving that for my husband and not ever having to worry about pregnancy b4 marriage, stds, emotional attachment, etc was not a bad thing either! :)
 
M

maddy

Guest
#4
#4
Christianrkchk89 said:
According to the other ridiculous posts and replies I've seen in this area of the forum.. If you were to actually get a reply.. It would go like this:

Marriage is all legalized these days.. They didn't have marriage licenses and stuff back in the day.. So who knows exactly what they mean by marriage. And it's nobody's business who I'm sleeping with and why... It doesn't hurt anybody and I use condoms so I'm safe... Blah blah blah. I won't get pregnant 'cause I'm invincible. Oh! And if I do .. Abortion isn't a sin so I'll just go have one of those without a second thought. Also, if you're curious I actually smoke marijuana and it makes me close to God right b4 I fornicate. Life is good.. And I'm living to make myself happy and enjoy smearing the idea of Christianity while I'm at it. :)


HOWEVER! I don't believe any of that that I just typed. I agree with you whole-heartedly :) I definitely stayed abstinent :) saving that for my husband and not ever having to worry about pregnancy b4 marriage, stds, emotional attachment, etc was not a bad thing either! :)
Click to expand...
It's nice to know about people who did stay abstinent who waited until they got married :) we need to hear more testimonies. Also those who gave into temptation and now are waiting, and those who wish they had.
I think the church especially youth leader should be teaching what the bible says about this things as well as parents of course.
 
leelee

leelee

Senior Member
#5
Sep 5, 2011
1,258
8
38
34
#5
Dear me, I hope I have emotional attachment before I get married. However on this topic....I sometimes worry that young christians (and older ones) rush into marriage for sex. I dont think thats healthy. I beleive sex outwith a loving relationship is wrong.
And as for abortion...I would never personally have one but I am pro choice. I think that 24 weeks is too high and I also think that if a baby is truely unwanted it is better to return it to Gods hands than to condem it to a life where it is undervalued by its family.
 
B

Brandon777

Guest
#6
#6
If you want to know about sex and marriage read 1 Corinthians chapter 7. "it is good for a man not to touch a woman but because of sexual immorality God allows marriage for sexual release" that's what the bible says roughly. read it. The whole chapter is great! Very very telling. So is rushing to get married for sex wrong? yes and no. From the beginning yes, but God allows it seeing our fallen state taking mercy on us.
 
M

maddy

Guest
#7
#7
leelee said:
Dear me, I hope I have emotional attachment before I get married. However on this topic....I sometimes worry that young christians (and older ones) rush into marriage for sex. I dont think thats healthy. I beleive sex outwith a loving relationship is wrong.
And as for abortion...I would never personally have one but I am pro choice. I think that 24 weeks is too high and I also think that if a baby is truely unwanted it is better to return it to Gods hands than to condem it to a life where it is undervalued by its family.
Click to expand...
Marriage is a very serious thing not to be done just because you want to have sex.
If a baby is unwanted because someone is not ready, then they should not take in the responsibility of having sex, if their not ready for the responsibility and cosequences that come with it. Abortion is wrong, and so is sex outside of marriage. God knows what is best and why certain things are wrong.
 
lil_christian

lil_christian

Senior Member
#8
Mar 14, 2010
7,489
73
48
27
#8
leelee said:
Dear me, I hope I have emotional attachment before I get married. However on this topic....I sometimes worry that young christians (and older ones) rush into marriage for sex. I dont think thats healthy. I beleive sex outwith a loving relationship is wrong.
And as for abortion...I would never personally have one but I am pro choice. I think that 24 weeks is too high and I also think that if a baby is truely unwanted it is better to return it to Gods hands than to condem it to a life where it is undervalued by its family.
Click to expand...
They could always just put the baby up for adoption after it was born...
 
lil_christian

lil_christian

Senior Member
#9
Mar 14, 2010
7,489
73
48
27
#9
Btw, Maddy...I see you're new here! Welcome to Christian Chat!!!! :D:D
 
P

Peepers

Guest
#10
#10
I agree with you wholeheartedly Maddy, unfortunately I did not wait and fornicated outside of marriage, got married, pregnant, husband left, and still I sinned with others. It took alot of wallowing in my sin for God to show me who I really am.....a sinner. I repented and put my faith in Jesus and have been saved for twelve years and single the entire time. I am now raising my daughter from my first marriage and am now living out my single-hood as I should have when I was younger. God may or may not bless me with another husband, but I'm willing to forgo physical pleasure if it means living rightly before God. Now if only I could be as adamant in other areas...
 
M

maddy

Guest
#11
#11
Peepers said:
I agree with you wholeheartedly Maddy, unfortunately I did not wait and fornicated outside of marriage, got married, pregnant, husband left, and still I sinned with others. It took alot of wallowing in my sin for God to show me who I really am.....a sinner. I repented and put my faith in Jesus and have been saved for twelve years and single the entire time. I am now raising my daughter from my first marriage and am now living out my single-hood as I should have when I was younger. God may or may not bless me with another husband, but I'm willing to forgo physical pleasure if it means living rightly before God. Now if only I could be as adamant in other areas...
Click to expand...
I am sure if you do wish to marry again God will help you.God is awesome he forgives us and sees our new heart and forgets our past and gives us a better future.
 
H

HollyC

Guest
#13
#13
It is seriously sad how deluded marriage has become for some people. I believe that if people choose to marry in a civil avenue, they can do as they please. But if you are marrying under God in some place of worship than you should be marrying for the right reasons. Some people marry because all their friends are getting married and they feel left out. Some people marry so they have an excuse to throw a HUGE and expensive party. As well of course, some young christians marry so they can have sex as much as they choose without having any guilt. In my way of thinking, you can make almost any marriage work bar a few situations regarding abuse and what not. But if a young person marries just so they can have sex, they should be prepared to be with that person for the rest of their lives and eternity. Sex leads to children and responsibilities. How much freedom is a person willing to give up so they can have sex?
 
M

maddy

Guest
#14
#14
HollyC said:
It is seriously sad how deluded marriage has become for some people. I believe that if people choose to marry in a civil avenue, they can do as they please. But if you are marrying under God in some place of worship than you should be marrying for the right reasons. Some people marry because all their friends are getting married and they feel left out. Some people marry so they have an excuse to throw a HUGE and expensive party. As well of course, some young christians marry so they can have sex as much as they choose without having any guilt. In my way of thinking, you can make almost any marriage work bar a few situations regarding abuse and what not. But if a young person marries just so they can have sex, they should be prepared to be with that person for the rest of their lives and eternity. Sex leads to children and responsibilities. How much freedom is a person willing to give up so they can have sex?
Click to expand...

It is sad too how many divorces they are. It's like if you don't make me happy anymore I am living you and finding someone that will. A lot of people don't want to work on it. Marriage takes work from both sides and when someone is neglecting their part it collapses. Lust is also a major thing that is wrecking marriages. We are guilty of lust we are human. What you have to do is be honest with yourself and God so that you may not fall into temptation. You have to renew your mind.
Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:2
How do we do that? By reading God's word and having a close relashinship with him.
 
B

Brandon777

Guest
#15
#15
Did you read 1 Cor. 7? Because it would end a lot of questions if you did. Just sayin ;) By the way, you look fantastic! Sometimes I just have to sit back and thank God for creating women. wowza!
 
U

Ugly

Guest
#16
#16
maddy said:
It is sad too how many divorces they are. It's like if you don't make me happy anymore I am living you and finding someone that will. A lot of people don't want to work on it. Marriage takes work from both sides and when someone is neglecting their part it collapses. /quote]
Well, among Christians even, much of that stems from people approaching marriage as something they can get something out of, not something they can put into. They think they can get sex, love, closeness, or maybe even a cook and maid.. a therapist.. or any other myriad of personal expectations. And that's how they approach being married, 'you're here to make me happy'. Then two people marry looking at the other to make them happy and conflict.
Also, still even among Christians is a heightened sense of romanticism. Like 'soul mates'. That marriage is supposed to be as simple as meeting that 'one person made for me (again, all about 'me') and we just fall in love and never have to try. Once they realize their marriage is not that easy and requires work, they assume they aren't with their 'soul mate' because the marriage isn't some magical thing thats made them perpetually happy with no effort.
Click to expand...
 
leelee

leelee

Senior Member
#17
Sep 5, 2011
1,258
8
38
34
#17
maddy said:
Marriage is a very serious thing not to be done just because you want to have sex.
If a baby is unwanted because someone is not ready, then they should not take in the responsibility of having sex, if their not ready for the responsibility and cosequences that come with it. Abortion is wrong, and so is sex outside of marriage. God knows what is best and why certain things are wrong.
Click to expand...
so in the case of rape women should be forced to keep a baby that not only did they not want but was forced upon them while they were abused. things are not always black and white. shades of grey are common.
 
P

Peepers

Guest
#18
#18
According to God's word things are black and white, there's truth or lies, right or wrong. Just because the circumstances that created that child are horrible does not mean that it is ok to break God's law. Does it make it easy? No, but God can help us overcome anything. As an aside, it's only about 1% of abortions that are attributed to rape or incest, that means 99% of abortions are just "easy" fixes for our easy lives.
 
Christianrkchk89

Christianrkchk89

Senior Member
#19
Aug 27, 2005
1,282
12
38
34
#19
Peepers said:
According to God's word things are black and white, there's truth or lies, right or wrong. Just because the circumstances that created that child are horrible does not mean that it is ok to break God's law. Does it make it easy? No, but God can help us overcome anything. As an aside, it's only about 1% of abortions that are attributed to rape or incest, that means 99% of abortions are just "easy" fixes for our easy lives.
Click to expand...
So glad someone else know about the 1% thing!

And just 'cause they were raped doesn't mean they have to kill the baby! It shouldn't be the child they are mad at anyway.. Adoption!
 
leelee

leelee

Senior Member
#20
Sep 5, 2011
1,258
8
38
34
#20
I don't agree. I think a woman should have the right to get rid of part of the person who raped her. Although generally I think the morning after pill is better. I also have another scenario. My mother had to undergo surgery that removed the lining of her womb. It is unlikely that she will fall pregnant as it was removed however there is still a chance. If she were to continue with a pregnancy it would kill her. Should she not be allowed an abortion?
 
You must log in or register to reply here.