Dealing with friends? :(

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guilbautedsookie

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My friends and I have been together for four years, and we're going strong. We had this reunion last Sunday and well, all of us are already working so, we already have different struggles and experiences now. I'm proud to be a Christian, proud to have returned to God after all these years. But why is it I feel like to my friends, it's the opposite. One friend of mine keeps calling me "pastor", the other keeps saying "hush (insert objectionable content) is not allowed in this house" and the one that hurt the most is that my best friend's boyfriend (dunno if he really is LOL) reacted to my commitment to abstain from alcohol by saying "You wouldn't last a year." And I found out my best friend continues to lie to her mom and I had to lie to her just to save her :'(

How should I deal with this? I love my friends but I dunno why they feel far or different now? :'( I enjoy being with my small group and my church friends. How do I deal with this? :')
 
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Yup. That happens. The easiest way to handle this is to patiently, in love, demonstrate the love Jesus has taught you. The give your friends when they need something, to help them when they need help. You don't have to lie, you can say nothing.

This sounds like the free slave story again. Jesus makes us free, but some of our old fellow slaves want to drag us back into slavery.

This separation feels terrible, you have to forsake many things to follow Jesus wholly. But this following is a new way of life, one that looks like Jesus's life.

Yes, a friend who does not tell another friend the truth hates them. If you see your friend being destroyed you can warn them, and pray for understanding on how to deal with these things.

Ask Jesus to help you. May Jesus bless you.
 
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guilbautedsookie

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Ramon said:
Yup. That happens. The easiest way to handle this is to patiently, in love, demonstrate the love Jesus has taught you. The give your friends when they need something, to help them when they need help. You don't have to lie, you can say nothing.

This sounds like the free slave story again. Jesus makes us free, but some of our old fellow slaves want to drag us back into slavery.

This separation feels terrible, you have to forsake many things to follow Jesus wholly. But this following is a new way of life, one that looks like Jesus's life.

Yes, a friend who does not tell another friend the truth hates them. If you see your friend being destroyed you can warn them, and pray for understanding on how to deal with these things.

Ask Jesus to help you. May Jesus bless you.
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Hi. Yes so true... that is why sometimes I am always excited every weekend because I'm with my spiritual group. I never feel like "goody-too-shoes" with them and we always talk about how the week went by and how God has blessed us.

That friend of mine... we've been together through thick and thin and yes, I wish I could share Jesus with her the same way we "shared" boys before (don't worry we don't share them anymore cause I've repented that part of the past). Also to her guy. I prayed to God and said that I wouldn't take that as an insult but a challenge and a reminder of what I should never go back to :)

Thank you so much Ramon :)
 
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Have you told them that it hurts your feelings? It seems to me that true friends would be happy you had something in your life that truely makes you happy. I think the easiest way to deal with this is simply to say..."Guys, when you say these things it hurts my feelings. I have chosen to be with God and it makes my life better. Please be happy for me."
 
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guilbautedsookie

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Hi leelee... Sadly no I wasn't able to tell them :'(. But I know some of my friends do understand cause I'm not the only Christian in the group. Maybe it's adjustment stage for them LOL.
 
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Why can you not tell them? Many of my friends are non-christian and tbh when I came back to church and to Jesus I was in a very dark unhappy place. Most of my friends were so happy for me because my sadness had changed the person I was. Through God and the people I am lucky enough to go to church with I am me again. My friends and even people I didn't know very well were simply happy to see that I was happy again and I honestly think they would have been equally happy if I had announced that I was going to turn into a hermit and live up a mountain in Budapest!
I hope you get this sorted. And I do believe that asking them to accept you is the way to go. If they wont you have do decide if you want them in your life. xx
 
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guilbautedsookie

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Hi leelee :D Thanks for that advice :D
 
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Did it work?
 
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guilbautedsookie

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I decide to continue being their friends, but I'll try to mingle more with my spiritual family-- i.e., my friends from Church and my small group. Maybe that friend of mine has really not yet grasped God's love for us. When the need comes to show him Christ, I'll be there :)
 
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guilbautedsookie said:
I decide to continue being their friends, but I'll try to mingle more with my spiritual family-- i.e., my friends from Church and my small group. Maybe that friend of mine has really not yet grasped God's love for us. When the need comes to show him Christ, I'll be there :)
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I think that is a good decision, you should always hope they will be saved but it will be hard for you to be friends if they don't accept you. I hope they will and I hope that you will have the opportunity to ask them to. xx
 
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guilbautedsookie

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@leelee... I used to ask for advice from them... but now what I want is a Christian advice not just any advice LOL. Thank you leelee and rAMON :)
 
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no bother at all, i hope you get it all worked out. I still have friends both christian and non-christian and as long as they love me for me then I love them back. x
 
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guilbautedsookie

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@leelee... Correct :D
 
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