How to stop yourself from pleasuring when the urge arises?

[violetsun]

I know it's tempting but it's also a sin. Tips?

[masterofthefret]

Get married first -- Then you won't need to!

[BobPage]

Originally Posted by masterofthefret

Get married first -- Then you won't need to!

You make it sound like she should get marry just to get rid of the urge. I think it's a great idea for someone in her position but she may not like it.

[rus_lady]

give a try and u will see

Originally Posted by BobPage

You make it sound like she should get marry just to get rid of the urge. I think it's a great idea for someone in her position but she may not like it.

[BobPage]

Originally Posted by rus_lady

give a try and u will see

I'll be glad to try if you are offering.

[astro]

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[Siberian_Khatru]

Hijacked is more like it.

violetsun, I am just as flawed as you, therefore I have no "tips"; other than do your best and let God take care of the rest.

[Live_Love_Believe]

Give God the power over it, let him rule it. Im struggling what my own "guilty pleasure" problem, its extremely hard to resist.

I don't really know what to tell you. Seems like all these males are trying to help with a woman's problem. Not trying to sound discouraging or anything. But, I think you should seek advice from another Christ loving woman for this type of thing.

[kewl42]

do it, then repent.

[SpaceCowboy]

Originally Posted by kewl42

do it, then repent.

Repent means TURN AWAY from it. I think it's disgusting to just give in to things you know are wrong and just use confessing and repentance as a way to cover your guilt. It means NOTHING to God if you keep doing it. I think it's pathetic when Christians know somethings wrong and just keep doing it while whining 'oooh its too hard, idk what to do.' Yes you do. Grow a backbone. There's a difference between having the problem and actively searching for advice and being serious about repenting like I believe the OP is, and just being a spiritual coward.
/rant

Everyone has a struggle with this, but the thing is just not doing it. When the urge comes up think of something else. Go do something else. You don't HAVE to do it. Your in control of your actions. It's also important to make sure not to make provision for the flesh like the word says. If certain T.V. shows tempt you, books, situations in your life etc. Then cut them out. It's called spiritual war for a reason. Your gonna have to have some self-control through Gods grace so pray and fight the war! Don't be quick to tap out when temptation comes. The more you fight the urge and not give in the easier and easier it'll be to not even care about fulfilling the lust of your flesh.

[jimmydiggs]

Originally Posted by kewl42

do it, then repent.

[Khorib2]

I fail to see what the issue is... Are we talking about masturbation? Where in the bible does it say it's wrong to orgasm by yourself?

[SpaceCowboy]

Originally Posted by Khorib2

I fail to see what the issue is... Are we talking about masturbation? Where in the bible does it say it's wrong to orgasm by yourself?

It doesn't but lusting is a sin. Show me someone who can masturbate without lusting and i'll show you a person with a strange obesession with tractors.

[Jordache]

Well, I would have two pieces of advice, tips if you will. 1) Turn from it at the onset. Distract yourself. Call a friend--not a friend of the opposite sex that you are attracted to, or not even one that you will discuss the temptation at hand with (though that's also a suggestion). However, just turning from it and chatting with someone about the weather will help. 2) Think about it logically. Remember what it feels like when you do screw up. Remember the guilt. Remember that it doesn't do what you think it will.
We are not tempted by anything except for what is common to man (or woman). You aren't alone. Confess it to a trusted friend or mentor. Confession allows truth to come in.

[Khorib2]

Originally Posted by SpaceCowboy

It doesn't but lusting is a sin. Show me someone who can masturbate without lusting and i'll show you a person with a strange obesession with tractors.

You don't need to be thinking of someone to masturbate, also lusting in general is not shown to be a sin. It is only a sin if it's in extreme excess or if you are married and you are lusting for someone that isn't your spouse.

[SpaceCowboy]

Originally Posted by Khorib2

You don't need to be thinking of someone to masturbate, also lusting in general is not shown to be a sin. It is only a sin if it's in extreme excess or if you are married and you are lusting for someone that isn't your spouse.

Lusting in general is a sin yes absolutely no question about it. Only lust that's acceptable is lusting after your wife/husband.

Your fooling yourself if you think otherwise.

[Khorib2]

Originally Posted by SpaceCowboy

Lusting in general is a sin yes absolutely no question about it. Only lust that's acceptable is lusting after your wife/husband.

Your fooling yourself if you think otherwise.

Please prove that lusting for a significant other is a sin.

[SpaceCowboy]

Originally Posted by Khorib2

Please prove that lusting for a significant other is a sin.

I said that lusting for your wife if your a man, husband if your a women, is not a sin.
All other lust is.

[Khorib2]

Originally Posted by SpaceCowboy

I said that lusting for your wife if your a man, husband if your a women, is not a sin.
All other lust is.

I know, I'm asking you to prove it. I said "significant other" as in boyfriend or girlfriend, not spouse. Prove that simple lust is a sin, and then prove that it's only ok to lust after your spouse.