Broken Heart :'(

[DIYhappiness]

Hey everyone. My heart is broken, I still love him. I love someone who really doesn't deserve it. And I need help, I'm desperatly in need of support right now. Sure I have my friends and family but yea, it's not the same since they know me very well. I really need to be happy right now but I can't, I have no motivation for anything, I hit the rock bottom. Help :'(

 

[DIYhappiness]

I keep going back to him, leaving, going back. He's no good for me and I know it. But he always ends up apologizing and stuff, but 3 or 4 days later it all starts over. I need to get rid of him for good. But how?? I feel like I lost a part of me, I cry all the time, it's so hard

 

[thereddisciple]

Hmmmm....It is a tough spot you are in truely! You have to end it. Once and for all. Truely give your pain and broken heart to Jesus!!!...Stay in the word daily ask Him for guidance(pray,pray.pray) Ask Him to repair your heart,and give you strength everyday!!!...But since you are weak,with this guy,you need to quit talking to him all together,until Jesus mends your broken heart!!!!!....Prayer and meditateing on God's word,reading it daily,asking for wisdom,strength,and guidance!!!!!(for each and everyday until,you are healed) Rest in God's goodness and strength and not your own,He can and will help you get through anything!!! You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. Seek ye first the kingdom of God and all these things shall be added unto you. Fret not on the things of the morrow for the things of the morrow will take care of themselves. But by prayer and supplication,with thanksgiving let your desires be made known to God.

 

[DIYhappiness]

Thanks, more answers please??

 

[Nautilus]

I wont lie and say it gets better but it certainly gets easier. You may always have a small spot for him but eventually you move on. You have a whole life of things in front of you, don't waste it on something you already left behind.

 

[Searching4Truth]

God is your answer. Lock yourself in your room if you have too. Seek Him for comfort.

Joshua 9:1
Psalm 23:4
Psalm 27:1
Psalm 71:5
Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

I don't know what you want to hear. But there are times when we think God isn't enough for us. Which makes us worry more. You have to realize God is the only truth you need right now to help you heal.

 

[djness]

The sun broke through the clouds for me one day when the girl I loved said to me''You cannot be angry at me because you love me.''Her way of saying, "I get to keep treating you like crap cause I know you won't leave me". I'm glad she finally said that cause I was otherwise caught in an emotional bear trap there was no getting out of on my own.


Honestly, bible verses and stuff will help sure, but you probably ought to just go in the bathroom, splash some cold water on your face, maybe even slap yourself hard to get the adrenaline flowing, look yourself in the eyes and say''Have some self respect woman.''

 

[Searching4Truth]

The sun broke through the clouds for me one day when the girl I loved said to me''You cannot be angry at me because you love me.''Her way of saying, "I get to keep treating you like crap cause I know you won't leave me". I'm glad she finally said that cause I was otherwise caught in an emotional bear trap there was no getting out of on my own.


Honestly, bible verses and stuff will help sure, but you probably ought to just go in the bathroom, splash some cold water on your face, maybe even slap yourself hard to get the adrenaline flowing, look yourself in the eyes and say''Have some self respect woman.''

I like that.

 

[DIYhappiness]

Yea I know, kinda makes me wanna go splash some cold water in my face right now

 

[Ugly]

I keep going back to him, leaving, going back. He's no good for me and I know it. But he always ends up apologizing and stuff, but 3 or 4 days later it all starts over. I need to get rid of him for good. But how?? I feel like I lost a part of me, I cry all the time, it's so hard

This is an abuse cycle. While you may insist you would never allow yourself to be in an abusive situation, you are behaving in a manner identical to abuse victims. And he's showing abuser traits. Fake apologies to pacify you to come back to him, but never really changing. This increases the likelihood of this becoming an abusive relationship since you have already started the cycle. Think if this is what you want for yourself, if a victim is the kind of person you want to be.Is he worth you lowering yourself to that level?

 

[justinsxc]

I do agree with you... Support is huge in making strives to a complete heart. Humans aren't perfect and unfortunately we put our hope into people at times without guarding it from the world... From satan's deception and manipulation. I have been down this road before and took 3 years of depression until I saw the Truth that set me free by accepting and believing who Christ has said I am... My identity is in Christ and so can yours by casting all your worries, pain, shame, guilt and condemnation onto the Lord as you run to Him for your refuge and strength. Honestly, the most peace, joy and love I have is when I sit at Jesus's feet pouring my whole heart out to Him: praises and thanksgiving but also cries and pleades as I depend on His comfort of the Holy Spirit. I pray God hugs you with His presence and reveals wisdom and understanding in your situation... If u want to hear more, just let me know. God Bless, sister.

 

[answers]

First, I would like to say everyone deserves love, but that doesn't mean you have to marry this guy. Sometimes when we love someone and the holy spirit is telling you he's not "the one" we battle this, sorta like your situation. You don't have to stop loving him, you just have to stop the relationship from heading in whatever direction the holy spirit is telling you to not go.

Second, you are young and I know this is hard to process, but you should never have a boyfriend in this high of an altitude. Right now the only figure who should be higher than yourself is God himself. You are a daughter of our lord and a sister to the world, you owe it to God, yourself, and your world of siblings to listen to the lord, obey to his will, and walk the path he creates. What he has planned for you is unimaginable.

Third, God gave you this passionate love don't let a human destroy, alter, or damage Gods creation. You are a work of art, and God is your maker, he is going to paint what he wants, let him!

I wish you the best, take care!

 

[Godrocker15]

It's really hard...but it's possible to overcome.

Since I got out of high school 4 years ago I met this girl on xbox live. It's kind of funny how it work out, but I honestly fell in love with her voice. I soon started talking to her on phone until a couple of months I completely fell in love with her. She was the most beautiful girl I have ever met, and after many years of waiting I really thought she was the one. I was always told that long distance relationships never worked but I thought otherwise. I flew in for her birthday in January. It was really scary because that would be the first time we would see each other physically and boy how it can be different from just hearing each other voices. The only thing that was running in my mind is that it could go either good or bad. Thank god it went so well. She ran up to me and so did I. It felt so unreal to feel something like that. The connection. The chemistry. Anyways, I stayed there where she was in Florida for about 2 weeks and those weeks were life changing. I made a promise to her that I would make her final school year the best since most of her high school years sucked. I went to her prom, her graduation, and I believe overall I flew about 6-7 times. It was hard but I believe that when your in love anything is possible. To make the long story short, she cheated on me once with her ex and I forgave her for that. Then on October 21, 2010 would be our last day together. Those past couple of weeks were hell because she started going out a lot with friends and I just had a gut feeling something was going. That day she never called and got was my heart hurting. I got on my knees and started praying and asked God if this is mean to be then let it work, and if not...please let it end. And so that night it did. After a week on her facebook she was already with someone else...

I went through a whole process of recovering. My family and God were the ones that supported me the most. Then on April she contacted me again. She said that she missed me and it was a mistake. So I decided to give her another chance. I went and flew from Texas to Florida one last time and stayed there for a month. I found out that she actually slept with the guy she got with a couple of weeks before we broke up. I found out she started doing drugs and so forth. I absolutely loved her and regardless of all she did, I was still willing to love her even though she didn't deserve me. I didn't want her to suffer or go through anything that would hurt her. I knew that it wasn't work out but I made it last.

I was with her for 4 years and it's been a year since I've seen her. Up to this date I still think about her and I feel like my heart isn't going to be healed, but I'm so wrong. I know that God needed to break my heart before things would get so much worse. There are a lot of question that go through my head and ask myself everyday what I did wrong. Was it me that made this happened? But I know that when you love someone you'll love them no matter what their flaws are or what they do. Basically she didn't love me anymore. I have also realized that love is not something that you get by your partner. You get it by your family, friends, and most importantly God. Just hang in their and pray. God will always be there. Sorry this was so long, but maybe it can help you hang in their. I'm not completely over it, but I am stronger. It has made me get closer to God and that's what I'm trying to do at the moment. Keep yourself busy, and if you ever start to remember things distract yourself.

Put your trust in God right now. He will give you the guy that you deserve. Just be patient and be strong. You will get through this

 

[TheAristocat]

I keep going back to him, leaving, going back. He's no good for me and I know it. But he always ends up apologizing and stuff, but 3 or 4 days later it all starts over. I need to get rid of him for good. But how?? I feel like I lost a part of me, I cry all the time, it's so hard

Drop him. I had a gf who did the same thing. Those are the kind of people who would otherwise seem like good people except for the fact that they can't get the Golden Rule past their thick skulls. Ask yourself if you two would work out for the long term. Is he the kind of guy you want to be married to and deal with for the rest of your earthly life?

 

[Siberian_Khatru]

I love someone who really doesn't deserve it.(

I imagine God empathizes.

Typically, everyone does time in the gutter after a heart break. You can take what everyone says with a grain of salt, although you may find out that things said are often not nearly as comforting as someone simply being there.

Wisdom is not something you accrue simply with age; it's gained through what you choose to take away from your experiences. Should you remain in prayer, the Holy Spirit will convict you as well.

 

[Chinekwu]

Believe it or not,God has something and someone better in store for you. The Bible says that 'the latter shall be greater than the former'..it doesn't just apply to spiritual things!
When you get an understanding of how much Jesus loves you,you'll understand that He ALWAYS wants the best for you,for His daughter.. You've not hit rock bottom-that's what your physical senses are telling you now but by faith,you know that all things will work out for you bcos you love God and are called according to His purpose.
Maybe it's a learning process..so just trust God
You are priceless to Him and I'm sure God wants the best for you...Trust me,that guy isn't the best for you.
I think I understand a little cos I had to end my relationship some days ago cos of something similar and it was and is still difficult..but I have God..


THE JOY OF THE LORD IS YOUR STRENGTH...

 

[Perk]

Hey everyone. My heart is broken, I still love him. I love someone who really doesn't deserve it. And I need help, I'm desperatly in need of support right now. Sure I have my friends and family but yea, it's not the same since they know me very well. I really need to be happy right now but I can't, I have no motivation for anything, I hit the rock bottom. Help :'(

I keep going back to him, leaving, going back. He's no good for me and I know it. But he always ends up apologizing and stuff, but 3 or 4 days later it all starts over. I need to get rid of him for good. But how?? I feel like I lost a part of me, I cry all the time, it's so hard

DIYhappiness, I as a rule try to avoid threads like this, because I'm such a bad giver of advice in matters like this. But I have a couple things that may help.
1. Rely on Jesus. He is the man in your life that won't fair you that no matter how many times you try to flee from him, He will be the rock in your life that represents love, goodness, sacrifice, justice, hope, etc.
2. Find a sister in Christ that is older and can give you some practical and biblical advice on the matter.
3. Pray pray pray. God will make it clear what you should do.
4. Find a man that is representative of Jesus' love for the church. He won't need to apologize to you for not loving you, because he will. A godly man won't have the desire to push you away and play silly childish games with your love and respect.
5. Be patient and humble in respect to love.

 

[TomB_2012]

My girlfriend was exactly like this with her ex-boyfriend. With help from me and her mum, she ended it with him. He is still wanting her back, but we all said no. She does get stressed out and eventually upset when he repeatedly sends her text messages. Today her brother even got involved. But she is happier now.

He treated her like crap, I don't. She is worried about seeing him with a friend of his when me and her go out this Saturday. I've told her that if he starts saying stuff I will tell him to leave her alone and get lost. If he tries to start a fight with me, I'll finish it. Even if his friend joins in, I'll do what I can.

Try to move on. Find someone new. That's what she did. If he starts trying to sort it out, tell him to get lost. You'll feel better eventually.

With love. GBU.