Porn addiction

[RainMercyOnMe]

I know there are many of us older teens/ growing adults stuck in this rut. I realize porn is common among people, and these days it's becoming more and more normal to my dismay. I've been trying to recover, but every time I just seem to get back into it.

I loath and hate the word masturbation, and can't explain how much. It had been almost a year since I had been clean of it, and then I fell again. It just breaks me every time, because I want to be free, but I broke. My one year streak. And now for several days it's plagued me, and tripped me over and over again. I don't even have the words to explain what I feel. I have failed God again, and even though I realize we all fall, it seems like this is something I won't overcome.

I pray to God every day for strength, but I fell empty and hopeless. I don't even know what to say.

I'm sixteen and already addicted to online porn, how sick is that? I feel like such an asshole to God, every time. I always feel guilty about it, but even when Im asking for God to forgive me, it entices me, and I know I like it.

I don't know what to do. I just want it to go away. I want it to stop before I hurt myself. I can't take it anymore, it seems God doesn't want to help me stop. Please I need help.

 

[RainMercyOnMe]

It feels so good to have written it out publically, I don't care how stupid I sound... I just want to be free from These chains again, and get close to God again.

Please if anyone cares, pray for me, because I believe in its power. I've tried almost everything anyone has advised online, but it seems the devil is literally there to make sure I fail and fall. I want to be somone God can use for his glory, not somone the devil uses for laughing at.

 

[lookwhatthelordhasdone]

Well, I'm sure there are many Christians who battle with this problem also. Keep in mind that we all sin, and no sin is greater than another besides one. I'm not giving you an excuse to do this, but I'm just saying that you are human and you're going to slip-up and make mistakes. Not only with the problem you're having but other sins as well.
We're all tempted and sometimes were strong enough to resist, but other times we're not. Don't beat yourself up too badly over this. You are young and impulses, hormones, and all that other stuff are so hard to control at that age. Just try your best every day and don't get discouraged if you mess up. Look to God for strength. He's helping you, the more faith you put in him. The number one thing above all to keep in mind is that God forgives!

Don't let the devil enter your mind and tell you you're not good enough to serve God, because you are. God loves you even though we're all flawed and cloaked with sin. That's how Satan reels you away, it starts with just a speck of doubt, to make you feel like you'll never be good enough. Before you know it, that doubt consumes you and you're in much worse shape than you were before.

Rely on God. He loves you. Pray to Him for everything you need. He wants to help.

 

[jb]

A few points:

1) Your desire to look at porngraphy is NOT from the Devil, it is a problem with your flesh (i.e. 'works of the flesh'), resist and keep resisting temptation from the flesh. Gal 5v16-25

2) The Lord Jesus (and Paul) had the same temptations from the flesh and they beat it by prayer and fasting. Paul, when He wrote 1Corinthians in the Spring of 57 AD was probably around 55 years old and he still had to discipline his body so that he did not yield to its sinful desires. Psalm 69v10, 1Cor 9v24-27, Heb 2v17,18, 4v15

3) The Lord Jesus will NOT let you be tempted beyond what you can bare. 1Cor 10v13

4) Take care over what you look at not only on the TV, but your computer, don't go where you know or suspect dangerous temptation could arise from! Phil 4v8, 1John 2v16

5) What is your prayer life like, it is by seeking the Lord in prayer that we partake of His Presence, power, grace and blessing? Rom 5v20, 2Cor 12v9

6) The Lord's Atoning Blood is able and will cleanse you from ALL sin. 1John 1v7

7) So, you slipped up after a year, ok, ask the Lord to forgive you and cleanse you by His blood; once you have done that, purpose in your heart and mind to go forward and not look back. Once your sins are under His blood they are forgiven and forgotten by Him, so if He has forgotten them, then so should YOU, do NOT dwell on the past. Dan 1v8, Heb 8v12.

8) Also fill your mind and spirit with the Scriptures. 1John 2v12-14.

Yahweh Shalom...

 

[Hava91]

I will pray for you <3 i know it hurts to fall, especially when we are so determined to succeed, and we have for so long. pray pray and pray. even if it feels like it isnt helping. feelings are deceptive. when you feel the temptation, pray, and force yourself to turn away from whatever is tempting you - tv computer mags etc, and keep yourself busy. do something else with your hands, go for a run and talk to God in your head while you do. do NOT dwell of previous faailures. ask for his help and strength, believe he will grant you what you have asked, and claim the promise he has given you that he will not tempt you beyond what you can bear. (the abc's of prayer - ask, believe, claim) you WILL overcome with his help. i believe in you, and so does God! (feel free to msg me if you want, if u need anymore help or someone to talk to. i have had a VERY similar issue and have failed before but so far this time have been free of it for 9 months - and WILL be free forever!!! i will pray fervently for you <3

 

[Hava91]

ALso, If you can, try to get a hold of the book called "every man's battle" IT is EXTREMELY good, and written by a christian for a christian about sexual integrity - they have them for women also. I have seen many sex addicts (this goes for addictions to porn, looking at women, sex, masturbation etc) control and overcome their addiction by using this book. One of those people being my grandpa, and my own father is using it. I used the women's version. FANTASTIC book.

 

[AgeofKnowledge]

Wise words sister. We're reaching for purity and sanctification... to be like Christ but it's a life-long process filled with many spiritual and fleshly battles courtesy of our common enemy: the devil.

We thank God that Jesus won the war but we have to live out the battles.

Two big questions I always ask myself are: 'Am I becoming more or less like Christ over time?' and 'Am I grieving God more or less with my behavior over time?''.

When I'm really honest, I get some surprising answers. I've found that I am becoming more like Christ over time. I've won battles that I once thought were unwinnable. Yet, I still have important battles to win. I find that during very difficult times (like now) I grieve God more than I used to because I'm so sad all the time... and that makes God sad because He loves me. So then I have to stop and think about that and ponder ways to change the latter.

I can't answer the question for you... only you can. But this is my experience.

Well, I'm sure there are many Christians who battle with this problem also. Keep in mind that we all sin, and no sin is greater than another besides one. I'm not giving you an excuse to do this, but I'm just saying that you are human and you're going to slip-up and make mistakes. Not only with the problem you're having but other sins as well.
We're all tempted and sometimes were strong enough to resist, but other times we're not. Don't beat yourself up too badly over this. You are young and impulses, hormones, and all that other stuff are so hard to control at that age. Just try your best every day and don't get discouraged if you mess up. Look to God for strength. He's helping you, the more faith you put in him. The number one thing above all to keep in mind is that God forgives!

Don't let the devil enter your mind and tell you you're not good enough to serve God, because you are. God loves you even though we're all flawed and cloaked with sin. That's how Satan reels you away, it starts with just a speck of doubt, to make you feel like you'll never be good enough. Before you know it, that doubt consumes you and you're in much worse shape than you were before.

Rely on God. He loves you. Pray to Him for everything you need. He wants to help.

 

[willfollowsGod]

Also, download some free software from the XXXChurch website called x3watch and set up an accountability system with someone via email to help protect yourself from this pornography but most importantly when you want to do it. Rebuke it, if possible grab your hand before you go onto one of those sites, think before you act, etc. Those will help, but prayer should always be part of the process. God bless.

P.S. I used to be a porn addict and a few weeks ago I was backsliding into it again, so I know what it is like.

 

[AgeofKnowledge]

I've pondered why God made sex such a strong compulsion in humans knowing that the world would fall into sin and that His people would struggle so much with it.

I certainly don't claim to know the mind of God, as an expert, but some of the possible answers I've come up with are interesting.

For example, given God's nature of extreme love and forgiveness, if God hadn't made the world so perfect in the beginning and intimacy between man and woman and humanity and God so complete, would the devil have risked everything to corrupt it?

The angelic battle and war between God (e.g. good) and Satan (e.g. evil) was unresolved. Theologians assert that Satan, knowing God's nature, devised his evil scheme to corrupt God's handiwork as a strategy to get God to go against His own Word.

Did Satan believe God would go against His own Word, given God's nature of extreme love and forgiveness, to save His (e.g. God's) own creation and the enormous number of people that would end in enternal punishment as a result of Satan corrupting both and laboring to destroy both allowing the devil to escape his own judgement in the process?

It seems likely to me this was the strategy.

But God didn't go against His own Word, despite His loving and forgiving nature. Rather, God sent his own son into the world to make a way of redemption possible for all who would believe and be born again into a redeemed child of God (e.g. the Gospel).

And so, Satan was checkmated. But, we're all temporarily stuck here in the final death throes of this corrupted creation. OUCH!

 

[Tommy4Christ]

I will try to be as kind as posible to you and all those who think you can continue in your addiction and still be saved.

I hope this helps, and unless you repent, stop the sin, and quit blaming your so called sin nature, you will not be able to stop!

The dangers of Porn!]​

1Co 6:9 Do you not know that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor abusers, nor homosexuals,

1Co 6:10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God!​

Today we are seeing a vast array of professing Christians and ministries who treat sin that will lead to death as a calamity and not a crime against God.Gal 6:7 Do not be deceived, God is not mocked. For whatever a man sows, that he also will reap.
Gal 6:8 For he sowing to his flesh will reap corruption from the flesh. But he sowing to the Spirit will reap life everlasting from the Spirit.
I can confess from being in bondage to this sin for over 30 years, what I needed to do to put it to death. Most in the Christian circles will tell you it&#8217;s a disease, it&#8217;s in your nature, or you were born a sinner and will not be able to put it to death once and for all. The pastors would tell me its ok, we all fall short, try not to do it again, and all your sins are forgiven, past, present, and future!
This gave me some comfort, as I joined other men, married and single, who were in the same boat I was in, falling continuously to porn and lust, but again I was good with God, because at least I confessed I do it, and am seeking help from those who know more than me!]
But I knew something was amiss in the church system, and could not figure out what these verses meant:
The soul who sins shall die! Eze 18-20
Those who sin are of the devil 1 John 3-8
The unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God! 1 Corin 6-10-11
Flee all sexual immorality Rev 21-8
He who does what is right is righteous 1 John 3-7
Stop loving this evil world and its lustful attractions 1 John 2-15-16
To be carnally minded is death Romans 8-6
Be perfect Matt 5-48
And many more scriptures that clearly contradict what is being taught in the liberal churches today, such as Promise Keepers, and those who write the many books to help one who struggles with porn to do it less!
Here in lies the problem, keeping literally millions of men in bondage to this vile sin and their flesh. No one is preaching true biblical repentance from the get go! The whole gospel is backwards, and upside down, where they tell you to just accept, believe, and confess your sins to Jesus, receive Him into your heart, feel sorry for your sins, BUT you will always be a poor sinner saved by grace! God will clean you up later, you will remain defiled, worldly, and double minded, but try not to sin if you can!
Where does it say this in the scriptures? Where are the few who are brave enough to call the sick to repent or perish, as Jesus and John the Baptist did. Luke 13-3.unless you repent, you will all likewise perish!
The sin of porn watching will kill you spiritually, and If you refuse to repent, and seek the mercy of God, 2 Corinthians 7-10-11, and die with Christ, ,Gal 2:20 I have been crucified with Christ, and I live; yet no longer I, but Christ lives in me. And that life I now live in the flesh, I live by faith toward the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself on my behalf. Then you will remain in bondage to this vile sin, it must be cut off at the roots! Put to death once and for all in repentance, then you must guard your heart each and every day, count the cost, resist to bloodshed if you have to striving against sins of the flesh, do your part in repentance and all mighty God will do His! James 4:8 Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, sinners; and purify your hearts, double-minded ones.
Draw near to God, He will give you all the power and strength to remain pure and holy before Him, you cannot serve two masters, you cannot be double minded, full of darkness and guile and lust and possibly think you will inherit eternal life!
Those who forsake their sins will be given mercy, and not grace to continue in sin! Remember the grace of God teaches us something!
Titus 2:11 For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men, Tit 2:12 teaching us that having denied ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live discreetly, righteously and godly, in this present world

Tit 2:13 looking for the blessed hope, and the appearance of the glory of our great God and Savior Jesus Christ,
Tit 2:14 who gave Himself for us that He might redeem us from all iniquity and purify to Himself a special people, zealous of good works.
You now have a choice to make! Seek first His kingdom and righteousness, or your own and suffer the grave consequences of your choices! Either you kill the sin in repentance, or it will kill you!(spiritually)
Gal 5:19 Now the works of the flesh are clearly revealed, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lustfulness,
Gal 5:20 idolatry, sorcery, hatreds, fightings, jealousies, angers, rivalries, divisions, heresies,
Gal 5:21 envyings, murders, drunkennesses, revelings, and things like these; of which I tell you before, as I also said before, that they who do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.]
[Please repent of this sin, and all others that will kill your soul!
[Tommy 2-25-12]
Biblical Repentance:
You believe from your heart. You obey to receive the Holy Spirit (Acts 5:32) He comes into a clean vessel. A heart made pure by faith (obedience) Acts 15:9) you obey and keep obeying, daily, to keep your heart pure and undefiled from the world! (1 Peter 1:22) That's how it works! Genuine repentance involves humility, brokenness and is a humiliating experience. When the true light of God's word floods into your soul, you see yourself as you are, in rebellion to God! This is what godly sorrow is all about. Deep regret for your sin's, a season of sorrow, leading to salvation! (2 Corinthians 7:10) not getting saved in your disobedience and sin's, but out of them, through true repentance first where the flesh is crucified with Christ, and put to death! (Galatians 2:20) cleansed to receive the Holy Spirit!

 

[Faith00]

I know what you're going though. I feel like JB's answer was one of the best as far as overcoming this addiction, expecially since it can be hard for some. I'll pray for you though.

 

[spacefreak]

always keep your mind on GOD and the fact that we serve a loving GOD that wants to love and help us through everything, when you have these impulses to look at the images shut off your computer, rebuke the devil with the power of the lord, pray for stregnth and guidence and read your bible. these steps will hopefully help

GOD bless and GOD speed

 

[Jemuel]

i know where you are coming from. If God was able to help and deliver me, It is also possible for you. We only have to act and make a decision to please the Lord.


God bless you

 

[cardsfan93]

Dude I know exactly how you feel. I'm also an addict to porn and masturbation. I've been off for a week now and God is working in me. But it is still a struggle, stay firm in your faith! keep praying! don't put yourself in a spot where you know you'll be tempted. God will help you get through this I know it! just like He is helping me
God Bless You man.

 

[Halo]

Ya know man, although you may not be able help feeling shamful of both acts if you do, they are nothing to be ashamed of for we all around that age are expected to respond to our hormones, however, knowing that you wish to end your actions just think of everything that you stand for and of course GOD also yet not as a thing , and hopefully this what I'm going to say helps without sounding like a put down somehow, but also just think about how deplorable you will feel after having done either act of impurity so that it will empower you to abstain from it just imagine how much more fun you'll also have in your life once you recognize that you've finally beaten and overcome the urge besides it's only pleasure not love and this pleasure may only be a phase for you to go through and by showing your dominance to this urge you'll only feel better about yourself evey time you go a while without doing the sinful acts . Ask GOD for your forgiveness and be sincere about it , knowing that these actions are self-inflicted that means that it is also strongly depending upon your own self-control which GOD has already stored inside of you and now HE is waiting for you to realize what HE has given you to assist you in overpowering satain and his manipulative desires upon a young person's mind, body, and soul-- STAY STRONG IN CHRIST AND DON'T LET the devil win!!!

 

[eugenius]

At least the difference between us and them is we know its wrong. I have also noticed how accepted this is becoming in society. Especially in College. Christianity is all about failing and repenting and trying again. What makes us different is we know we are wrong and have the ability to admit it. Ultimately that is what God wants.

The real sinner is the person who thinks they are perfect. The proud person who refuses to admit when they are wrong. Read almost any of Jesus' parables and you will see what I mean.