Anger

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Relena7

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What do you do to cool it down when you are feeling really angry? (I mean the long, slow, festering, unresolved kind that comes from pretending something is better when it isn't).

I think anger is poisonous.
Why do so many people prematurely bury their problems when they should be acknowledged and dealt with instead? I think this is one of the most puzzling, disturbing, "accepted" human traits that I had to learn to get used to since I entered this world. :confused: And I'm still not used to it. I refuse to.

I wanna get rid of all these bitterness seeds. I don't like who I'm becoming. I can't become insensitive like everyone else no matter what I do.
God didn't design me to be that way.

If anyone responds with callous comments, I will not take them seriously. But they are welcome anyway, cause this is an open discussion for anyone.
 
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I hate being angry at someone. It is not easy for me to forgive and forget.
But i do realise that i can't change people- or control their actions. And-i also know that i wanna be happy-that is why i have to 'let it go'.

It helps -to remember- that i'm not perfect myself.
 
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Batman007

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I think the first step to getting rid of the anger is acknowledging it's bothering and disrupting your life. A lot of people, as you said, bury the feelings and trying to forget about them. That never works, because it doesn't resolve anything. Next is to figure out what is bothering you. Trust me, it's not going to go away until you look inward and find what caused it. This can be the most difficult part, especially if the anger stems from abuse or trauma of some kind, because your mind just doesn't want to go there. Once you find what caused it, it's a matter of finding peace with it. If the cause of the anger is still in your life, you have to remove yourself from it or find a way to cope. If it's something that happened in the past, maybe it's finding the person that you feel caused it and talking to them, or writing a letter. Something I did that helped was I'd write letters to my abusive father. I'd write them, but I wouldn't send them. It just felt good to write them and get the emotions out. Sometimes they'd be really nasty, the pen would press a hole through the page, I'd write some foul words or phrases, but it's private and nobody is going to see it. You'll feel better once you get it out somehow. Sometimes I'd burn the letter after, or rip it up.

That's just how I'd cope, but I'm guessing it depends on the person. I can tell you for fact that it won't go away if you don't find out what caused it. Also talking to someone you trust can help you find what is making you angry, you will help get some of the anger out.
 
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Trax

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Relena7 said:
What do you do to cool it down when you are feeling really angry? (I mean the long, slow, festering, unresolved kind that comes from pretending something is better when it isn't).

I think anger is poisonous.
Why do so many people prematurely bury their problems when they should be acknowledged and dealt with instead? I think this is one of the most puzzling, disturbing, "accepted" human traits that I had to learn to get used to since I entered this world. :confused: And I'm still not used to it. I refuse to.

I wanna get rid of all these bitterness seeds. I don't like who I'm becoming. I can't become insensitive like everyone else no matter what I do.
God didn't design me to be that way.

If anyone responds with callous comments, I will not take them seriously. But they are welcome anyway, cause this is an open discussion for anyone.
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Have you taken it to God? Talk to Him about it. Be honest, because He already knows the truth
of the situation. He can fix your problem. It wont be an over night thing, but He put you through
the right course to bring about a change. He's helped me with a couple issues.
 
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flight316

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Yeah anger, thats a tricky one. I use to get angry all the time. I would get so mad I couldn't see straight. When I finally realized that my anger was a problem I took it to God in prayer. I used to lose control, yell, throw things, etc. I wanted to do more than that, but I knew that I would end up in jail. I had to learn not to take everything so personaly. When I found myself really getting mad I would just get away from everybody and let my mind cool down. Now I just don't pay any attention to half the things that people say. I let a lot of things go that I used to not let go. I'm happier now in that area. You have to realize that people are going to push your buttons, but you can't let them control your emotions. I'm twice your age and I can't afford to let my blood pressure get high ( I'm on meds. ). I stay calm, that's better than anger. It will take some dicipline and some time to deal with this issue. With Gods help you can do it if you want to.
Peace Be Unto You
 
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psychomom

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Relena7 said:
. But they are welcome anyway, cause this is an open discussion for anyone.
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You are such a sweet pea! ♥
I admit I tend to become astonished when someone feels they "own" a thread...lol

I had a season in life when I was so angry ...at God. :(
I don't know if it matters why we are angry. Perhaps that's dependent on the situation.
But the word tells us to be angry and do not sin, and not to let the sun go down on your anger. ( ! )
(Eph. 4:26)

The only way I know of to do that is through the power of God. (as my 17 yo daughter would say, "no duh!" which I think from context means of course...? ;) )
He would not have told us to do that if He wasn't prepared to make it possible! :)
It might help if, when you first begin to feel angry, you tell the Lord you don't want it.
Don't wait till it becomes a festering sore (like I did :( ).
Ask Him to take it from you in the full expectation He will,
if you have to do that every 5 minutes for a while, that's okay.

He's such a faithful Father, dear Elena.
He wants to help you. He loves you dearly, as do I-
ellie
 
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