Saving your first Kiss for marriage =]

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Tatz

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Uuummm....I never thought about saving the first kiss for marriage when I got my very first kiss. I think it would be awkward when the Pastor/ Priest tells the dude to kiss the bride and they don't know how to do it. LOL! My first kiss been used up, so I have nothing left to save.
 
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Zork

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I think saving sex for marriage is a good idea, but kissing. Thats going a bit too far. How will you even know you actually love each other? What if you get married and then on your wedding day you realize youre not attracted to your spouse. Thats pretty bad. Think about it.
Attraction isn't known by kissing.... where did you get that from? I haven't kissed a girl yet and I've been attracted dozens of girls

Btw, the main purpose is to avoid sexual immorality (lust) just fyi.... cause you seemed like your thinking of it a different way since you said its "too much."
 
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Jennyyyyy

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My first kiss was with someone who turned out to be a bit of a jerk.
Shoulda woulda coulda lol
But i guess that's sweet, props to him for being able to reserve all intimacy for his wife.
 
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kids growing up kiss each other, It's not the same as when I was a kid, but some people freak out and think it's always going to lead to something else, sometimes a young person kissing a young person is just a kiss
 
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Too late for me and I personally wouldn't do it anyway, my first kiss wasn't meant for a room full of people, besides many of those vids while sweet look like they are eating each others faces, I'd rather practice my wedding kiss. haha.
 

hellopeople

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sounds really special, God bless all those who will honour such a commitment.
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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I wouldn't do it. I mean what if you get up there and he goes to kiss you and slobbers all over your face?? Or worse yet, has no idea what to do. Do you REALLY wanna face a lifetime of that??
 

Stuey

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I wouldn't do it. I mean what if you get up there and he goes to kiss you and slobbers all over your face?? Or worse yet, has no idea what to do. Do you REALLY wanna face a lifetime of that??


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I think saving sex for marriage is a good idea, but kissing. Thats going a bit too far. How will you even know you actually love each other? What if you get married and then on your wedding day you realize youre not attracted to your spouse. Thats pretty bad. Think about it.

If it takes kissing to figure out whether or not you love someone then your love is shallow and superficial and not the kind of love thatI would comfortable letting my son or daughters take part in. Anyone who believes kissing is necessary for the courting process has a low view of romantic love and is very much engaged by the secular comprehension of love.
 
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kids growing up kiss each other, It's not the same as when I was a kid, but some people freak out and think it's always going to lead to something else, sometimes a young person kissing a young person is just a kiss
you are obviously not grasping the concept of what the author of this thread is saying. the problem with outr culture is that we have lowered the standards and expectations and instead of actually seeking a higher standard most times the church argues on behalf of cultural norms rather than setting a higher bar. we are not establishing a spiritual law but there is indeed much more wisdom and a much greater level of respect and romance that comes from waiting for "just a kiss"
 
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meggars

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:S I can't think of anything more awkward than having my first kiss (even with that person, let alone my first kiss period) being in front of a church full of people. I get the heebie jeebies just thinking about it. Yick.
 
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babydi

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I'm saving my first kiss to the only person I will ever marry. :D
 
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"We got a gotta have it habit/ want to try it before we buy it/ simply gluttons for the lusting and hate going on a diet/We don't think about whats wholesome we just want the whole sum/We don't want new habits we like going to the old ones/They say that boy is queer cause he never kissed a girl/But that boy is serving God so he dismiss the world/ He wants to keep his whole self pure/ Isn't that a weird thing/ And he holding firm until his miss wearing that clear ring/No kisses for his misses til she takin on his last name/the church is laughin at them both talkin saying "thats lame"/But they aint trippin off this culture most of these Christians carnal/which means they're not Christian at all nope not even partial/ now what is funny they call it awkward if you wait to share your lips/with only one man at the altar wait to share his kiss/but the Christ didnt flirt or play with another bride/ we will only look into His face when He crack the skies/ but these folks are sayin it'll be wierd if you haven't tried/ first experiences are best when they occur once everytime"
 
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Fighting4Him

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I've been saving my first kiss since my Sunday School teacher suggested it in Elementary. I admit it's really hard, especially when it's something you naturally want to do when your attracted to someone. But my view is this, kissing someone you aren't going to marry is wrong. Kissing can lead to all sorts of things. And the reasons we want to kiss is because we're attracted to someone. I admit, I would find it heartbreaking if the man I was going to marry had shared his first kiss, the first sign of physical attraction, with another woman.
 

Stuey

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I do hope your husband has his first kiss with you fighting... but I'd be very prepared for him not to.
 
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Tintin

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I don't think waiting until the altar (to kiss!) is necessarily the answer. I don't want my first really, clumsy, inexperienced kiss to be in front of a multitude of family and friends! Besides, there's a huge difference between kissing and pashing. The former would be acceptable, the latter could easily lead to more... In the end, you need to make boundaries, be informed by God's Word and talk to God about everything.

I don't think I'd go anything beyond hugging, holding hands and quick kisses. And the kissing would only be in the engagement phase, when the relationship is incredibly serious.
I don't want to be one of those Christians who doesn't save themselves for marriage (see too much of that in the Church as is) but I also think the extreme opposite is not necessarily ideal either. In the end, it's between you and God and the person you love. And in all things, respecting the Temple you've been given.
 
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progressivenerdgirl

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#38
I'm still saving mine :)
I think it's a great idea.
 
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dimples

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thats a good idea but too late for me! but not totally late coz im still saving something for my Godly man! ^.^
 

koolcas

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im not saying that i will be saving my first kiss until marriage (although it is a wonderfully romantic idea..is romance out of style?lol)

i just have an observation..isnt the logic behind defending 'practising' the kiss before marriage the same logic ppl use when they 'practice' sex before marriage?

honestly i believe kissing (like sex) will just be natural when it is with someone you truly love.