some questions...

[Remmy]

hi everyone..i just have a couple of question..hopefully you guys can help me out.
so my first question is about the bastard curse..i recently heard a preacher on tv talk about this and it got to me..i have3year old son and i had him before i was a christian...so the question is, now that i am a christian is the bastard curse broken? do i have to get my son baptize first to break the curse? i thought he can get baptised when he's older and really accepted JC as his Savior...or do i have to do it right now?

my second question is,is it normal when a guy telsl you he cant be without you?...to me it feels wrong..the only time i say those words(cant be without you) is when im talking to the LORD...he's also constant begging to take him back..i mean to the outside world it may same like'wow that guy really loves you' but shouldnt he be in love with the LORD more than me? he claims to be saved(couple months ago) but i still feel like he's not really that into Jesus..i dunno i cant really explain it but i remember when i first got saved i was like reading my bible the whole day and constantly talkin bout JC and asking question..i was eager to know more!..im just missing that part with him..i mean i know everybodys different but it just doesnt feel right...i just wanted to know if anyone has an opinion about this......

my third question is,is it wrong to go to a dancing club with your girlfriend who is an unbeliever?this happends like 3 to 5times in one year..i only see her in the vacation cuz she lives in an other country..so is it wrong to go to the club with her? sometimes she drinks a little too much..i dont drink..i mean eevery now and then i have like a glass of wine but not very often...a pastor prophesied over me about a year ago and he said that God will give me new friends and that i have to let go of the old ones..so is it wrong for me to hang out with her?what does he mean by letting go?
i must say that our relatonship has been different tho..i mean i dont party hard like i use too in the past,drinking,dancing with boys,just actin like a fool..im more reserverd now but not because i have to but because i want to..i think its dumb gettin drunk and actin a fool and constantly looking for cute guys..so im not really goin because i enjoy it im mostly going because im bored at home and since me and my friend only get to see each other in the vacation i thought i'd do her a favor and go with her to the club...she does notice that im not really enjoying myslef...

i will be waiting for the responses
God bless!

 

[Tootles_1]

Wow. I'll try to do my best but you have some very real and legit questions.

Question 1: I don't know that I recall the bastard curse but here's what I can tell you. When Jesus died on the cross he broke the bondage of all sin - including curses. And you are absolutely correct in that it is your son's decision alone to become a Christ-follower and to be baptized. No one knows the inner workings of our own heart besides God and ourself.

Question 2: Your instincts are absolutely right! Trust God first and trust your intuition (it's usually the Holy Spirit giving you discernment). No one should tell you that he "can't live without you" because then he is not fully reliant upon God and his spiritual relationship is most likely severly lacking. Only God completes us - and in all honesty I don't think we'll be truly complete until we reach Heaven. And the whole idea that we need some one else to make us complete/whole/fulfilled/satisfied/etc is very much a worldly gimic.

And you're on to something about this guy's new found relationship w/ God. As I said before, only God and ourself know our hearts. However, the fruit of the Spirit is evident to everyone when we pursue and further our relationship w/ God. I am so glad to hear how eager and passionate you were when you were first saved. And I hope that even when you tire you never stop trying to know God more. And if this guy is real he should be curious and eager and full of joy over the Good News. Everyone expresses their emotions differently but the emotions should be the same for anyone who experiences true freedom for the first time.

Question 3: You now have two spirits within you battling over you. The old spirit of the world and the Holy Spirit. Old habits are going to still feel good even when you know better. Don't get me wrong - I love to cut a rug, do a jig, and just get down and boogie. However, I could take a guess that the clubs you're going to play music that isn't necessarily uplifting - songs w/ sexual overtones and worldly values expressed. And as you mentioned alcohol there is another temptation you put yourself in danger of.

I understand tho, how you don't want to break a bond w/ someone you care about. However, the relationship has changed because you live for a completely different reason than you used to, and than your friend does. Your friend lives to satisfy her desires and hers alone. Now you live to fulfill God's will for your life. If your friend cares about you, she should be willing to accomodate you. She's not going to understand - your life just doesn't make sense in her eyes. But if she wants to continue your friendship she should be willing to make compromises. Instead of going clubbing, go to a movie, go shopping, go mini-golfing, etc, etc. It could be fun to come up w/ new ideas of bonding experiences - activities that could deepen your relationship and open the door to share Christ w/ your friend. Plus, you two could try something totally new that neither of you has ever done before and maybe learn a new skill. But if she is absolutely adament and unwilling you may have to step back and distance yourself from her. But remember - you can always pray for her and write her if she's willing to correspond w/ you.

I hope I helped and brought ideas that you can use. And I hope that your relationship w/ God grows stronger each day.

 

[Amy81986]

I can only answer for what i think, i have not be a believer for as long as some of the others here and dont really have tons of verses to quote but i will try to help-----

1) I dont think there is a curse like the one you talk of. I mean a bastard curse? SOunds funny to me.

2) For someone to say they cant live without you sounds scary. I mean i have people in my life i wouldnt want to live without but to say i cant isnt true. If you have God in your heart you can do anything.

3) I dont believe in cutting off ties with someone because they are not a christian. I mean i have lots of friends who are not christian but they help me in a lot of ways. I do enjoy going out and there are things i dont do that my friends do. But it is there desision. I mean if you were only friends with christians you wouldnt be able to try and bring people to the church. God calls us to tell people about our faith and help them to recieve Christ. How can we do that if i dont know people who are non christians.

These are just me thoughts

 

[Remmy]

thank you so much for your reply tootles.you have made me more confident about my decision because i know it is the Holy Spirit speaking to me.i made soooo many bad decisions before i was a christian that i question almost every decision i make now...i just want Gods will to be done and sometimes i get scared that i might confuse my will for Gods will...i just want to please God because he has been so good to me.

God bless!

 

[Remmy]

thanks amy!
i agree with you..i think what God means by letting go of the old friends is not acting like them anymore and do the sinful things that we used to do..ur right,we cant avoid non christians in this life..

about the bastard curse..this pastor was saying that when children born outside of marriage will have the bastard curse and if ur saved u break it..he also talked about the eve curse and the jezebel curse..but anyway..i guess its not a big deal since im saved so all curses should be broken..it just had me thinking...
thanx 4 ur response!
God bless