Idenity Crisis

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MrBrightside

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So this is my first thread on this forum and I wanted to start out by just boldly saying that probably the biggest struggle in my life right now is my sexual identity. Meaning I struggle with homosexuality. Does anyone on this site struggle with the same? and how do you deal with it ; overcome it?

God has told me straight that He has promised me a wife someday and that I was made a man, and man was made to be with a women. I get it. The pluming and science behind it pretty much say it too: That God didn't intend for men or women to have same sex relations.

But when it comes to loving God and believing His promises I keep falling short.
 
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Soteria

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Hello You,
Knowing God as father is all you need, please read the following:

Healing the Father Fracture

Every one of the problems in your life—weaknesses, shortcomings, personality flaws, emotional conflict—all stem from what I call a “father fracture.”

Your relationship with your earthly father impacts every area of your life. Whether he was good or bad, no earthly father is perfect. The way he raised you—or didn’t raise you—results in hurts and fractures that can lead to many problems, leaving you feeling empty and far away from God. Human love is never enough to satisfy our hearts. Human love is never enough to heal the wounds that each of us collect as we grow up in a fallen, sinful world. Our lives are fractured when our earthly father is not able or willing to be everything that we need him to be for us.

The father fracture is where dark forces of insecurity and inferiority are fertilized and find soil to grow. Many of us learn to live with scars and damaged souls. The cry of every human heart is for a father—a father who will give us the confidence and affirmation, security and acceptance we long for.

We see the father fracture in people’s lives when they’re angry, mean, negative, pessimistic, and sarcastic. We see the damage in their hearts when they’re filled with hatred, murder, envy, jealousy, evil thoughts and desires. We see it when they boast and strive to be superior over others because they feel inferior in their souls.

We can see the father fracture in our own lives at times.

Do you feel insignificant, unimportant or inferior? Do you live with feelings of rejection? Are you self-conscious—feeling that people are looking at you but not approving? Do you lack confidence around others? Do you constantly struggle with temptation or addictions? Does lust have a significant stronghold in your life? Are you sometimes willing to compromise what is right just to have someone’s love and approval?

Perhaps your relationship with God is affected by the father fracture. Maybe you read your Bible, pray, go to church, but you still feel empty.

God wants to heal the father fracture in your life today! In that same way that He will heal a fracture in your bones, He wants to heal the fracture in your soul.

Your healing begins as you forgive the human father who failed you. Even if your father is gone—just forgive him and get it out of your life. Bury the past and look to God as your only source.

God wants you to know that He’s your Heavenly Father. He will more than make up for whatever has been broken in your life. He will heal whatever has been destroyed and devastated in your life. He will restore whatever has been missing in your life. He will provide whatever your earthly father didn’t provide for you.

Your earthly father may fail you, but your Heavenly Father will never fail you. If you feel there may be damage in your soul from the way you were raised, I encourage you to order your copy of my new audio series, Healing the Father Fracture. As you meditate on God’s Word and seek Him by faith, you will find the secret to satisfaction and purpose in your life—knowing God as your Father!

In His Love,

Gregory Dickow
 
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MrBrightside

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Thanks for the encouragement Greg.
 
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flight316

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First off, welcome brother and greetings in the name of Jesus Christ. Pray for strength to resist your urges to engage in that activity. Disassociate with those live that lifestyle.
 
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Jordache

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Well... There are other ways you could develop same sexy attraction. Most commonly its a father OR a mother wound or both.
 
exbi-savedbygrace

exbi-savedbygrace

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No disrespect to Jordache or Soteria but I think we have in our culture managed to psychologize sin. Father fractures and parental wounds aside recognize that homosexuality is sin. Sure cultural circumstances play some roles in the sins we are more inclined to commit(a guy from the ghetto more likely to sell drugs or kill than a suburban guy). That,however, has no impact on the main issue sin. Sin is not dealt with through getting to the root of the psychological factors. Do you know why? Because you were forged in iniquity and born in sin. Whatever the sin you are more inclined to commit has it's root in your true nature which is sinful to the core. How do we overcome this? Repentance and faith in Christ. I've bee where you've been. I spend 12 years as a bisexual struggling with gender identity, but ultimately the saving grace of God overpowered me. I am not saying that the struggle with same sex attraction is not pervasive and is not a consistently fought battle but the grace of God is sufficient to overcome. that is my preface.

Heres a little lesson from Paul the apostle. Paul often writes his epistles like a lawyer. He lays out the indicatives and then the imperatives. The indicatives always come first. Why? Because the imperatives rely on the indicatives. Indicatives(if you don't know) focus on who we are. Imperatives focus on what we should do in light of who we re. So firstly we must be in Christ. I can give you some practical things to try to overcome in your battle with homosexuality but if you are not in Christ it doesn't matter. because you are in Christ you have dominion over sin. You have the capacity to mortify the deeds of the flesh. Deny yourself. Take up your cross. Crucify the flesh. To rest on the sufficiency of Christ's grace. you must take stock of who you are in Christ. surround yourself with loving believers who understand the battle that comes with Same Sex Attraction and will stand with you to strengthen you for the sake of Christ.
 
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Mooky

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exbi-savedbygrace said:
No disrespect to Jordache or Soteria but I think we have in our culture managed to psychologize sin. Father fractures and parental wounds aside recognize that homosexuality is sin. Sure cultural circumstances play some roles in the sins we are more inclined to commit(a guy from the ghetto more likely to sell drugs or kill than a suburban guy). That,however, has no impact on the main issue sin. Sin is not dealt with through getting to the root of the psychological factors. Do you know why? Because you were forged in iniquity and born in sin. Whatever the sin you are more inclined to commit has it's root in your true nature which is sinful to the core. How do we overcome this? Repentance and faith in Christ. I've bee where you've been. I spend 12 years as a bisexual struggling with gender identity, but ultimately the saving grace of God overpowered me. I am not saying that the struggle with same sex attraction is not pervasive and is not a consistently fought battle but the grace of God is sufficient to overcome. that is my preface.

Heres a little lesson from Paul the apostle. Paul often writes his epistles like a lawyer. He lays out the indicatives and then the imperatives. The indicatives always come first. Why? Because the imperatives rely on the indicatives. Indicatives(if you don't know) focus on who we are. Imperatives focus on what we should do in light of who we re. So firstly we must be in Christ. I can give you some practical things to try to overcome in your battle with homosexuality but if you are not in Christ it doesn't matter. because you are in Christ you have dominion over sin. You have the capacity to mortify the deeds of the flesh. Deny yourself. Take up your cross. Crucify the flesh. To rest on the sufficiency of Christ's grace. you must take stock of who you are in Christ. surround yourself with loving believers who understand the battle that comes with Same Sex Attraction and will stand with you to strengthen you for the sake of Christ.[/QUOTE

I really empathise with people who have this struggle because I believe it can be a lonely and confusing experience.
All I can say is that if you have these feelings and thoughts :RESIST them in the power of the Holy Spirit!
I believe that homosexuality is a choice.After a few experiences with the same gender a habit is formed and it later becomes ingrained.It can be very difficult later on to break free from the lifestyle - which I have observed firsthand ,is damaging and destructive.
I also think that the enemy will tempt us in our areas of weakness - which make things even harder.
Brother, try to seek out a prayer partner who can hold you accountable and wrestle with God on this one.
There is too much at stake!
Below is a link to a sermon by a pastor I believe to be a faithful, thorough and accurate expositer of Gods word.I suggest you have a listen and be sure you are seeing this issue from Gods perspective.
Will be praying for you.Take courage!



Thinking Biblically About Homosexuality
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