Self Acceptance?

jscadt · Feb 12, 2013

Hiii....first of all, thanks for checking this post out.
I kind of in need of help here /:

I don't know how to explain how this whole thing begin, so....yeah.
Here's the thing...

I find it really hard to be happy with myself. Idk.
Maybe I can be all positive for a certain time, but then I always seem to end up feeling not enough.
Like not good/nice/smart/thin/pretty enough and stuff.

Whenever I see other people, I can't help but keep comparing myself to them.
It's insane, whenever I see a person, I see someone who's waaay better than me even in the smallest matters.

I know I shouldn't feel like that, I've been trying to fight all those thoughts.
I've been praying and asking God to help me through this.
He has been showing me that human DOES have flaws, it's okay to have flaws and He loves us anyway.
But there's a part of me that just won't stop but keep terrorizing myself...
It's like having a constant argument with myself every single day...and I just really want to end it.
I just want to feel happy, content and normal.

I've never really talked about this to anyone, I'm not so sure how am I gonna tell this kind of prob to someone in person, like face to face conv /:

Does anyone ever experience the similar situation? How do you overcome it?

Wood-Note · Feb 12, 2013

I've been in the same situation. The dissatisfaction with myself was bothersome, but through those thoughts I realized that I have no reason to be concerned. I think about my past and how far I have come in many ways. It reminds me of what God did for many people in the bible. I felt like young David against Goliath. There were/are so many who are better than I, there were many things that I didn't believe that I could do. I certainly didn't seem to have what it took to succeed, yet through God I did. I remember as a kid, when my friends would say "My father is firefighter", "My father is a police man", I would say "My father made the universe" but sometimes I wouldn't think about that fact. I personally can relate to Moses' concern over his speech issue when God called upon him in the burning bush. For the longest time I felt like there was no way to possibly overcome my fear of speaking. I didn't just fear public speaking, I feared speaking in general, but I had to be patient and let God use the hindrance to help me later in life. Over the time that I was silent, I was constantly listening and learning about speaking.(Though I didn't know that I was learning at the time) I later was asked to give a speech at my church. I went through it shaking like a wet dog lol but still I did it well because of God and what I had learned.

This verse has been the backbone for me when I feel bad about myself:
2 Corinthians 12:9-10
[SUP]9 [/SUP]But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.[SUP]10 [/SUP]That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions,in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

God Bless

homwardbound · Feb 12, 2013

jscadt said:

Nothing under the sun is new, yes you are not alone in this mess of this world
Ephesians 6 the armour of God, verses 10- 20
[h=3]The Armor of God, my comments in red[/h][SUP]10 [/SUP]Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. (trust, believe)[SUP]11 [/SUP]Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. [SUP]12 [/SUP]For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. [SUP]13 [/SUP]Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, (here already) you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. [SUP]14 [/SUP]Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, (Christ is this) [SUP]15 [/SUP]and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. ( this is study, seek, knock, search out and know the peace of God)[SUP]16 [/SUP]In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one (accept no thought whether you are good enough or not for in God's sight and from God you through his Son are made perfect in him and accepted by God the creator of all, so what does it matter then what others might think or not think) [SUP]17 [/SUP]Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. [SUP]18 [/SUP]And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the saints.
[SUP]19 [/SUP]Pray also for me, that whenever I open my mouth, words may be given me so that I will fearlessly make known the mystery of the gospel,( mystery is Christ took your place and thus God has accepted you just the way you are and just loves you) [SUP]20 [/SUP]for which I am an ambassador in chains. Pray that I may declare it fearlessly, as I should.

Brother, you are accepted in the beloved by God the Father
Ephesians 1:6
to the praise of the glory of His grace, by which He made us accepted in the Beloved. You are included in this

Yuo are having thoughts of looking at others and what they do as if they are better than you, because you are feeling guilty of what you do behind closed doors correct? You are not alone, they do the same or have done the same, some have escaped this corruption and some on on their way to do so, but it is never of themselves that they will by their efforts escape this.
The differance between this worlds ways and Gods way is this worls focuses on sin and trying to stop it. This has spread everywhere, and by this method one cannot stop sin because one has been made aware of it consciously, and as long as one is concious of it will period whether they want to quit or not. It is impossible with with man.
But God through his Son provided a way for escape.
It is through the finished woirk of Christ (John 19:30) he fullfilled the law and prophets from the old testament that is what he came to do (matthew 5:17) was to redeem all mankind is how it turned out and he started this redemption with the first chosen, since they chose not to believe the gospel came to the gentiles through Pauland this diuspensation was given to the gentile by Faith in Christ, no law was ever given to the gentile, Faith and through faith in Christ we do automatically waht is right from the trust and the love from God that the first Chosen would become jealous who through the law did not find righteousness , but the gentile did by faith alone and thus works through this faith followed works of love to all.
No matter where you go or what you do remember this GOD JUST LOVE YOU period!!!!!
Thank you forasking me to join you as friends I accepted and am glad to be of any help ever

thewanderer · Feb 12, 2013

You are not alone, dear! We have eyes to see, ears to hear, and the sense of feeling about the we see and hear.

When was the last time we said to ourselves "I love me"?
When was the last time we give ourselves a hug?
When was the last time we give ourselves a very good treat?

Looking at the mirror, we give that reflection a smile, filled with joy, and gratefulness that God has made us wonderfully. We cannot wait on others to appreciate us, we cannot depend on them for acceptance. Whether we like it or not, we can always fail in their own eyes. What we have left is the truth that we see in that mirror.. *We are made in the image and likeness of our God*. And that Living God lives inside of us.

For me now, whenever i fail, or feel bad about what i did.. I'm embracing myself. Letting myself hear the words.
"I forgive myself." "I love me". "Thank you, Lord, for making me *ME*".

You are always loved!!

Universal_Man · Feb 12, 2013

[h=2]Love thy neighbour as THYSELF! If you understand this that you have to Love yourself to be able to love others than wonders happen automatically.[/h]

kittycat7 · Feb 12, 2013

I'll be praying for you~ Know that you are God's child, and he loves you! you are well love and accepted by him above! We love because he first loved us.

—1 John 4:19

Delerion · Feb 12, 2013

I go through stuff like that at times too. It's one of Satan's biggest weapons against me to make me feel worthless and not good enough in his attempt to make me unfruitful with my faith. Despite the fact that I know these are lies, it still feels very real to me. But I keep pressing on with things that will push me out of my comfort zone and help me to grow. That's what helps me to get over that because I can see God working in my life and know He's got my back and that I can do all things in Him!

Jordache · Feb 12, 2013

When I was young my mom always used to say "Oh but you're smile/scar/freckles give you character." And I would respond, "That's just cause you can't tell me I'm ugly." I truly believed that every one of my physical flaws made me the absolute ugliest person on earth. I realized later that I also believed that every one of my character weaknesses also made me the worst person to be around in the world... I believed all these flaws made me undeserving of anything good, unlovable, unworthy, and a lost cause. And all those false beliefs have really ruined much of my life. I'm great at comparing. I compared my voice, my body, my niceness, my strength, my firmness, my energy levels, my personality, my emotional states, etc. all with that of my friends. Today I work hard to not compare myself. Comparison is truly death. There is nothing good in it. Diversity is beautiful. Uniqueness is beautiful. Louis Armstrong had just as incredible a voice as Billie Holiday, as Sinatra, as Judy Garland, Phil Collins, Steven Tyler, as Mariah Carey, as Whitney Houston, as Christina Aguilera, as ... and they weren't even close to comparable. I believe siberian throat singing, Congolese working songs, Chinese Opera, New York broadway, jazz, soul, blues, rock, rap, etc. are all equally beautifully, but most we couldn't begin to compare.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder is not true. Beauty is in the eye of the creator. Attraction is in the eye of the beholder. Every creation of God's is beautiful, especially those that choose to glorify Him.

Universal_Man · Feb 13, 2013

Hey,
everytime when MINUS comes in flesh (mind,feelings and so) you should not care about it. The most time it is from the darkness. But i tell you what: The darkness fears not to do the darkness. So if you see something happens in bad be like DAVID in the Bible and stay strong! You should not fear to do the good because you are with God or is the darkness with God?

jscadt · Feb 13, 2013

Wood-Note said:

I've been in the same situation. The dissatisfaction with myself was bothersome, but through those thoughts I realized that I have no reason to be concerned. I think about my past and how far I have come in many ways. It reminds me of what God did for many people in the bible. I felt like young David against Goliath. There were/are so many who are better than I, there were many things that I didn't believe that I could do. I certainly didn't seem to have what it took to succeed, yet through God I did. I remember as a kid, when my friends would say "My father is firefighter", "My father is a police man", I would say "My father made the universe" but sometimes I wouldn't think about that fact. I personally can relate to Moses' concern over his speech issue when God called upon him in the burning bush. For the longest time I felt like there was no way to possibly overcome my fear of speaking. I didn't just fear public speaking, I feared speaking in general, but I had to be patient and let God use the hindrance to help me later in life. Over the time that I was silent, I was constantly listening and learning about speaking.(Though I didn't know that I was learning at the time) I later was asked to give a speech at my church. I went through it shaking like a wet dog lol but still I did it well because of God and what I had learned.

This verse has been the backbone for me when I feel bad about myself:
2 Corinthians 12:9-10
[SUP]9 [/SUP]But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.[SUP]10 [/SUP]That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions,in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

God Bless

Thank you for sharing your experience! I also have the same prob when it comes to speaking, even just being around people freaks me out at times. I guess at the end of the day it's all about learning and making progress in Him. And thank you so much for the verse, it really helps

jscadt · Feb 13, 2013

homwardbound said:

Nothing under the sun is new, yes you are not alone in this mess of this world
Ephesians 6 the armour of God, verses 10- 20
The Armor of God, my comments in red

[SUP]10 [/SUP]Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. (trust, believe)[SUP]11 [/SUP]Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. [SUP]12 [/SUP]For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. [SUP]13 [/SUP]Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, (here already) you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. [SUP]14 [/SUP]Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, (Christ is this)[SUP]15 [/SUP]and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. ( this is study, seek, knock, search out and know the peace of God)[SUP]16 [/SUP]In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one (accept no thought whether you are good enough or not for in God's sight and from God you through his Son are made perfect in him and accepted by God the creator of all, so what does it matter then what others might think or not think)[SUP]17 [/SUP]Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. [SUP]18 [/SUP]And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the saints.
[SUP]19 [/SUP]Pray also for me, that whenever I open my mouth, words may be given me so that I will fearlessly make known the mystery of the gospel,( mystery is Christ took your place and thus God has accepted you just the way you are and just loves you)[SUP]20 [/SUP]for which I am an ambassador in chains. Pray that I may declare it fearlessly, as I should.

Brother, you are accepted in the beloved by God the Father
Ephesians 1:6
to the praise of the glory of His grace, by which He made us accepted in the Beloved. You are included in this

Yuo are having thoughts of looking at others and what they do as if they are better than you, because you are feeling guilty of what you do behind closed doors correct? You are not alone, they do the same or have done the same, some have escaped this corruption and some on on their way to do so, but it is never of themselves that they will by their efforts escape this.
The differance between this worlds ways and Gods way is this worls focuses on sin and trying to stop it. This has spread everywhere, and by this method one cannot stop sin because one has been made aware of it consciously, and as long as one is concious of it will period whether they want to quit or not. It is impossible with with man.
But God through his Son provided a way for escape.
It is through the finished woirk of Christ (John 19:30) he fullfilled the law and prophets from the old testament that is what he came to do (matthew 5:17) was to redeem all mankind is how it turned out and he started this redemption with the first chosen, since they chose not to believe the gospel came to the gentiles through Pauland this diuspensation was given to the gentile by Faith in Christ, no law was ever given to the gentile, Faith and through faith in Christ we do automatically waht is right from the trust and the love from God that the first Chosen would become jealous who through the law did not find righteousness , but the gentile did by faith alone and thus works through this faith followed works of love to all.
No matter where you go or what you do remember this GOD JUST LOVE YOU period!!!!!
Thank you forasking me to join you as friends I accepted and am glad to be of any help ever

This just hits perfectly. Idk what to say.
Thank you so soo much for this and also for actually taking your time to help.
Really thankful God let me find this site and the people in here.

Thank you once again, God bless!!

jscadt · Feb 13, 2013

thewanderer said:

You are not alone, dear! We have eyes to see, ears to hear, and the sense of feeling about the we see and hear.

When was the last time we said to ourselves "I love me"?
When was the last time we give ourselves a hug?
When was the last time we give ourselves a very good treat?

Looking at the mirror, we give that reflection a smile, filled with joy, and gratefulness that God has made us wonderfully. We cannot wait on others to appreciate us, we cannot depend on them for acceptance. Whether we like it or not, we can always fail in their own eyes. What we have left is the truth that we see in that mirror.. *We are made in the image and likeness of our God*. And that Living God lives inside of us.

For me now, whenever i fail, or feel bad about what i did.. I'm embracing myself. Letting myself hear the words.
"I forgive myself." "I love me". "Thank you, Lord, for making me *ME*".

You are always loved!!

Thank you so soo much! You're right, I need to learn to communicate and learn to appreciate myself. We're all made in the image and likeness of God, just like what you said. Thank you once again, God bless!!

jscadt · Feb 13, 2013

kittycat7 said:

That's the sweetest of you. Thank you for the prayer and the verse, God bless!

teja · Feb 13, 2013

i do experience the same thing some times ... but u know its a human tendency to thing and do these kind of things , clam you mind and heart .. talk the people u can understand .. or better way is talk to god in prayer's about everything .. ur facing .. he ll definatley answer you .. u have to keep faith in him .. what ever it takes .. GOD BLESS YOU

teja · Feb 13, 2013

go through proverbs.. it helps u a lot

jscadt · Feb 13, 2013

Delerion said:

It is a constant, everyday battle with these feelings. But you're right, we can always rely to God and He's always got our back. Thank you for reminding me this!! God bless

jscadt · Feb 13, 2013

Jordache said:

When I was young my mom always used to say "Oh but you're smile/scar/freckles give you character." And I would respond, "That's just cause you can't tell me I'm ugly." I truly believed that every one of my physical flaws made me the absolute ugliest person on earth. I realized later that I also believed that every one of my character weaknesses also made me the worst person to be around in the world... I believed all these flaws made me undeserving of anything good, unlovable, unworthy, and a lost cause. And all those false beliefs have really ruined much of my life. I'm great at comparing. I compared my voice, my body, my niceness, my strength, my firmness, my energy levels, my personality, my emotional states, etc. all with that of my friends. Today I work hard to not compare myself. Comparison is truly death. There is nothing good in it. Diversity is beautiful. Uniqueness is beautiful. Louis Armstrong had just as incredible a voice as Billie Holiday, as Sinatra, as Judy Garland, Phil Collins, Steven Tyler, as Mariah Carey, as Whitney Houston, as Christina Aguilera, as ... and they weren't even close to comparable. I believe siberian throat singing, Congolese working songs, Chinese Opera, New York broadway, jazz, soul, blues, rock, rap, etc. are all equally beautifully, but most we couldn't begin to compare.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder is not true. Beauty is in the eye of the creator. Attraction is in the eye of the beholder. Every creation of God's is beautiful, especially those that choose to glorify Him.

Thank you for sharing this. I guess sometimes we just forget about the beauty in uniqueness. I learned a looot today. Thank you soo much, God bless

jscadt · Feb 13, 2013

Universal_Man said:

I will stay strong cause I AM with God, yeah...?
Thank you and God bless!!

jscadt · Feb 13, 2013

teja said:

Will do, thank you!! God bless

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