Is it Good to marry an unbeliever?

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GOD_IS_LOVE

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The change should take place before marriage, and it should be a genuine one, not just for the sake of being together.
 
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jimmydiggs

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I believe in God and Jesus, and I'm open minded about Christianity and its morals. I don't really like being put into a religious category though (for personal reasons).
Have you been born-again? (John 3)
 
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twofeet

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I married a non christian:

It was spiritually dangerous
After 10 years of marriage and 12 years of divorce the guy is still not a christian
Its a VERY lonely place to be
It is STUPIDITY to think God would be ok with it

What did I learn from it? God knows MUCH better than me and I should have obeyed Gods word.
 
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oOfallen_angelOo

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I need your comments is it proper for a believer to marry an unbeliever believing she would changed or could change when you gget married
I read in the bible about the spouse becoming sanctified through the believer, but it really depends on the unbelievers and believers true status in their spirituality;

There are non - believers who are actually somewhat believers, just unsure, and believers who are dry believers, just believing in God for " perks" or to shimmy their way into heaven without any spiritual effort or care really.

If you get a strong believer and an open minded non - believer, good things could happen, or, nothing will happen and the non - believer won't change.

Or you'll get two very head strong people in their beliefs who will constantly butt heads and confuse the crud out of their future children.

Wickedness and righteousness don't have anything in common; you come to see the awkwardness of trying to understand God between the two of them - for one speaks a wisdom the other has a hard time understanding, because you always need God to understand the reality of God.

It's a tough line to walk for the believer, because non - believers function according to the ways of the world usually, as that's the only other reality outside of God. Your faith has to be pretty firm and if they are willing, the non - believer can come to follow you into faith.

I have a friend who was an atheist; he had a crush on me for the longest - never turned into anything, but I invited him to church and suddenly he can't get enough of bible studying and hearing the word of God.

Love my God so much - he blesses many and gives so many mercy.

God Bless.
 
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BarlyGurl

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>>>>If I was a young Christian person today and I met someone who I was interested in but wasn't a Christian, I would invite them to church, or try to get them involved with a group of Christians, and see how they respond to the message.<<<<<

Totally flirting with danger here as well as disobedience. Dating should never be an evangelical forum.Bottom line... is that if he or she doesn't profess to be christian... you shouldn't be dating them... any dating is supposed to be to learn about them and see if the "profession" is accurate and the person is truly christian... before moving on to marriage.
 
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The believer could benefit from human love from their companion, and benefit spiritually directly from God, and the unbeliever could benefit from both the human love of the believer and the blessings from being married to a servant of God. The downside would be the unbeliever might not be aware that the blessings are from God, and it could be hard for the believer not being able to share that feeling of thanks with that person they love.

It is a huge choice though, one that would have to be looked at honestly and fully as if distanced from your current emotions to see if such a thing could work for you. It wouldn't be for everyone.
I believe in God and Jesus, and I'm open minded about Christianity and its morals. I don't really like being put into a religious category though (for personal reasons).
Yep, the believer sure could benefit: benefit from divorce, bringing children into this world to deal with the divorce crisis, their spouse cheating on them, Satan using that unbeliever to draw you back out, all the while the sinner spouse does exactly what they want. Yep, a great benefit package.
There's one problem about being open-minded with such. Does God allow it? When God gives a command, that settles it. There is no room for open-mindedness when Scripture says not to be unequally yoked. You can believe what you want. But you will be held accountable for teaching false doctrine.
 
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AgeofKnowledge

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Yep, the believer sure could benefit: benefit from divorce, bringing children into this world to deal with the divorce crisis, their spouse cheating on them, Satan using that unbeliever to draw you back out, all the while the sinner spouse does exactly what they want. Yep, a great benefit package.
There's one problem about being open-minded with such. Does God allow it? When God gives a command, that settles it.
^ROFL! The "benefit" package. I love that. Nicely stated.
 

Nautilus

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I believe in God and Jesus, and I'm open minded about Christianity and its morals. I don't really like being put into a religious category though (for personal reasons).
well said, this is my thing too
 
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Relena7

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Yep, the believer sure could benefit: benefit from divorce, bringing children into this world to deal with the divorce crisis, their spouse cheating on them, Satan using that unbeliever to draw you back out, all the while the sinner spouse does exactly what they want. Yep, a great benefit package.
There's one problem about being open-minded with such. Does God allow it? When God gives a command, that settles it. There is no room for open-mindedness when Scripture says not to be unequally yoked. You can believe what you want. But you will be held accountable for teaching false doctrine.
This could certainly happen. Hence the "it wouldn't be for everyone" part of my post.

I appreciate your thick-sarcasm "method" of laying on your opinion of my input by the way. I was beginning to think no one on this forum was funny.
 
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This could certainly happen. Hence the "it wouldn't be for everyone" part of my post.

I appreciate your thick-sarcasm "method" of laying on your opinion of my input by the way. I was beginning to think no one on this forum was funny.
2 Corinthians 6:14-18 [SUP]14 [/SUP]Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? [SUP]15 [/SUP]And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? [SUP]16 [/SUP]And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. [SUP]17 [/SUP]Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you, [SUP]18 [/SUP]And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty.

There's nothing funny about false doctrine. By the way, that's not an opinion, that's Scripture. We could be a far greater help to people if we quit teaching what we don't know......... just sayin'
 
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Nautilus

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My favorite thing is the viewpoints of people here that believe an unsaved person is automatically some terrible do everything wrong and immoral type of person. I know plenty of non-believers that live perfectly normal lives without cheating or any of that other mess. They do have the edge of being far less judgmental than believers ive noticed.
 
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Relena7

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I read in the bible about the spouse becoming sanctified through the believer, but it really depends on the unbelievers and believers true status in their spirituality;

There are non - believers who are actually somewhat believers, just unsure, and believers who are dry believers, just believing in God for " perks" or to shimmy their way into heaven without any spiritual effort or care really.

If you get a strong believer and an open minded non - believer, good things could happen, or, nothing will happen and the non - believer won't change.

Or you'll get two very head strong people in their beliefs who will constantly butt heads and confuse the crud out of their future children.

Wickedness and righteousness don't have anything in common; you come to see the awkwardness of trying to understand God between the two of them - for one speaks a wisdom the other has a hard time understanding, because you always need God to understand the reality of God.

It's a tough line to walk for the believer, because non - believers function according to the ways of the world usually, as that's the only other reality outside of God. Your faith has to be pretty firm and if they are willing, the non - believer can come to follow you into faith.

I have a friend who was an atheist; he had a crush on me for the longest - never turned into anything, but I invited him to church and suddenly he can't get enough of bible studying and hearing the word of God.

Love my God so much - he blesses many and gives so many mercy.

God Bless.
I don't think I could ever consider marrying a hardcore atheist.
 
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Relena7

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There's nothing funny about false doctrine. By the way, that's not an opinion, that's Scripture. We could be a far greater help to people if we quit teaching what we don't know......... just sayin'
I wasn't under the impression I was teaching anyone anything. If anyone learned anything on my behalf, it's purely accident. I hate being preachy. I was just making the posts long to clarify exactly what I meant is all.

Oh, and Stephen, I don't wanna say something I'll regret to you so I'll just calmly say I think you sound a bit condescending in the way you respond to my posts and I don't appreciate it. I'm not sure if you intended that or not but I'm not going to play any more sarcasm games, I'm just getting to the point now.
 

Gingerwolf

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my youth pastor just went over this of these kinds of relatioships only about 3% mange to bring in a new follower the other 97% ussually end pretty badly.
 
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Amylouise96

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If you love someone, and you have prayed about it and you feel as though it is gods plan for your life, should it matter? Truth is I have no clue it's a tough one! Haha
 

Nautilus

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my youth pastor just went over this of these kinds of relatioships only about 3% mange to bring in a new follower the other 97% ussually end pretty badly.
And 45% of statistics are made up.
 
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Vickymoryd4

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No.Light as notin 2 do with darkness
 
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Vickymoryd4

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But u can convert d person.If u succeed,u can go ahead
 

error

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I don't think it's a good idea.
 
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vikash

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If you marry am unbeliever, it will be like two people walking on railway track, they walk together but never get together. You will take all your decision through bible words but your partner will think according to worldly ways. This will always cause a conflict and may be your marriage will break if conflicts keep on rising. That will spoil two life. Pray for your partner, ask for God's will if she is right for you. Having a wrong partner can affect your potential to work for kingdom of God and fulfill God's purpose God has kept in you.