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I am a 16 year old boy, and I currently have a girlfriend. I asked this girl out the summer between 8th grade and Freshmen year of high school. I first met her in sixth grade during school. Over the course of two and a half years, we became very good friends, probably best friends. I became attracted to her during the end of 8th grade, but I did not ask her out because she already had a boyfriend. However, he asked her for some nude pictures and she became upset and broke up with him. The relationship she had with him was not very serious so I asked her out during the summer a few months later and she said yes.
We have been "dating" for almost two years now. I am a christian, and she proclaims to be a christian. The problem is, my parents are much more strict than hers, so we haven't gone on many dates (less than 10 in the past two years). At first, I really liked this girl, she is intelligent, and has a very bright personality. But, since I cannot spend much time with her, all we really are is exclusive friends, and I feel more of a friend to her.
Now that I am getting older, I am running into the normal issues of lust that a teenage boy struggles with. We are both virgins, do not get me wrong, but I have taken quite a few steps (all the way to making out) with her on the physical pyramid. The other problem is that I masturbate, and think about having sexual contact with her a lot. I do not share these things with her, but I do struggle with them. I do not watch porn, instead I fantasize about sex with her.
I know that these things are wrong, and I am pretty ashamed and embarrassed. I also know that dating is for finding a suitable marriage partner. With these facts in mind, I think it is probably best to break off my relationship with her and stay away from dating until I am actually ready for it (around the time I'm in college). I think it would be best, to ensure that I do not get further involved with her physically.
However, over this time of about two years that we have been dating, she has grown very emotionally attached to me. I know that if I break up with her, she will become very upset and angry. She will not talk to me and she will be depressed for a long time. I do not want her to be upset about a break up. I love her, and I think breaking up with her will be the best way to protect me and her from doing anything stupid. I do not want her to be upset, because I still want to be her best friend.
If anybody has advice on how I could break up with her gently, I would really appreciate it. I would like to stay a good friend to her, but I know this will upset her, and I am not sure exactly how I should tell her I need to break up with her. Thank you for your help!
We have been "dating" for almost two years now. I am a christian, and she proclaims to be a christian. The problem is, my parents are much more strict than hers, so we haven't gone on many dates (less than 10 in the past two years). At first, I really liked this girl, she is intelligent, and has a very bright personality. But, since I cannot spend much time with her, all we really are is exclusive friends, and I feel more of a friend to her.
Now that I am getting older, I am running into the normal issues of lust that a teenage boy struggles with. We are both virgins, do not get me wrong, but I have taken quite a few steps (all the way to making out) with her on the physical pyramid. The other problem is that I masturbate, and think about having sexual contact with her a lot. I do not share these things with her, but I do struggle with them. I do not watch porn, instead I fantasize about sex with her.
I know that these things are wrong, and I am pretty ashamed and embarrassed. I also know that dating is for finding a suitable marriage partner. With these facts in mind, I think it is probably best to break off my relationship with her and stay away from dating until I am actually ready for it (around the time I'm in college). I think it would be best, to ensure that I do not get further involved with her physically.
However, over this time of about two years that we have been dating, she has grown very emotionally attached to me. I know that if I break up with her, she will become very upset and angry. She will not talk to me and she will be depressed for a long time. I do not want her to be upset about a break up. I love her, and I think breaking up with her will be the best way to protect me and her from doing anything stupid. I do not want her to be upset, because I still want to be her best friend.
If anybody has advice on how I could break up with her gently, I would really appreciate it. I would like to stay a good friend to her, but I know this will upset her, and I am not sure exactly how I should tell her I need to break up with her. Thank you for your help!
