Why am I in so much pain?

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Bo

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I've been depessed for so freaking long, I just became a Christian like 9 months ago and although God is healing me it is sooo slow and I'm filled with so much pain, anger, hatred... and I don't want to be. I've prayed and prayed, no one in my family are Christians and both sides of my family are filled with abuse for generations back and both my parents are toxic for me to be around, they think the idea of "God" is just silly and so I am on my own completely.

No one understands me, all my new Christian friends are from this college ministry and I've tried to have peopel pray for me sooooo many times, I have tried SOOOOO many things but nothing is working... I have so much stuff deep in my heart, pretty much ALL is from childhood and I cant take this pain any more, I sleep 12+ hours a day and I've been doing it for like 3 years!! No one can imagine this pain, its ridiculious.

I need someone to tell me what to do. Should I just grab a bookbag and go into the woods and read the Bible and pray and spend every hour with God until I am healed?
 
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Praying is only one aspect in your journey of faith. I would recommend you spend a day alone in a quiet place, and just think. Think why. Ask yourself deep down what is causing this pain, anger and hatred. Thus, when you have found the reasons why, you need to answer and change them. I know this can be very difficult, but it is the only way to heal open wounds. You have already come to the stage of asking why here, do not stop here. Open your heart and mind to forgiveness to those who have done you wrong, even if you have not done wrong to them. Forgiveness is a beautiful thing and look at it positively. It is not always just between us and God, but between us and others around us as well. May God help you brother.
 
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Bo. I shall pray for you brother. Love in Christ. Craig. God will open up doors for you.

Father God, I give you my brother in Christ, Bo. I pray that you give him a real sense of your love and ability to heal. I pray in Jesus' name to alleviate his depression. Heal him and comfort him. Also please provide him with a way of escaping the negativeness in his life. In Jesus' name I pray -- Amen.
 
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Seek to make it less about what you are trying to do and more about what you allow God to do. If you haven't done so, that begins with repentance and salvation through Christ.

You don't need to go out into the woods, but definitely study the Bible and pray.

God Bless!
 
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How're you doing man? I hope you went out and spent that time with God today like we talked about. I'll keep you lifted up in prayer dude :)
 
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Proverbs 18 says "your tongue has power of life and death". In your post you said "nothing is working" your words are working against you. Stop saying this. You must have read bible story of women suffering from blood flow, blind men.. Jesus didnt heal them just knowing in himself that they are sick but he healed them when they "spoke". You should also speak that you are healed. Raise your faith level. You should not look around the circumstances around you or focus on your sickness. Focus on Jesus. Tell your sickness that your God is mightier than all my problems and sickness.
 
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Go and see your Doctor, as you might have an underlying Clinical Depression which can be treated by a course of antidepressants...Yahweh Shalom...
 
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You are certainly not alone. You could have just written that about me.
1. Depression causes us to isolate. Fight it even if all you're doing is staring at the wall in a friends house.
2. Reading your bible will not heal you. Meeting with God will. So spend your time finding Him. Reading your bible is a means to an end, not the end in and of itself. Worship, pray, hang out with good friends.
3. Look for Christian based healing groups. You can PM if you'd like. If you give me a few details at what sort of things your healing from, I may be able to point you to some great ministries. I have attended many myself.
4. Don't be afraid to take medication... And also know that God will use your depression to draw you to Himself.
 
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I have depression and anxiety; as with you I am the only active christian in my family. (Trying to adamantly change that)

The pills I was prescribed did not help me. (THEY DID HELP OTHERS) So I decided to to change my outlook on life. I decided to look at things in a happy way no longer a everything is against me way. When I would see people laughing I never tried to think that it was about me. I started thinking that is nice, they seem happy. And multiple other scenarios that are irrelevant. The principal is what is meaningful.

As with your family just show that God has changed you for the better. (don't fake it). Just be a normal christian in front of them. Pray Out loud. Read your Bible and study it in your family room (living room) or some were they can see. Don't hide your faith shame.
 
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vikash said:
Proverbs 18 says "your tongue has power of life and death". In your post you said "nothing is working" your words are working against you. Stop saying this. You must have read bible story of women suffering from blood flow, blind men.. Jesus didnt heal them just knowing in himself that they are sick but he healed them when they "spoke". You should also speak that you are healed. Raise your faith level. You should not look around the circumstances around you or focus on your sickness. Focus on Jesus. Tell your sickness that your God is mightier than all my problems and sickness.
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Not true. There was the woman that touched Jesus garment. She didn't speak a word. Jesus just felt the power leave his body.

You're teaching Word of Faith teachings, which are dangerous and not founded in genuine Christian teachings. Speaking things into existence is a new age teaching and some of the oldest Word of Faith proponents have ties into non-Christian teachings.

While its true what we say and think on can have an effect on us, we can't speak healing into existence, we can only reinforce good mindsets and outlooks, which has a positive effect on the body and mind and can encourage healing our bodies do naturally and/or with the help of doctors.
 
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That verse speaks of the natural consequences of our words. There is a supernatural effect also, but naturally speaking when we speak truth we have more life. When we speak negativity and death, we die.
Soeaking out truth will help. Even when you don't believe it, speaking it out will help. You see, God is able to hear your thoughts. The Devil cannot, but that's ok because because we speak enough for him to use against us. When he hears the lies you speak, he infects your mind with those lies. When you start saying truth, you hold up a shield and the enemy loses ground. You strike with the sword of the spirit. The word is sharper than any two edges sword. It is an offensive weapon. Sometimes I cannot even determine what truth to speak and then I realized any truth is better than none. Here's one: God is good. Say it. Even if you feel like you're lying to yourself. Say it. God will prove Himself to you. Here's another: God is bigger than this. Even if it feel foreign and the first thing you think is an argument against it, say it. God isn't afraid of you oPryor feelings. He's not intimidated by it.
 
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Man!! can I relate to you brother !!
Been there and done it!!
I have walked your path..
Nine months into your relationship with God , you're like a baby coming in seeing everything upside down. Stick with jy it Will straighten out.. Places in your family have been broken for generations ? you're the only one who is a believer?
Ahhh! Yes! God " is" preparing you .. Youre gonna be amazed I promise!

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Powemm

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Bo said:
I've been depessed for so freaking long, I just became a Christian like 9 months ago and although God is healing me it is sooo slow and I'm filled with so much pain, anger, hatred... and I don't want to be. I've prayed and prayed, no one in my family are Christians and both sides of my family are filled with abuse for generations back and both my parents are toxic for me to be around, they think the idea of "God" is just silly and so I am on my own completely.

No one understands me, all my new Christian friends are from this college ministry and I've tried to have peopel pray for me
sooooo many times, I have tried SOOOOO many things but nothing is working... I have so much stuff deep in my heart, pretty much ALL is from childhood and I cant take this pain any more, I sleep 12+ hours a day and I've been doing it for like 3 years!! No one can imagine this pain, its ridiculious.

I need someone to tell me what to do. Should I just grab a bookbag and go into the woods and read the Bible and pray and spend every hour with God until I am healed?
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You are not alone my friend , if you would like I will be happy to walk with you and share what God did for me in the exact same place you are now in..

I am free of the pain, free of the depression, my family is now talking about God and sharing where they once did not , I am off all depression medications ...I'm here to tell you , God does exactly what He promises .. surround yourself with those who "know" what you are going through, I had no one when I was going through it .. God wants Our relationship with Him a "personal" one.." ONE ON ONE". "You and Him". He wants the glory of introducing "Himself" to you :)
it's just like you wanting to be friends with someone you've never met .. You would like to introduce yourself right? So they know who you really are? God is the same way .. He created you.. He made you "first" to be in a relationship with Him..
when I first started , I thought about my questions to Him.. What would I ask God As a friend? What questions do I have ?
What do I want to know about Him... I then write these things down. Went to tue back if my bible and started looking up key words.. God began speaking to me in His word .. Seek you shall find , ova and He will answer..
I remember a time when I read the verse about "He is the vine , I am the branch and that I can not be separated from
Him". I grabbed a cup of coffee and turned the light on in my back yard.. It was still dark .. I have a covered porch with three steps that go down to the ground .. there on the back porch was this huge broken limb .. How it got there is beyond me.. but as I looked at the broken part that was almost touching my sliding glass door .. I saw the inside of it , it was dying and the outer part still looked alive.. I knew right then God was showing me the answer to what I had just asked .. "what dies being separated from you look like?". What came was .. " we don't die right away, we die slowly the longer we are separated from him, much like that huge limb that was in my porch.. It's the pain and otiness we feel inside that is the decaying part of our spirit ... I knew at that moment after I looked very closey at that branch, that's what I felt like on the inside ..
God speaks to us in a multitude of ways ..and when He does , You will, without a single ounce of doubt "know" He is answering you.. Ask what , how, when, where, and to what extent .. I stopped asking why.. I now say "why not??"
Why not me? God said He can use anyone .. Anyone means you :) .. I started asking God to make me useable if I was useable at all.. and He will do that too.. :) you are precious in His sight.. He has separated you from the goats .. You are His sheep.. Now following Him and His voice .. It will become more pronounced and recognizable the longer and further along you
stay close to Him.. He is gonna WOW you! rest in His word.. Have a question? Look in the back if your bible an find a key word . This will require time on your part .. I use to take my bible and a blanket and go to the park and spend the day doing that .. took a lunch and just took off.. Nothing wrong doing it in the woods either .. He is calling you closer to Him.. And sometimes this requires silence from the world .. It's a noisy place :) ..
 
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I think that you need to keep seeking God, you need to have faith in what He can do for and in you. You also need to remember that we can't control Gods timing or His plan. Stay with Him.
 
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