How do I deal with my flatmates?

[shalomandme]

[FONT=verdana, arial, geneva, lucida, sans-serif]Hey :-( [/FONT]

[FONT=verdana, arial, geneva, lucida, sans-serif]I'm really unpopular in my halls. We are all girls but we hang out with the all boys flat next door. I started off really bubbly and "loud" because I wanted to make friends. However, I never socialised beyond breakfast or dinner because I did not like clubbing or drinking.[/FONT]

[FONT=verdana, arial, geneva, lucida, sans-serif] Eventually my flatmates stopped knocking for me when they went down for breakfast or dinner (we are in catered halls) and they all turned against me. [/FONT]

[FONT=verdana, arial, geneva, lucida, sans-serif]A majority of the time the tension is unbearable, the looks on some of their faces when I talk or even sit near them is just too much. Truth be told I have done nothing but be nice to all of them. Welcome them whenever they are near to me but in return all I get is intrusive questions, female dog attitudes and so much more uncomfortable things. [/FONT]

[FONT=verdana, arial, geneva, lucida, sans-serif]One of them really dislikes me, I believe it's because her massive ego can't digest the fact I won't lick her behind. She prides herself in being one of the guys, being the center of attention and because we both have big personalities it is evident she might find me intimidating to her most glorified position in the flat. Therefore she has created a tension between herself and I in the flat. [/FONT]
[FONT=verdana, arial, geneva, lucida, sans-serif]I resulted in being really off with her because I don't like her. Wrong move obviously because all the girls worship her. My flatmates are also very beep! and two faced. When she's around they ignore me and don't knock for me when she is not its all knock knock. They don't even acknowledge my existence. They do everything without me. I feel so left out! For my (pre) birthday none of them made an effort to be around! I always write nice messages and they didn't write anything in my card apart from their names. No text messages or FB messages on my actual birthday. I feel so hurt. Whereas if it was me I would have sent out a message.[/FONT]

[FONT=verdana, arial, geneva, lucida, sans-serif]It is even more frustrating because I know the ones that pretend to be my friends sit in the presence of those who do not like me when they talk about me and probably contribute. I have tried to be patient with them because I don't have to live with them after July but it is hard!!

Any words of advice?[/FONT]

 

[Perseus]

When you decide to not partake in the actions of the world, they will hate you, because they hated Jesus. You have to be ok with that, yet still have love for your fellow human beings.

Be at peace with the fact that you will not be liked by certain people, but always remember that your walk with God is first and foremost among everything. As long as you have that as your guiding light, show love for your fellow human beings, but do not seek their approval, because it is fleeting and changes with the times.

Christians are always going to have a hard time being in the world, but not of the world. If you are following your walk with the Lord, yet still receive hatred or animosity from your neighbors, there's nothing you can do short of moving places next semester or whatever.

It can be sad sometimes not being liked by people. Nobody likes it. If you can find some God-fearing Christians in your school or area, that might make it easier.

 

[Relena7]

Maybe the massive ego girl is jealous for some reason?

 

[Relena7]

Any words of advice?

I don't know if this is a crazy thing to suggest, but have you tried just confronting them about this? No games no nothing, just asking for answers? No one deserves to be shunned for no reason.

 

[Tommy4Christ]

Hey :-(

I'm really unpopular in my halls. We are all girls but we hang out with the all boys flat next door. I started off really bubbly and "loud" because I wanted to make friends. However, I never socialised beyond breakfast or dinner because I did not like clubbing or drinking.

Eventually my flatmates stopped knocking for me when they went down for breakfast or dinner (we are in catered halls) and they all turned against me.

A majority of the time the tension is unbearable, the looks on some of their faces when I talk or even sit near them is just too much. Truth be told I have done nothing but be nice to all of them. Welcome them whenever they are near to me but in return all I get is intrusive questions, female dog attitudes and so much more uncomfortable things.

One of them really dislikes me, I believe it's because her massive ego can't digest the fact I won't lick her behind. She prides herself in being one of the guys, being the center of attention and because we both have big personalities it is evident she might find me intimidating to her most glorified position in the flat. Therefore she has created a tension between herself and I in the flat.
I resulted in being really off with her because I don't like her. Wrong move obviously because all the girls worship her. My flatmates are also very beep! and two faced. When she's around they ignore me and don't knock for me when she is not its all knock knock. They don't even acknowledge my existence. They do everything without me. I feel so left out! For my (pre) birthday none of them made an effort to be around! I always write nice messages and they didn't write anything in my card apart from their names. No text messages or FB messages on my actual birthday. I feel so hurt. Whereas if it was me I would have sent out a message.

It is even more frustrating because I know the ones that pretend to be my friends sit in the presence of those who do not like me when they talk about me and probably contribute. I have tried to be patient with them because I don't have to live with them after July but it is hard!!

Any words of advice?

Follow Jesus as commanded, you will be hated and mocked, but you must endure to the end, your so called friends are godless, and OF the world, mocking God daily and their god is the devil and their flesh!

Be bold in your faith, and especially in your life witness, as nothing is more sad as to see one who preaches the word of God, but lives as the world, so get right with God first, ignore those who hate and mock Him, stand firm in your faith, and if you are walking the narrow road with Christ, you will be alone and seperated, then when you come in contact with your ex friends, you can display
the love of Christ, by giving them a powerful gospel tract, or gosple, showing them the way to the cross, and do not compromise by joining them in thier parites, drinking, and evil conversations!

Seek those things which are above!

Col 3:1 If then you were raised with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ is sitting at the right hand of God.
Col 3:2 Be mindful of things above, not on things on the earth.
Col 3:3 For you died, and your life has been hidden with Christ in God.
These powerful verses above really sum up what is required of you to walk a pure and holy life before God!
But as with all the powerful scriptures, they come with a strong warning and something we must do!
Now IF you were truly raised with Christ in newness of life that comes from the truly repented and crucified life, you will be seeking the things which are from above! The things that please the Lord, who is sitting at the right hand of God!
It also warns to be mindful of thing’s above, which is purity, sincerity and love, and not on the things of this world, as many who profess Christ have it backwards. They love the things of the earth or world more than crucifying their flesh with Christ, and walking the narrow road that leads to life!
Now the most powerful warning so far is the last verse that says you died! Died to what?
You died to sin, worldliness, and rebellion to God, having truly repented (sin stops) and now your new life is free from the corrupting influence of the world and sin, and now hidden with Christ in God!
This death must occur through the process of godly sorrow which produces repentance leading to salvation, if its real, and from the heart, which will show proof such as a clearing of all wrong doing, amending you ways if necessary, a strong fear of God and His wrath to come, plus a vehement desire to cast out of doors all defilement and attachment’s to the world and its vain ways!
This is what real repentance produces in the humble, and obedient soul, who has yielded to the powerful conviction of the spirit of God, who abounds around the whole world, convicting the whole world of sin, righteousness, and judgment, not asking the lost sinner to just accept, believe, and confess in something that never happened!
1Jn 5:4 For everything that has been born of God overcomes the world. And this is the victory that overcomes the world, our faith. (Obedience to the truth)
Tommy

 

[MissCris]

Well, you could super glue all of their clothes to the ceiling.

Hmm...no, that's a bad idea.

I think Relena is right, try confronting them. Call them on it, see what they have to say for themselves. If they tell you what their problem is, maybe you can do something about it. If they don't, then it's not your problem any more and I wouldn't waste another minute worrying how to get along with people who don't want to get along with you.