Im in pain, i cant do anything, Is this were HE wants me

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RinaRestored

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all my life its been hard. God has took me to a very dark place to show me that He is my light. But i am getting so weary. I am in so much pain that i couldnt work, my plans were to file for unemployment and disability and my sister allowed me to live with her family so i can be watched over and grow in Christ during the period. But im just so weary. I declare that God will heal me and trust Him, but i dont understand what He wants me to do. My brother in law, thinks its my independent spirit, but i just cant understand how God wants me to just sit here and just spend time with my family and church, while still enduring so much pain. I just cant understand it
 
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Dear Rena,

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For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.... Jeremiah

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Matthew 11:28-30

Then Jesus said
Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. [SUP]29 [/SUP]Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. [SUP]30 [/SUP]Formy yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”

1 Cor 10:13

No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.

[This meaning about your questions about God.]

1 Thes 1:6

And you became imitators of us and of the Lord, for you received the word in much affliction, with the joy of the Holy Spirit,




​I wish and hope the best for you. :)
 
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RinaRestored

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I know that He has a plan, what i cant figure out is, if He is telling me, that i need to just be still and this is in His plan, or if im missing how He is trying to carry me out of the battle.
 
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Even its His plan for you to be "just" with your church and family. That doesn't mean it would ALWAYS be that way. I had to file for disability quite young for many many issues and while I am still "Disabled" I am making strides in my life and doing things 3 years ago (or even last year!) I would have never thought possible. Keep your chin up. Even if it's time for you to be still now, you will shine later.
 
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Ugly

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Read your bible. People lived in pain. Many people were sick. Many believers were beaten, imprisoned, and more. Even Paul had a 'thorn in his flesh', something that afflicted him. So much so that he asked God repeatedly.
God doesn't always tell us why we go through things. Sometimes we bring things on ourselves. I have been dealing with illness for 4 years now. I don't ask God 'why am i going through this?'. I know why. I was stupid, i made bad choices, and those bad choices ruined my health. I'm not saying that's the case with you, maybe, maybe not, but the point is we live in a world where sickness is everywhere. Its a part of life.
People always think of suffering as God not acting, or not caring, or not answering, or whatever. What few people understand is that suffering of any kind doesn't mean any of those things. God uses our suffering to grow us. People who are not challenged don't grow, don't learn. Its only when its difficult and you have to work and struggle that you learn best, and appreciate what you have more.
 
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Gonder

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A lot of things in life that we go through some times, wereally do not understand it. As children of GOD, we have to trust HIM with ourbeing. Living in this tent (our body), as the Apostle Peter once said, at timeswe are diverted from HIS purpose that HE predestined for us. Focus on JESUS andgiving HIM praise and thanks in good times or in bad times. Try not to takeyour eyes away from HIM. HIS love for us goes beyond our feeling. He will neverleave us nor forsake us. That's according HIS word.
GOD Bless

 
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Jullianna

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Have you considered releasing the pain to Him and asking Him how the suffering you are going through can be used for His glory? We all go through very painful times in our lives. Some are physical, some are emotional or otherwise. When we love and worship through the pain and find a way to use it for Him, it has value we never realized.
 
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I know when I'm going through pain , I thank god for it .. It isn't long before put in a place feom Jesus point of view and all he went through for me .it was like a front row seat into His suffering .. Seabed like it wasn't king after God released me from it .. Hand the pain to God , relate to Him, express it to Him.. He may be wanting you to take deeper root ..
 
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hattiebod

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all my life its been hard. God has took me to a very dark place to show me that He is my light. But i am getting so weary. I am in so much pain that i couldnt work, my plans were to file for unemployment and disability and my sister allowed me to live with her family so i can be watched over and grow in Christ during the period. But im just so weary. I declare that God will heal me and trust Him, but i dont understand what He wants me to do. My brother in law, thinks its my independent spirit, but i just cant understand how God wants me to just sit here and just spend time with my family and church, while still enduring so much pain. I just cant understand it
Do you think can you share with me / us what exactly your pain is....is it physical or is it emotional? it would be helpful in responding to know this, thank you. <><
 
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RinaRestored

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Back pain, spinal is narrow for sure, but not sure all thats wrong cuz the doctors i can afford wont see me unless i lose weight. Also i have horrible pelvic pain. this all stems from birth defects. i also suffer from manic depressive and anxiety. My dad was on behavior meds when i was conceived.
 
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RinaRestored

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I have several birth defects from being conceived while my father was on behavioral medications, since july my back and pelvic has been hurting and getting worse. i am also manic depressive and have general anxiety. not being able to run arounf with my neices or stand up the whole time for praise and worship really mentally hurts.
 
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Manic depression is actually not a term commonly used anymore. Now its called Bipolar. It will help people understand your problems better to use a modern term that they recognize.
 
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hattiebod

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all my life its been hard. God has took me to a very dark place to show me that He is my light. But i am getting so weary. I am in so much pain that i couldnt work, my plans were to file for unemployment and disability and my sister allowed me to live with her family so i can be watched over and grow in Christ during the period. But im just so weary. I declare that God will heal me and trust Him, but i dont understand what He wants me to do. My brother in law, thinks its my independent spirit, but i just cant understand how God wants me to just sit here and just spend time with my family and church, while still enduring so much pain. I just cant understand it
You sound very tired and sad. I just wanted to encourage you, you tell us you have bi-polar, that is a challenge but you can live a full and rewarding life with mental illness, thousands do. You can also live a very full and rewarding life with back issues, that is something I do know about personally. I have spinal stenosis & 3 compressed & collapsed discs in my lower back...I pray I will be healed but I understand it may/ may not happen. My faith is that it can! But I live a full and active life. I do not give in in anyway to being unable to do anything. I was told I would not be able to work etc etc but it's all been proved wrong, I still ski! Yes, I do get pain but it is not something I focus on. I take medication only when needed and get off it as soon as I can. I also think weight is a big issue.... Loosing weight was the best thing I did and it was hard. I think you have been told to lose weight? Then that's what you need to do! We are not promised life will be an easy ride, life is not easy for anyone! We all, one day, suffer loss and sadness but the best thing you can do is strengthen your relationship with God. Then you will be able to deal with anything! In His strength. Losing weight and taking Exersise will strengthen you back and your mind! Focus on what you can do, focus on the positive, you sound like you have a loving caring family, what a wonderful blessing! I pray you will lean on Him, from whence will come your aid!! God bless you! <><
 
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RinaRestored

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Manic depression is actually not a term commonly used anymore. Now its called Bipolar. It will help people understand your problems better to use a modern term that they recognize.
I am NOT BIPOLAR, theres a difference!
 
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RinaRestored

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You sound very tired and sad. I just wanted to encourage you, you tell us you have bi-polar, that is a challenge but you can live a full and rewarding life with mental illness, thousands do. You can also live a very full and rewarding life with back issues, that is something I do know about personally. I have spinal stenosis & 3 compressed & collapsed discs in my lower back...I pray I will be healed but I understand it may/ may not happen. My faith is that it can! But I live a full and active life. I do not give in in anyway to being unable to do anything. I was told I would not be able to work etc etc but it's all been proved wrong, I still ski! Yes, I do get pain but it is not something I focus on. I take medication only when needed and get off it as soon as I can. I also think weight is a big issue.... Loosing weight was the best thing I did and it was hard. I think you have been told to lose weight? Then that's what you need to do! We are not promised life will be an easy ride, life is not easy for anyone! We all, one day, suffer loss and sadness but the best thing you can do is strengthen your relationship with God. Then you will be able to deal with anything! In His strength. Losing weight and taking Exersise will strengthen you back and your mind! Focus on what you can do, focus on the positive, you sound like you have a loving caring family, what a wonderful blessing! I pray you will lean on Him, from whence will come your aid!! God bless you! <><
I will try to focus on the positive, and my dad was Bipolar and schizophrenic, Im not that bad. I just have some times of good and some times of bad, more extreme then others but not as bad as bipolar.
 
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Manic Depression IS bipolar disorder, but bipolar is the more common term being separated into type I type II and Bipolar NOS (not otherwise specified) and Cyclothima

I have type II and anxiety.. and a lot of things. Bipolar is definitely a trip to say the least. If you need someone to talk to who understands those things I'm available.


as I prefer to say I am not Bipolar, I have Bipolar.
 
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RinaRestored

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Now everyone im talking to is telling me they are the same thing, but why wouldnt my doctor say that. I mean, im not like my dad he was really bad when he was sick. I mean it was fun when i was a kid to see him run around stores and just be very playful. Im not that bad, i dont think, i mean even if i am i cant even take the medicine for my depression because it causes horrible side effects with my pain medication. Im on vicodin and tramadol, and even that makes me feel so medicated without even helping the pain. I just feel so lost. I really need someone to talk to really bad right now. All these thoughts are overwhelming me and this is just too much.
 
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Maybe they didn't realize they had too. If you google "define manic depression" the result is "bipolar disorder: a mental disorder characterized by episodes of mania and depression."

You and your father are two different people your disorder won't be exactly the same. the way my bipolar disorder presents is probably a bit different than yours.

Have you looked at any of the bipolar support forums online? there are many and I've found them to be so helpful It's so nice to know you are not alone in your experience.
 
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RinaRestored

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Well my mental pain isnt even my biggest issue. My family, who ive never been close to, took me along to Disney world with them last week. My back pain got so bad before i even got on the first ride, i was in the worse pain ever. How am i supposed to serve God if i cant even stand inline, if i need to loose weight, how can i do it, when my back hurts too bad for like any exercise. One nurse said my doctors should perscribe some pill for help, but my doctor said thats not FDA approved so they stopped. I just feel so helpless and alone.