I am a worship leader, devout God loving southern girl raised up pretty conservatively I guess you could say. My husband is a new Christian. He's from Brazil and is totally okay with smoking weed and drinking with his friends. I know what Gods word says about it but he doesn't want to hear it bc he truly enjoys that experience with them. I'm walking in the other direction. I want God to control my every move I make. But he sees that as no fun. He can't see the reward of being obedient to Gods words and will not hear it from me. I'm worried our marriage is in danger and we have a little boy. I don't know how to handle this on my own. Absolutely none of my family knows or my friends. They would be so ashamed of him bc he's such and awesome person, just keeps messing up in those areas. Any advice believers?
It takes time to see the love ans it takes time to respond to it, all I can say is what is God telling you in your heart, noit the world and how it will react if they find out. Are you afraid of others and losing your place where yuo have worked so hard to be at?
Has he been accepted by God? Have you been accepted by God? Will you lose your acceptance with God because of this?Be honest with yourself.
Now I quarantee you as long as you continue to make him aware of he is not suppose to do what he is doing is and has caused a rift between the two of you. I am not saying you are to not be concerned, I am saying noone can control another, and when I, you or anyone is feeling like others are trying to control thier behavior thier behavior ususally solidifies stronger into doing what ever it is they are doing. And if ever bugged long enough that person recants in front of you and hides that past behavior from you and Wow things get worse.
I would be glad that he is honest and has free choice, for you it is bad behavior, but to him it is not and until and if he ever agrees that this behavior is not beneficial, he will continue to do it. Just please refrain from reinforcing his behavior by commandment. For sin
Romans 7:8
But sin, seizing the opportunity afforded by the commandment, produced in me every kind of coveting. For apart from the law, sin was dead.
Romans 7:9
Once I was alive apart from the law; but when the commandment came, sin sprang to life and I died.
Romans 7:10
I found that the very commandment that was intended to bring life actually brought death.
Romans 7:11
For sin, seizing the opportunity afforded by the commandment, deceived me, and through the commandment put me to death.
Romans 13:9
The commandments, “You shall not commit adultery,” “You shall not murder,” “You shall not steal,” “You shall not covet,” and whatever other command there may be, are summed up in this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.”
therefore just love him to see truth as God has already loved us all
1 cor 13:4-8
4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8 Love never fails.
Love Sister never fails, keep loving as God does and is doing, seek this truth from God
Thank you. And be prepared as in it never changing so if never does then you won't be upset, yet if it does Love that always eventually comes through wiil rejoice over truth winning out over ignorance. God while we all were yet sinners died for each of us and is patiently waiting for each of us to come to truth that sets each of us free and you are in bondage over this, and need to be set free from this whether he continues or not
Love you Sister, hoping God shows this to you all the to homeplate