Prayer and advice please!

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el6746a

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for over four years now, we are freshmen in college and we met our freshmen year of high school. We've had many struggles over the years with my reluctant parents, struggling to stay in a committed relationship through high school, and yet we've made it through everything. We had even began making plans to get married after college. I believe that I was placed in his life for a very important reason, and recently just this past year, he's been going to church and has accepted Christ. There's been many recent changes in our relationship, and I've just been left lost and alone. Previously in our relationship I had been overbearing, pretty controlling, and just overall not a good girlfriend. Just three weeks ago one night when we had an argument, something in him snapped and he's been a changed person since then. He doesn't take my nonsense anymore (which is totally warrented), and i've been trying to change who I am in the course of three weeks. Last night he told me how unhappy he was in this relationship, how stressed he was with his schoolwork and us, and how he doesn't know if he wants to be with me anymore. I believe that in order to reconcile our relationship we need to turn back to Christ and make him the center of our relationship again but now he's just plain ignoring me. He's not only my boyfriend, but my best friend and he has been my rock through a lot of turmoils in my life. We both still love each other dearly, but neither of us know how to salvage our relationship. I've been asking God for wisdom and strength, but if anyone has any advice or prayer, please send them my way- thank you!
 
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Duckies

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Praying for the both of you! Have faith in Christ and both of you should pray for his Will, and all in due time will come into place. You are both young and will have many more challenges as you grow up, and even after many years we are all presented with challenges... My Dear Lord.. Challenge Accepted!! :D all because we love you!

Hang in there, noticing our errors is our first step towards taking a better one and i am sure you both can work things through in God's hands.

God Bless You Both!!
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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I agree with Duckies in that it appears you're on the right path, but consider one thing: Don't place yourself on that narrow path for your boyfriend. Don't do it for yourself, even. Do it for Christ; after all, your boyfriend may feel fed up - justifiably or not - but Christ will never be fed up with your idiosyncrasies. :D

If you live for Christ first, others - your BF included - second, and yourself last, you are fulfilling His teachings.
 
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Ugly

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So, basically, you're saying you've been bossy, controlling and demanding for four years. And now are surprised he's sick of it? He's grown up, and is finally realizing how poorly he's been treated. Meanwhile, you're still acting the same. Change doesn't happen in three weeks. And even if you did, you don't erase four years of mistreatment just by suddenly acting different for a little bit. Real change is evident over time.
Also, you're talking about getting married, yet you, by the way you describe yourself in this relationship, do not reflect any of the character expected of a Christian wife, in the bible. Seems to me you have more important issues in your character, and your understanding of marriage from a biblical perspective, than to worry about your boyfriend.
 
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You're too young to be dating. At this age you'll find yourself and everyone around you changing as they progress in life and knowledge.

It's like entering an amusement park before you've experienced the rides, because afterwards you're gonna come out with a different opinion then what you entered with.

This isn't probably what you wanted to hear, but you should focus on your studies and then later you can think about relationships.
 
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GraceRevelation

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Well, In my opinion you need to just continue what your already doing. When it comes to praying and asking God for guidance and help. The fact that you are admitting that you were wrong and sorry for how your attitude has been is good. Make sure to let him know this. Sit down have a good talk with him, tell him the things you love about him and apologize for how you have been. He needs to know that you truly are sorry and that your going to treat him better. Then of course follow through with what you tell him make sure he sees the changes in you.

Hope this helps!
 
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marnel

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Maybe you should break up for a little time. That gives you more think to think about it and to find out God's will.

I'll pray for both of you!
 
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kittycat7

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Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show it by his good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom.