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maverickwolfe

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I just feel like a rant at the moment, so here goes.

Friends - what's a friend? Is it REALLY just someone to hang out with when you're bored, because I always thought it was more than that... But I'm beginning to see that friends are merely a convenience thing...apparently. Wait until you're sick or in some way hindered from going to them and see if there's anyone left. It really sucks to be honest, and I guess I can't understand, because I'm not that kind of 'friend'. I've always been one to drop everything and come running if someone needs anything. But here I am in need of a friend, and no one is anywhere to be found...haven't heard from my 'friends' in weeks and it's more than just a little frustrating. But gosh I wouldn't want to inconvenience anyone, goodness no. *sigh* I know God has a plan for this ailment I'm under, and He'll never put on me more than I can bear without providing and way to stand up under the pressure....but I'm REALLY not seeing that way of escape right now.
 
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Leilaii425

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i dont think there really is such a thing as friends anymore. People say there your friends but once you say something they dont like, or something they dont agree with.. BAM they turn on you just like that... People talk alot of smack right, ohh were friends blah blah blah... whatever.... i dont believe it anymore.
 
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Silex

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Leilaii425 said:
i dont think there really is such a thing as friends anymore. People say there your friends but once you say something they dont like, or something they dont agree with.. BAM they turn on you just like that... People talk alot of smack right, ohh were friends blah blah blah... whatever.... i dont believe it anymore.
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Are you a cynic??
 
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Leilaii425

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me a cynic.......... never :D
 
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Taelin

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Friends... wel, I can honestly say I'm blessed with the people in my life... I've always had someone out there for me... There's honestly only 4 people in my life (not family) that I can share anything with and they will help me no matter what... My bestest friend <3 has a very very busy life, but yet she's always there and when we meet up, we still go crazy =)

Friendship is supposed to be unconditional, doing whatever in your might to help. I know I try my best with the people in my life. But it's not always easy!
 
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JsLittleAngel

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Maverickwolfe I know how you feel. I get the same frustrations with my friends sometimes. I just have to take a deep breath, pray about it, and go on. I've wanted to have the same rant multiple times myself though. I'm the kind of person who will do what they can to drop whatever and be there if you need me, and it would be nice to know that my friends were the same...
 
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tjogs

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Jun 28, 2009
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Can there be real friendship without love of any kind (not just that couples feel towards each other) And if you ansver yes. Add also good explanation why
Outside my family and relatives I have only 5 real friends, and in other kinds of circumstances one of those would be my gf now.



"You need an effort to befried. Not earn, but get it. And even greater effort to get rid of it because you grow close to your friends"
 
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Walt

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I can understand what you are saying. A lot of people are very narcissistic wether they realize it or not and its discouraging when you feel like people have dropped and forgotten you. A good friend is hard to find but anyone who strives to be Christ like takes great value in their friendships and thats who you need to be around.

Proverbs 18:24 (New International Version)

24 A man of many companions may come to ruin,
but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
 
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maverickwolfe

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Walt said:
I can understand what you are saying. A lot of people are very narcissistic wether they realize it or not and its discouraging when you feel like people have dropped and forgotten you. A good friend is hard to find but anyone who strives to be Christ like takes great value in their friendships and thats who you need to be around.

Proverbs 18:24 (New International Version)

24 A man of many companions may come to ruin,
but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
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Thanks, Walt! you have NO idea how much that verse has helped in the past 24 hours. I just keep tellin' myself that regardless of mortal man my truest friend is eternal and unconditional. THanks, again!
 
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NoTearsShed

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*hugs*

You know what i agree on you with that one, I all my life had been alone with no true friends ...well not all the time but the good friends i had would soon move away, within a day to longer, I only once experienced a group of good friends & it was for a year back in my first freshman year, sadly i dint realize it till it was almost too late. only one week left of school & by then one friend was moving back to her hometown, another to a different school & the rest went their separate ways, i flunked, another joined the dance team & dint talk to us anymore. I had a besties (best friend) supposely a best friend she was, she wasnt a bad person but not a best friend or good friend who i could lean on , even though i let her lean on me & listened to her problems & gave her advice , tried to help her & make her feel happier, went out of my way for her & her ex boyfriend who is no on & off boyfriend to be together because i knew he loved her & she liked him but kept running back to one of her exes which he was no good for her,


Its true its hard to find a good friend, but you know what i learned from it?
The only True friend we have is God =) & he can bless us with a real life friend to but its best they are christians because if they are friends who party,drink, do drugs, & other things that God dont like it will separate you from God & you will get caught up in your troubles. Maybe thats why we cant find true friends... because we are to caught up in finding friends & being there for them when instead we should be going to church & looking for friends who believe in God & will go to bible studies with you so you both can get closer to God =D
So now im thankful because at least i had good friends for a year & because God pulled the veil from my face to see why its so hard to find good friends, because were to busy looking in the wrong places.
Plus God put it in me to like being alone now & only want to have christian friends , people who will listen about God,have respect for him & have faith in him =D
 
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md27

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i believe that you have to enventually come to the conclusion in life that friends come in seasons and they come to teach you something about yourself and make you a stronger person. They should help you see yourself the way the Lord sees you.
 
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