The large majority of the world has sex before marriage. It is almost a necessity nowadays in a culture that isn't exactly Christian based no matter how much the western world tries to pretend. What I'm saying is, don't expect to find a girl/guy partner that has not has sex before marriage. It is pretty rare to find someone that is willing to wait past the age of 18. I'm not saying that I agree with it, but it is the simple truth. To place everyone who have had sexual intercourse before marriage into a stereotypical group of 'nonbelievers' is a false dichotomy as well. What I'm trying to say is, do not judge anyone based on previous sexual relations, because any other sin is just as bad. Have you cheated on a test before? Did you lie and say your dog ate your homework? Have you stolen a pencil from someone's desk before? It is all sin. None of us are perfect like Christ, even if we should strive to be more like Him.
The problem with society is that is is almost impossible to find a true relationship that has no sexual intercourse involved at all. It can be done, but the temptation is always going to be there, and it won't go away. The other issue is that not every partner you have will be the right one to marry. For those of you in high school and in a relationship, the percentage of high school sweethearts that marry and DON'T get divorced is around 2% in the USA. That is not good odds, but then again there is no statistic based on Christian couples. That statistic would be significantly higher I believe. The common sense mark would be don't marry someone that you fell in love with at the age of 14, but every case is different. To marry someone takes quite a bit of maturity, which no matter how much you may "think" you have it, you probably don't at such a young age.
Also, if anyone need's any credibility from me, I am 23 yeas old, in a relationshp, and from the Chicago area, USA. And yes, I've lost my virginity years and years ago. I was a christian back then as well as now, and that has always been a constant. For those of you who can wait, I applaud you, however. Don't let teasing or peer pressure get to you either. One thing I've learned in relationships is that a partner that is unwilling to respect your wishes to wait til marriage is NOT the right one. It isn't love to give up on someone simply because they don't "put out". If they leave you for that, it maybe hurt for a short time, but it will not hurt forever. Marrying the wrong person however, could very much do that. Anyway, I have been rambling on for too long. I hope it works out, but if you fall to the temptation, don't let it keep you down. The blood of Christ washes away all sin.
for God! Not just for ourselves.
