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Personally I always assumed sex was marriage, or at least a significant part of it, based off when Jesus tells the Woman of Samaria to call her husband and the woman tells Jesus that she is unmarried and Jesus points out she has been married to 5 different men. (John 4:16-18).
Marriage as we think of it today is an elaborate ceremonial ritual that exists in all cultures and comes in many flavors. In fact the marriage ceremony we know of in the West is actually fairly new, having been mostly developped in the Victorian Era (1800s). If you strip away all the pomp and ceremony you're basically left with two points regarding marriage no matter what culture you examine.
Point 1: Parents give away their children either through arranged marriage or parental consent
Point 2: The man and woman leave their parents care and cleave unto eachother and begin their own family.
Now I am not saying that people should go out having sex before they perform the marriage ceremony or before they are prepared for the responsibilities that come with having a family, but I would assert that if you did have sex with someone before the marriage ceremony you are all ready married to that person and should thus attempt to go about having the formal wedding ceremony. Either way you cut it though, whoever you sleep with, that's who you are married to in my point of view, so stay faithful to that person regardless of whether you went through the Victorian Era Wedding Ceremony or not.
Just my opinion of the matter, and I think either way you cut it, sex before marriage or after, that you should still be loyal to your one woman (or man if you are a woman). I feel as if the marriage ceremony while not being the marriage itself, is at least a good way to strengthen that bond between two mates and also between the couple and God, thus why it would be more proper to wait until after marriage ceremony to have sex. (Plus if you think about it, waiting until after the ceremony is a good test for your prospective mate.)
Marriage as we think of it today is an elaborate ceremonial ritual that exists in all cultures and comes in many flavors. In fact the marriage ceremony we know of in the West is actually fairly new, having been mostly developped in the Victorian Era (1800s). If you strip away all the pomp and ceremony you're basically left with two points regarding marriage no matter what culture you examine.
Point 1: Parents give away their children either through arranged marriage or parental consent
Point 2: The man and woman leave their parents care and cleave unto eachother and begin their own family.
Now I am not saying that people should go out having sex before they perform the marriage ceremony or before they are prepared for the responsibilities that come with having a family, but I would assert that if you did have sex with someone before the marriage ceremony you are all ready married to that person and should thus attempt to go about having the formal wedding ceremony. Either way you cut it though, whoever you sleep with, that's who you are married to in my point of view, so stay faithful to that person regardless of whether you went through the Victorian Era Wedding Ceremony or not.
Just my opinion of the matter, and I think either way you cut it, sex before marriage or after, that you should still be loyal to your one woman (or man if you are a woman). I feel as if the marriage ceremony while not being the marriage itself, is at least a good way to strengthen that bond between two mates and also between the couple and God, thus why it would be more proper to wait until after marriage ceremony to have sex. (Plus if you think about it, waiting until after the ceremony is a good test for your prospective mate.)
B
I have had sex before marriage. Many times. I didnt realize how wrong it was until recently when I started seeing a christian man. Now I feel terrible because we have had sex and he is very ashamed. I am a Christian. I am just so confused and for some reason cannot see why. I like sex and I masturbate. Idk how to get past it. I feel like a child who has been given a rule they feel is unfair. And that makes me feel even worse. Helppp
B
I didn't literally mean its not fair. Im blown away at how blind I was to not realize what I was doing was wrong. I think God has brought him into my life to bring me closer to him. I have never met a person who has had such a positive influence on me. I guess what I was trying to say was I do not know how to deflect my perversions.
M
My friend, I want you to understand that your sexuality is a natural thing. It is o.k for you to feel attracted to men and to have sexual urges. However God expects us as Christians to have control over these urges and desires, and to wait until marriage, for this is His will for us. However, he does not expect us to do so on our own that is why he has given us his Word and His Holy Spirit. Gal 5:16 "walk in the Spirit and you will not fulfill the lusts of the flesh". We have to constantly submit to the Holy Spirit through praying genuinely to him, reading his word and turning from sin. Including sexual sins. Why? because Sex outside of marriage is called fornication and is seen as a sin in God's eyes. Those who do these things "will not inherit the kingdom of God". Gal 5:21. I know it can be challenging but it is possible for you to over come for greater is He that is in you than he that is in the world.
That's understandably different. As with any other sin, though, as long as we live in a secular world, it will never go away. You will always be tempted. Satan even tried tempting Jesus. We aren't perfect, we're very far from, but the most effective solution I've found to combat the temptation of sin is to ask myself what Jesus thinks of what I'm feeling tempted to do. It's important to remember as born-again Christians that the Lord is literally always with us. We are always in His presence. Combining that with making the situation difficult when you are at your most tempted (hard to have sexual relations while you're riding a bicycle, for instance) might lead to an effective solution for you
M
The bible also tells us that our bodies are the temples of the Holy Spirit. Please Read 1Corinthians 6:9-20. Its just 11 verses which explains this more. God's Holy Spirit lives in us. We are his temple. Sexual sins defile the temple. Our bodies are made to glorify God not for sexual sins. God is not pleased with sin, He hates sin. . . but he loves you so much and he loves that young man as well. He has sent Jesus to die, so we can have forgiveness if we truly repent and ask him to forgive us. His forgiveness is for us to turn from sin. He gives us another chance to get things right through His help. I encourage you ask God to help you to overcome this and seek to turn from this path with the Holy Spirit's help. I am praying for you. Please read the text I showed you earlier. Its on the internet. All the best!
M
"the meats for the belly and the belly for meats but God shall destroy both it and them"--meaning God created food for the belly and the belly for food but both food and the belly will eventually be destroyed. These are temporary things. This quote seemingly was a common saying of the time. However some Christians were living like they believed their body was for fornication, and felt they could do what they want. But the scripture is saying our bodies are for the Lord and the Lord is for our bodies and our bodies are not for fornication.
M
I would recommend 1Peter. Its close to revelations. and has 5 short chapters and a lot of encouragement for a young Christian. It would also be good if you could read about Jesus in one of the gospels. Maybe Luke would be a good start. This tells about Jesus' life on earth and his teachings of love, forgiveness and the kingdom of God. It also shows how he healed many people and eventually died for our sins.
T
I don't understand why the first book many people read in the Bible is Revelation! It's the most challenging book to understand and it's at the end of God's Word for the very reason that it only makes sense in light of the rest of the Bible. Start with Genesis, then maybe read the Gospel of John. Hebrews and Romans are excellent books too. Hope this helps.