Making God a priority in my relationship

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Zach5226

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I am 21 years old. My girlfriend and I have been together for about 2 and a half years. During this time we have been in and out of church. I know that I am the spiritual leader of our relationship and at times I have failed in that role. During the periods of time we have been out of the church, she has been unfaithful to me several times. I have just found out this is the case once again. I've told her, that it is my belief that God wants to use me in her life in order to bring her closer to Him. And in turn to bring us closer together thru him. I've also told her that the only way our relationship can continue is that if we make God the priority of our lives. How do I impress upon her, the seriousness of Gods will for her life, and how important her relationship with him is to ALL aspects of her life?
 
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oldernotwiser

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i think i would begin to impress this on her by ending the relationship and telling her simply that you can remain friends but her actions in the relationship suggest some severe unequal yoking. this sounds like a young lady with a greater interest in biology than in theoogy.
 
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Zach5226

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Before we met, she had very limited exposure to Christianity. I believe her lack of interest in theology to this point is because of her lack of knowledge and understanding of it's importance. So the biology, is what is easy because that's what she knows. I can't give up on her without before giving her the opportunity to come to God and realize she needs the change. I just don't know how to help her understand that only God can fix this, and how to keep her from giving up before she gives Him his chance.
 
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JustAnotherUser

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Just my input, but if she's cheated on you several times then I wouldn't guarantee that she's going to follow through this process and just stop... Unless of course she wants to work things out, but there's also a chance she could see this as another opportunity to manipulate and deceive you. That's just me though.

Good luck.
 
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cinder

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Do NOT start dating a non-believer to evangelize them. It's a bad idea for you and it often gives them the wrong motivation for salvation or taking interest in God. That doesn't mean you can't be friends and share the truth with a girl, just keep your heart out of the dating arena in such a situation.

Since you are already in this relationship, you have some decisions to make. Why do you persist in being with a woman who has been unfaithful to you multiple times? If you do marry her, will you trust her to be faithful to you then? Based on what evidence? If you can't see yourself marrying her, you're just going to break up with her eventually anyway. Wanting to influence her for God is not a good reason to continue a dating relationship. Ultimately she has to choose to be interested in God for herself.

At the end of the day, it's all about communication, communication, communication. You'll have to sit down and talk this stuff out with her. And if she won't choose God, you're going to have to let her go. I also suffer from the holding onto a not so good friendship to be a godly influence thing and I know it's hard to let them go when you haven't seen God change their lives. But what God keeps telling me 1) You are not the savior 2) You can't choose for them .
 
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SoliDeoGloria92

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Based on my experience, once someone cheats on you. It's makes building a strong, God centred and trusting relationship almost impossible. Maybe not completely impossible but I can only speak from my own experience on this one. That coupled with God not been the centre. I'd ask you to think about how much God is the centre of your own personal life? I'd advice you to back away, and consider that, put your time and energy into that. I don't say this to be mean, or make you feel bad. Coming out of a relationship you've been in for a long time is so difficult, trust me. I know, but the longer you go on for in a relationship that isn't honouring God, the harder it becomes, and there's also a good chance that if she does change her actions it will only be to keep you happy and it won't be consistent. I don't wish to be the carrier of bad news, but from my own experience your in a very tough one to try make work.

Id suggest praying, and let the word of God guide you in your decision making, but having a God centred life is of vital importance once you are in that place I'm always of the impression God in His sovereignty can bring along someone who is right for you, or by his grace bring your current girlfriend to that place. But let's just be straight, if I was your pastor or your father right now. Or someone you respected and listened too, I'd advice you to step out of the relationship and put God first in your life. I hope you have a person/people like that (in the multitude of counsel there is safety) says that in proverbs.

Whatever you decide, I'll pray for you, and wish you the best.

God bless
 
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