will a man wait until marriage to have sex?

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tinypyaar

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Sorry if the question was too vain. But i feel like todays society and youth are self destructing as we speak! I have been worrying about this for a long time even though im pretty young ,i think of things ahead time for some reason.and have been doing prior study on this topic.

I have seen positive and negative from waiting until marriage and things. I know its possible to do so,but i worry i might not get a chance and be in chastity for the rest of my life ( which is still good.)

Im very attractive and im blossoming into a beautiful woman God intended me to be.i get compliments in school most of the time .and a guys tell me im " fine" or " you have a nice face" and all that flirting stuff. ( which i am totally blessed with and i thank the Lord for) .
I tell guys that im abstinent ( that was one guy in particular) and the first thing they ask is " what's that?" And i explain to them that im waiting until im wed to have sex and im kinda embarrassed to say because i don't know there reaction is and all they say is " oh" and " ill change that " as rendering to if we were together we'll have sex or ill ease you into it.

Like i said im young im not even legally an adult yet but im fairly mature and took oath to be chaste or celibate or abstinent( what ever you wanna call it)out of heart . Because i want to please God and have the best marriage ever.


One of the reasons i think men dont wanna get married in general not even abstaining sex is that they dont wanna stay to one woman or have half of there stuff tooken away if divorce comes. Marriage for me is a life long commitment literally till death do us part.


Ive studied and came across this and this article said only 20% of christians wait until marriage and the rest will have " casual sex" or " until engaged" and that makes me sad to such low numbers and no hope.


Sexual compatibility is a big reason why know one does this choice ,but why make adultery the only rule or sin you break or do.
Sex is a staple to marriage and more staples makes your relationship better i guess. But i think virginity is a lovey gift that can only be given once to a person you love and committed to. And its a sacred thing that makes us pure physically and spiritually.


In CONCLUSION! ( i am so sorry this is SO LONG!) ( i dont talk this much in real life im more on the quiet and get to know me side) this had been on my mind for about 2 years and many more to come

Will a man wait until mamarriage to have sex in today's society and years to come ?
 
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Bate

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In short, the answer is, yes a man will wait until marriage to have sex in today's society and years to come; but it depends still. Men too would ask the same question in turn, ''Will a woman wait until mamarriage to have sex in today's society and years to come?
 
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tinypyaar

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Thank you for your replys.
 
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chillruth1683

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Oh yea.. I'm 19 and thought of that dear sister.. philippine costums were real real strict and conservative that even men cant hold the hands of the girl or else theyll be married forcely if the woman's parents discover that. but now its really changing.. specially in the city.. i remember back on the time i was living alone in the city and study there... my.classmates. had to laugh at me.. there were hundreds of us and virgins are just below 10..they called us innocents and made fun of us.. at first i get discouraged for realand made lots of absenses just to get rid of their badjokes. all i didwas pray and suplicate all day long at the house i rented.. but one time.. the Lord spoke to me.. and said I dont have to be like all people do.. I dont have to please any people by violating God's law or by making Him grieve.. He reminded me to just have the desire to please Him and Him alone no matter what people say .. because we live our lives for Him.. I never have had a boyfriend because I am really into a man'sSpiritual life which I never seen any plus I am concerned if the man won't understand me I am very strict about being intimate for real just to get rid of temptations you know.. but I'm not worried I know many wouldnt understamd but the thing I am standing now is that I dont have to be like or please other people by violating God's law or making Him grieve.. I am living and dedicating my life for Him .. I am His daughter And I Know He'll send me my perfect match one day.. and dear sister .. If a man won't be willing to wait until marriage then discontinue with Him.. the best thing is o ask God for a. god-fearing man that will. fullyunderstand ur view .. and if a man will come into ur life and cant wait then that means he's not the manGod has for you.. a man that truelly loves a woman can wait until marriage.. if they cant..that means they just want to play..
 
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Yes a man will wait. My wife and I waited until we were married. Have hope and tell God that is the man you are wanting as a future husband. I dont know you age but it sounds like you have other things to think about other than marriage.
 
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Taith

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If I may use myself as an example.
I am 18 and I will wait until I am married. But I know that a lot of people my age and younger or older will not wait. And it is wrong.
If guys talk to you like that, saying they will change how you are. I say stay away from them. Emotions are very strong things, and it might get extremely hard for you. So I say just stay away from them.

If you commit to staying pure, God will give you someone who has also made that commitment. It may take longer than you would want, but it will be one of the biggest blessings in your life.

God Bless.
 
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Animus

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Christian men will wait, but I'm afraid there are more wolves in sheeps' clothing these days. Many people grow up in Christian households so they put on a Christian persona but they'll walk away as soon as they are old enough to leave their parents. I say this because I know that there is a good chance you will date a "Christian" guy at some point who will let you down. Things will seem good and then he'll spout out something like, "Well there isn't anything in the Bible about doing ________", and you can insert any lecherous task in the blank. There are good Christian men out there, but these are not them.

You'll hear all sorts of nonsense from people; they will tell you anything to get you to compromise. Non-Christians will no doubt tell you that's it's unrealistic, or "boys will be boys", or you're being childish. It's important to keep your pride in check, because at some point someone is going to try to make you feel like they are better than you because of it. This needs to be recognized as just another trick. Another thing people will try to do is remove your reasons. If you tell them that you want to have the best marriage possible they will point you to some study that says that it's actually good for a marriage to have premarital sex. If you tell them that it's a sin, they'll show you some article that they've googled that says its not. It's all nonsense of course, but if a lie is big enough and told often enough people start to believe it, whether they want to or not. I think this is one reason why the Bible and the Church (as the body of believers) are so important. You will hear nonsense from the world so often, it is important to hear solid Godly wisdom on a regular basis to remind you of what is right.
 
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Will a man wait until mamarriage to have sex in today's society and years to come ?

Not likely!! Why?? because most women have dropped or eliminated all form of decency when it relates to attracting a man. The competition is fierce and morality is thrown out the window. Many of these women today are so desperate they don't even know what morality is. However, it doesn't mean that you can't be a virgin and get married. My sister has been married for 39 years and she was a virgin before marriage. There are decent guys who are willing to wait for the right woman (virgins included) without the games.
 
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biscuit said:
Will a man wait until mamarriage to have sex in today's society and years to come ?

Not likely!! Why?? because most women have dropped or eliminated all form of decency when it relates to attracting a man. The competition is fierce and morality is thrown out the window. Many of these women today are so desperate they don't even know what morality is. However, it doesn't mean that you can't be a virgin and get married. My sister has been married for 39 years and she was a virgin before marriage. There are decent guys who are willing to wait for the right woman (virgins included) without the games.
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Technically true but sad. Statistically virginity and Chasity are the minority.

It's also not helping that women are not teaching the younger girls anything about modesty...
Teaching Christian Ladies to Dress Modestly

That being said... even though my friends are falling away and going into sin - I'm still waiting. :)
But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. - Isaiah 40:31
 
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GodIsSalvation

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Way I see it I've waited this long all ready, so in the event I were to be married, might as well just wait a little bit longer.
 
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Good luck on your search. And yes, they'll wait. Not sure for how long, but they'll wait.
 
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agirlandherguitar

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Love the finger pointing that's going on...

I am still a virgin and I fully intend on staying that way forever unless I get married. In my experience if I've ever shared that information with somebody I've only ever had positive responses.

So... we do exist. And if I exist then surely virgin males exist as well. It's not that hard of a lifestyle.
 
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Leon

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The right man will wait - SO SHOULD YOU. God bless you for being pure unto the Almighty Lord.
I am so jealous.
Today men and women use sex like its a currency - So Sad!
 
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Raine

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No. A man who lives according to his flesh and desires will not wait. But a godly man who leans on God's love will wait because they understand this importance. And a godly man will want to sanctify you, keeping you holy, so he will not tempt you. Same goes for women.
 
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Snuggle

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If you require him to, he will. If he isn't willing to wait, then he isn't a man. Let him go, he still has some growing up to do. However, we as women have a lot to do with it as well. We must recognize that we are worth the wait. We are worth more that the cat-call given when we wear revealing clothing. If we have confidence in who we are, knowing that God created us beautifully and to look upon us is to look upon God's artwork, then we will protect ourselves from those unworthy to see it.
 
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agirlandherguitar said:
Love the finger pointing that's going on...

I am still a virgin and I fully intend on staying that way forever unless I get married. In my experience if I've ever shared that information with somebody I've only ever had positive responses.

So... we do exist. And if I exist then surely virgin males exist as well. It's not that hard of a lifestyle.
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Amen, girl. It's dead easy when one comes to the realization of what Jesus did for us to redeem us, cleanse us, and make us holy and pure. He allowed Himself to be nailed to the cross so that our fullest potential could be realized. He has great plans for each and every one of you, my young friends. Best part is; He really, really, really loves you.

I've done 47 years and I'll gladly do 47 more if it is pleasing to my Lord, Saviour, and Best Friend.

"Ye have not yet resisted unto blood, striving against sin"
-Hebrews 12:4
 
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