the harm of gossip and uncivlized people

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asamanthinketh

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i am really struggling to maintain my God given character in the house that I currently live in. I live with slanderers, God hates, gossipers, hypocrites, and they have no understanding of the way of the Lord and it is beginning to destroy my faith. I need to know what to do. I have not been given an opportunity to make enough money to move and have my own space. I wonder why but am stilly praying and making moves to find a paying job that will equip me to move out.

Right now I am in this house with them and they hate on people, make fun of them, and laugh at them for things that they themselves do. They just sit around and smalltalk, accomplishing no good goal for their lives or mine. And these are my parents. I need their help. And I have told them, but they refuse to help. Instead they will drink, party, gossip, and just do fruitless things with their lives when I am sitting here asking and needing help. There is something definitly wrong with this situation and these people. But God has not intervened yet. They show fake love and compassion and they cannon be trusted. I asked the Lord to give me a chance as a young woman to grow into a life of my own, but for some reason it is not happening and it is partly because my very own mother has so many problems and issues and double standards that she is unable to help me. And no person out in the world is offering their help.

So, what do I do? Suffer more, needlessly because of the ignornace and arrogance of them. That is not God. God is good.

I am not perfect, by no means, but I know what health and well-being are. And living with them and their beliefs is destroying the faith the Lord gave me and was making stronger.

And I am helpless to effect any change in them. It could happen but they refuse to forget the past and look toward the future and live in the moment. It is sad for me that another person could have so much control over MY life and not even have control over their OWN life.

And this has been going ON and ON and ON for at least 5 or more years now. I thought it was done and GOD said I have seen your trials, your mistakes, your pain and it is over. I will help you now. I love you.

When is protection going to come into my life? When is God going to truly be good to me? And stop all this hurt and pain?

If anyone has some good godly counsel or prayer please respond.
 
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bluebutterfly

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Just because we don't see anything doesn't mean that God is not working. Don't you lie the devil come in and lie to you. I would say keep praying for your family.

I bet it's hard, I am the only Christan in my house hold and my sisters swear drink and even take the Lord's name in vain and they don't understand why that bothers me so much. But I will not give up on praying for them that they get saved.

Thou shalt decree a thing and it shall be established: That's in Job so just decree that they get saved God bless
 
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jaywoooo

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Some advise I live by:


GOD, GRANT ME THE SERENITY TO ACCEPT THE THINGS I CANNOT CHANGE. THE COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS I CAN AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE.


For me I accept people to be who they are and not occupy space in my head.
 
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Dread_Zeppelin

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You shouldn't be shaken by how others, not yourself, choose to live. Your parents sound shallow and unhappy so they have no concern over their behavior. Its possible a reason why they dont want you to move is because you are a breath of fresh air for them (you sound like a nice person). There are a couple of ways that you can avoid this kind of behavior. When they start to gossip and get out of control say to them in a stern voice "It is against my religion to listen to this." and walk away. Walking away sends a powerful message. Have a place you can retreat when your parents get out of control. Prayer is the most important of weapons, you are in a spiritual battle. When you are confronted about the past say "I believe forgiveness is the mark of a good person, don't you?" if they say no then say "I forgive you for your bitterness". And walk away. If they start to gossip interrupt them and tell them you are not interested in slander. Also they could just want your attention and the only way to get it is to be negative. Arrange a day to go out with your mom or dad doing something they like. Tell them that if they start to complain or get angry, you will drop their company. Show them there is no reward for their behavior. They need to be retrained to be adults and not children. Reguardless of their messed up lives it is not your fault and you shouldn't blame God for it or not interviening. You need to find your own way and take it as a lesson not to be like your parents. Until then, Gods timing is the perfect timing. That sounds frustrating but you cannot see what the future holds for yourself and may be glad you have this time with your parents.
 
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Jessiemusical

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first of all, God is always good no matter what the situation is. Romans 8:28 says "And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose." if you made it for 5 years or more, definitely I can see how God has been protecting you from these people contaminating you, cause some people cannot last that long and start become like them, so definitely God has helped you a lot in not becoming like them, continue to pray and fast....it will help you get through this situation and will make you strong and help other people that were in your situation
 
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