I am a 18 year old female with a too high sex drive

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troubledgirl

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Hi. I know that lust is a sin and sex is only for marriage, and I will save the sex for marriage, but I think about sex everyday... And my sex drive is too high... And I am just a 18 year old female. And I masturbate at least a couple times a month, but during masturbation I just think about myself and my body only. I tend to also imagine pornographic stuff about myself sometimes...

Is this part of development because I am young or is this some kind of curse or demonic oppression? I really don't want to be a nymphomaniac so much... I feel a bit bad for having a too high sex drive... Or is this too high sex drive related to any attention deficiency symptoms, Autism spectrum, or learning disabilities what I have? I have some bipolar symptoms too...

And again, I am serious and honest, so don't ever accuse me of trolling because I am not a troll.
 
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We all sometimes get like that. Even sometimes i get these sexual thoughts in my mind as well. I just try to fight it in my mind and not think about it. I don't dwell on those sexual thoughts. Lust is a sin though and you need to get rid of it. Rebuke it and command it to leave in Jesus name and ask the lord to help you. You cant stop it in your own flesh. Lean to Jesus to help you remove it. The lord helped me get rid of watching pornography and masturbating as well. Trust in the lord and your going to see how those sexual desires are going to melt away. God bless sister!
 

blue_ladybug

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troubledgirl, maybe you should do some research as to whether there's a link between autism, bipolar syndrome, and a high sex drive. I agree with Timmaayy, rebuke the thoughts of masturbation and pornography. Lean on Jesus to help you overcome it. Get rid of any pornographic movies or content that you may have. Try going to webmd.com, and mayoclinic.com. Type in what you're searching for, something like "causes of high sex drive" or something like that. Try to focus your mind on other stuff, like hanging out with friends, or being with family, etc. Good luck.
 
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Hmm

Are there such things like sex driver licenses? :)
 

Atwood

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Hi. I know that lust is a sin
Some of these questions would have different answers for a born again Christian and for an unsaved person.

But yes, lust = coveting is a sin. It is a sin to yearn for something that the Lord does not want one to have, a sin to have such a strong desire.

Having an itch to have sex is not a sin at all. That is the result of having hormones. Desiring sex is not lust and is not sinful nor demonic. What makes you think that your sex drive is too high? Why don't you see it as a blessing? However, if one does not use this with a husband then it becomes dangerous. Desiring to have sex with someone with whom one is not married is sinful lust.

Gal 5 says that the flesh lusts vs the Spirit. Gal 5 is about born again Christians only.
So this flesh which the Christian still has, this human nature (which is all the unsaved has)
exerts its opinions all the time or very frequently. In the Christian the flesh is like an alter ego, a Mr Hyde to the Dr. Jekyl. The flesh lusts (fact); it cannot be stopped from lusting. However, the Christian does not have to go into flesh mode (I am carnal, Rom 7) and make the lust of the Old Man flesh his lust. This is a temptation; and temptation is not sin.

So thinking one can make the flesh shut up & stop tempting us is wishful thinking; it will not happen in this life.

If you are thinking about sex a lot that is no sin. But it does suggest that you ought to get married (1 Cor 7 starts out ordering every woman to have her own husband because of the danger of fornication). It is better to marry than to burn with a sexual desire than has not satisfaction.

The Bible says nothing about masturbation. Masturbation is not a sin; lust for someone you are not married to is a sin.

The manic side of bipolar is sometimes expressed by sexual promiscuity.

Bottom line:

Thou shalt call His name Jesus, for He shall save His people from their sins.
To be a "His people" requires that one trust the Lord Jesus as SAvior.

Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and you shall be saved.
"I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish."
This trusting in Christ does not mean that He is just a chance-giver, but your Savior.

To become a child of God and have eternal life is free from trusting Christ as Savior.
Some express their faith by calling on the name of the Lord for salvation.

For whosoever shall call on the name of the Lord shall be saved.
The Lord Jesus is the 2nd Person of the Trinity, God become man, who died to pay for our sins on the cross and who rose from the dead.

If you have not done so, why not call out now:
"Lord Jesus, please save me, change me, give me your free gift of eternal life, and forgive all my sins. I do now trust you as my Savior, and I depend on your atonement on the cross to pay for all my sins."

Come to me all ye who labor and are heavy laden, . . . and I will give you rest.

I include the above because I have no way of knowing if you are saved or not.
Once we are saved, "the just shall live by faith." We need to trust the Lord as Savior and depend on Him for wisdom in every spiritual situation.

Gal 2 tells us, I have been crucified with Christ, and it is no longer I who live, but Christs lives in me; and the life which I live in the flesh I live in faith, the faith which is in the Son of God Who loved me and gave Himself for me. I do not make void the grace of God; for if righteousness is by the law, then Christ died for nothing.
 

gypsygirl

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Hi. I know that lust is a sin and sex is only for marriage, and I will save the sex for marriage, but I think about sex everyday... And my sex drive is too high... And I am just a 18 year old female. And I masturbate at least a couple times a month, but during masturbation I just think about myself and my body only. I tend to also imagine pornographic stuff about myself sometimes...

Is this part of development because I am young or is this some kind of curse or demonic oppression? I really don't want to be a nymphomaniac so much... I feel a bit bad for having a too high sex drive... Or is this too high sex drive related to any attention deficiency symptoms, Autism spectrum, or learning disabilities what I have? I have some bipolar symptoms too...

And again, I am serious and honest, so don't ever accuse me of trolling because I am not a troll.
high sex drive is definitely associated with the manic side of bi-polar. that could be partly why you're dealing with it. you might also be a girl with a higher testosterone level, either naturally or as a result of a health condition.

since you are under a doctor's care, i assume, for your bi-polar, i would encourage you to discuss it with s/he.

second, i would encourage you to take this topic to the ladies forum. the women are very supportive and helpful in discussing this kind of topic. : )
 
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One simple tip, for men or women:

The more you indulge in selfestimulations the more selfish you would tend to be when having a real intercourse with a person and, since it is not too "well known" to men, you yourselves (ladies) would feel disappointed that a man only have one bullet and that is pulled so "easily" with one trigger.

Then, being in that state of lust (I would call a normal apetite) you would need to teach your man (or your woman) where you would want those bullets addressed and, quite often EACH is so concerned in self-giving his/ her body pleasure that any of you would feel disapointed when developing the habit of playing "solo".

I wish I knew it when I was a virgin!
 
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high sex drive is definitely associated with the manic side of bi-polar. that could be partly why you're dealing with it. you might also be a girl with a higher testosterone level, either naturally or as a result of a health condition.

since you are under a doctor's care, i assume, for your bi-polar, i would encourage you to discuss it with s/he.

second, i would encourage you to take this topic to the ladies forum. the women are very supportive and helpful in discussing this kind of topic. : )
I agree with gypsygirl. It could be hormonal or as a result of a medical condition. We can't always chop it up to lust, rebuking satan or the like, there could chemical factors involved. For example, I am on several medications that have the side effect of reducing the sex-drive / desire. It's not that I am stronger in my faith or that I have rebuked some kind of evil spirit or that I have triumphed over lust, it's chemical. Please check with your doctor, like Gypsygirl said, it could be the manic stage of bipolar.
 
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Atwood

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We all sometimes get like that. Even sometimes i get these sexual thoughts in my mind as well. I just try to fight it in my mind and not think about it. I don't dwell on those sexual thoughts. Lust is a sin though and you need to get rid of it. Rebuke it and command it to leave in Jesus name and ask the lord to help you.
The lust of the flesh is a given; you cannot get rid of it. Gal 5 tells us that the flesh lusts vs the Spirit and the Spirit vs the flesh.

This "lust of the flesh" is that of a sort of resident alien, the Old Man. This is not the lust of the Christian; this is the flesh giving its strong opinion as what we should do; it is a temptation. We always have an escape from Temptation. But the flesh is going to do its thing so long as we live. But we do not have to walk after the flesh. While the flesh goes no lusting; we ourselves do not have to put on the Old Man and lust with it.

End of Gal 2: "The life which I live in the flesh, I live by faith in the Son of God." Faith in Christ is the cure. We trust Him with every problem and temptation. It is an effective cure, but temptation will return.

A sexual desire is not lust, not normal. Even to feel an attraction towards a person of the opposite sex is not a sin; it is normal. But if we exercise a desire to have sex with someone with whom we are not married & actively lust, that is a sin.

The Bible advises to get married (1 Cor 7:1-2) and to drink waters out of your own cistern (Proverbs) and to do the Song of Solomon with your spouse.
 

troubledgirl

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Actually I just found out that I am not so able to lust anymore... I used to have sexual fantasies about Severus Snape and then later about the knave of Hearts from the 2010's Alice in Wonderland movie but now when I try to think about those sexual fantasies, I get grossed out and I am like "oh my goodness if they really would say such gross things to me I would run away".

Also, about the high sex drive: Do you think that Asmodeus the demon can cause this high sex drive too?

And to mods: Could you move this whole thread to a "Christian ladies" category if there is one here?
 

blue_ladybug

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Actually I just found out that I am not so able to lust anymore... I used to have sexual fantasies about Severus Snape and then later about the knave of Hearts from the 2010's Alice in Wonderland movie but now when I try to think about those sexual fantasies, I get grossed out and I am like "oh my goodness if they really would say such gross things to me I would run away".

Also, about the high sex drive: Do you think that Asmodeus the demon can cause this high sex drive too?

And to mods: Could you move this whole thread to a "Christian ladies" category if there is one here?

troubledgirl, the fact that you get grossed out when you think about those sexual fantasies is a good thing. It means you know they are wrong to think about.
I would tend to think that either your meds or bipolar are to blame for your sex drive. As I mentioned before, do some research on it. Talk to your doctor and get their opinion. As for demons causing this high sex drive, I would highly doubt that.
Almost every post of yours, in ALL of your different threads, mentions demons. You seem to focus on demons way too much, and not enough on God. If you expect him to help you, then you need to turn to him and ask him for help with all of your issues. Might I also suggest you stop watching shows with demons in them, as you are obviously drawing that negative energy to you. I'm glad you finally put away your HP stuff. That is making you one tiny step closer towards God, but you have a long way to go. I hope your new christian helper is able to assist you better than we can, and I sincerely hope you will follow his/her advice. If you expect to advance in your journey with God, you need to start listening alot better than you are right now!!
Lastly, I doubt the mods will move this thread. If you wanted it in the christian ladies forum, then you should have started it in there.
 

dory

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Heey, I know exactly what you are going through.. I have had problems with this since a child even before puberty (molestion, pornography material in the house...) It has been a struggle to me all my life and im thankful to God that He has always been with me even in the hardest times.. And the best answer is to focus on God and ask Him to help you.. And also a great help is to find someone in church who you trust really well (a woman maybe) that you can tell her that.. Because when you put your sin on the light and people pray for that,the devil runs away.. To me it was a long process and I still get tempted,but its worth to fight the battle with God and you will win this,because Jesus is much stronger and He loves you so much. Stay blessed sister.
 
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I started to believe this is an impersonated decoy... Perhaps any moment comes Mr. Chris Handsome to say "Hello! We've got you".

This is weird!

Just saying I don't like baits.
 

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troubledgirl, the fact that you get grossed out when you think about those sexual fantasies is a good thing. It means you know they are wrong to think about.
I would tend to think that either your meds or bipolar are to blame for your sex drive. As I mentioned before, do some research on it. Talk to your doctor and get their opinion. As for demons causing this high sex drive, I would highly doubt that.
Almost every post of yours, in ALL of your different threads, mentions demons. You seem to focus on demons way too much, and not enough on God. If you expect him to help you, then you need to turn to him and ask him for help with all of your issues. Might I also suggest you stop watching shows with demons in them, as you are obviously drawing that negative energy to you. I'm glad you finally put away your HP stuff. That is making you one tiny step closer towards God, but you have a long way to go. I hope your new christian helper is able to assist you better than we can, and I sincerely hope you will follow his/her advice. If you expect to advance in your journey with God, you need to start listening alot better than you are right now!!
Lastly, I doubt the mods will move this thread. If you wanted it in the christian ladies forum, then you should have started it in there.
I am not familiar with Asmodeus. Is this before Snape or after Slenderman? I seem to be having a problem following the story line here. Do you have any idea on what is going on blue_ladybug?
 

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All I do know is that Slenderman is more real than Snape, who looks real, but may be virtual to the untrained eye.
 

troubledgirl

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I am not familiar with Asmodeus. Is this before Snape or after Slenderman? I seem to be having a problem following the story line here. Do you have any idea on what is going on blue_ladybug?
Asmodeus is a very evil freak demon of lust. It's the demon of lust. Not sure if Asmodeus is a devil or a demon.
 

troubledgirl

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It's over. I am no longer able to lust until I get married and I'll be into my husband. Sexual things gross me out... Not sexual jokes like American Pie movies and some funny banned commercials, but thinking about sexual things scares me and I get grossed out. And if some person talks sexual things about me, I get very grossed out. Praise the Lord for changing me. By the way, did someone pray that I stop being a nymphomaniac? I thank the person who prayed that. I feel much better being normal and not a nympho.
 
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godtruck

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I was diagnosed as bipolar type 2 and one of the symptoms is hypersexuality. There are many well meaning people here but only a a few really understand what it's like to live with the illness. I would encourage you to take an online test for borderline personality disorder. I have that too. That may help you understand some things about yourself as well.
My dad used to fill me with shame concerning who I was as a young boy and teenager regarding my body and who I was as a person. Spiritually the enemy was involved in the fallen nature of my dad but I am not demon possessed, nor was I ever...it's part of the illness passed on genetically. That's not an excuse for excessive masturbation or pornographic thoughts but for someone with bipolar it's just part of the illness. You might want to seek a psychiatrist and get on some meds. Also counseling would help too. There are some Christians who think psychologists are 100% humanistic and cannot be used of God to help people. What psychologists do compared to a pastor isn't that too dissimilar in my opinion. The illness is very narcissistic. Another great way to find relief from being self-absorbed is to study how gracious God is towards us. "Jesus + Nothing = Everything" by Tullian Tchividjian is a great book to start.
 

blue_ladybug

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high sex drive is definitely associated with the manic side of bi-polar. that could be partly why you're dealing with it. you might also be a girl with a higher testosterone level, either naturally or as a result of a health condition.

since you are under a doctor's care, i assume, for your bi-polar, i would encourage you to discuss it with s/he.

second, i would encourage you to take this topic to the ladies forum. the women are very supportive and helpful in discussing this kind of topic. : )
​Dont you mean estrogen, and not testosterone? Men have testosterone, women have estrogen. :)
 

lncy

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women have testosterone also, just in lower amounts than men....just as men also have oestrogen, but lower levels than we do...