What to do after rejection?

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Jesh777

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Life is about setting a goal and reaching it... and when we work for it, rejection and denial is always a possibility.


Recently, I got rejected over a thing that I have been working on for quite some time. All efforts exhausted, money wasted and time consumed. I feel left out because my friends made it and I didn't. I pity myself. It's like all my goals are in that PLAN A, and I never thought of a PLAN B. And now I don't know what to do next! I feel like a failure... Am I being too hard on myself? I keep thinking that even though I was turned down now, there will be another opportunity, another time. And that God has better plans for me because His thoughts are greater than mine so are His plans. But when I'm alone, whew. I sometimes doubt if it's really true that there will be a next time for me.
 
maxwel

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Sometimes only YOU can answer these questions.

1. Did you really do your best?
If you did, then God has some reason for closing this door.
If not, then there are other lessons to be learned.

2. Do you think you can really learn, and grow, without a bit of failure now and then?
There are lessons in failure and rejection, even though they're painful.
Can you imagine how proud we'd all be if we were perfect at everything, and everything was always easy?

3. God allowing us to experience difficulty is a HUGE part of molding our character as Christians.
I doubt Joseph was happy about being sold into slavery, or spending years in prison... but those things molded him for a lifetime of important service.
You haven't been sold into slavery yet... so be happy.
: )

4. Usually experiencing difficulty FEELS like a failure, but it really ISN'T A FAILURE AT ALL.
It is just God moving to accomplish something we don't see.
If we've done our best, and God closes a door... we need to trust him.

5. God will open other doors in his time.
Maybe he'll open the SAME door when HIS timing is right.
Maybe he'll open a different door, similar to this one, but better.
Maybe he has some other, entirely different kind of door.
We need to trust him.

The Apostle Paul had some very bad days, and this is what he said.

2Corinthians 4:7-9
4:7 But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the excellency of the power may be of God, and not of us.
4:8 We are troubled on every side, yet not distressed; we are perplexed, but not in despair;
4:9 Persecuted, but not forsaken; cast down, but not destroyed;

God is always with us, at all times, and he guides us through these things.

When you have a failure or a rejection:
A. Don't beat yourself up... this failure may be something God has planned for your good.
B. Recognize God is at work.
C. Ask God if he will TEACH you lessons in this, so you can learn whatever he has for you.
D. Ask God if he will REVEAL his plans to you. Sometimes he does, and sometimes it takes much time.
E. TRUST HIM. He loves you more than you love yourself. You can always trust him.
 
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Aya2011

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I once sought an advice with this same kind of problem to a pastor. And his advice to me was, just move on.
 
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Jesh777 said:
Life is about setting a goal and reaching it... and when we work for it, rejection and denial is always a possibility.


Recently, I got rejected over a thing that I have been working on for quite some time. All efforts exhausted, money wasted and time consumed. I feel left out because my friends made it and I didn't. I pity myself. It's like all my goals are in that PLAN A, and I never thought of a PLAN B. And now I don't know what to do next! I feel like a failure... Am I being too hard on myself? I keep thinking that even though I was turned down now, there will be another opportunity, another time. And that God has better plans for me because His thoughts are greater than mine so are His plans. But when I'm alone, whew. I sometimes doubt if it's really true that there will be a next time for me.
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If you did your best then God probably has a different plan. If I had a nickel for every time I shot and missed and a dollar for every time I made it...I would have a lot of nickels and just a dollar or two.......
 
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Jesh777 said:
I keep thinking that even though I was turned down now, there will be another opportunity, another time. And that God has better plans for me because His thoughts are greater than mine so are His plans.
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You already have the answer. just let that sink in your spirit.
 
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biscuit

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I feel like a failure... Am I being too hard on myself?

Yes you are!! You should take the time to read the auto/biography of some of the world's most successful & powerful people, and you will see many of them were consistent failures but 'never gave up.' Just keep chipping away with God in mind and you will be just fine.
 
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lyndsey

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Yesterday I was reading a teaching about 'Rejection' from Derek Prince ministries (I'm a new Christian and he is proving to be the best bible teacher for me).
Anyway, after downloading it I thought 'but I'm not feeling rejected!' yet something made me carry on reading anyway. Maybe I was meant to read it and guide you to this teaching also?
There are two parts to this teaching but I believe part 2 will be the most relevant to you.
Here it is:
Derek Prince Ministries : From Rejection to Acceptance P2

Hope this helps!
Also, I would add that most of us face rejection at some point in life.
At least you tried. Isn't that better than not trying at all?
For example, I went to university and completed a 3 year course in a subject which I realised afterwards was not right for me.
People often ask me now if I regret going and I always say no because I know that if I hadn't gone I would have always wondered 'what if?'
I went and it didn't work out but at least I tried, at least I did it. No lessons in life are wasted.
Ok, so this hasn't worked out for you but who knows what god has instore for your future?
 
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