I have no father. I have a brother and a mother. and a good foster family. And a terrible childhood.
2 years ago, me and my brother talked about how big influence our mom was to us.
When she felt depressed, so did we. And we BOTH wanted to get out of the alcoholic-generation hamster wheel, and get a good life.
2 years ago, my brother called mom, and had a 30 minute conversation, about how selfish she is. and how she brainwashes us sub-conciously to think that drinking once every second day to escape reality is okay.
She screamed "THATS WHAT I DID WHEN I WAS YOUR AGE. I accepted my parents alcohol problems, and I knew it wasnt their fault!"
But look what forgiving/accepting did to her? Now she's an alcoholic, wanting US to accept her. I cant. I just cant.
"Happiness is seeing your mother smile", that is. And My mom is a big influence without realizing it. I just cant anymore.
My mother hanged up on my big brother 2 years ago, when she was confronted, and questioned "Dont you want to be happy? A better life? Please mom.. So we can be happy too" kind of? And my big brother went psychotic, and REALLY schitzophrenic. He's currently at a mental hospital.
TODAY.. I did the exact same thing, confronted her. And she HUNG up on me too!
It probably sound like im cruel, but i swear every word she speaks, she is blinded. She can only see it from her point of view.
Now that I said. "I dont think it's a good idea i see you anymore. For a while. I need to go to college. And I cant focus when you call me and you're drunk asking me why your other son is at a mental hospital etc. I cant"
And she says "What about my garden?" (I do her garden etc).
I know when i leave, her place is gonna be an ever bigger mess.
Do i have the right to be selfish and try, at least TRY to get a better life.
I do believe there is more to life than drinking your own bottle of tears.
To the comments who wants me to stay with her, or pray for her.
I already did. 'All you need is love' and she havent shown me any really, by happiness.
'No one you can save that can't be saved'. I do believe she cant be saved, cause shes so blinded by her own views.
And I think she is selfish for even having two kids, when she started drinking and doing drugs from day 1 we were born etc.
I do realize she had a rough childhood too, (i may sound like a prick) but why would I care? Like why should THAT affect me. It happend way before i came into this world... Why should I suffer her pain. As a son-mom relationship I reflect and look up to her. I feel her pain. and im tired of it.
I feel like this is the last option for her to maybe see herself clearly, now that i boycot her.
It's hard, cause what if she drinks herself to death. I would blame myself, for wanting a better life, leaving her 'behind'.
but trust me. ALL of my childhood, from a little kid, I wanted to help her. To see a brighter day, to see a day through kids innocent eyes. Well at least how kids should see the world. But never has she understood.
How can I go to college, then talk to my alcoholic mother. Who asks me 'why's' of the mystery's.
She is not a christian. (Yes i tried to make her a christian, by reading C.S Lewis quotes etc from an early age)
She WANTS me to accept her. But I cant.
I've not given her up as a human being. I've given her up as a role model, as she is not good for me.
I want a good life. I want to break free from these chains my family generation carry.
The start is to cut the rope. Cut me 'free'. Free from confusion.
I'm not a big christian. But I want to be.
Sorry for the ranting. It's midnight here, and i'm a bit sad.
ANY comments will do.
Thank you for listening to my confusing-midnight ranting kind souls..
2 years ago, me and my brother talked about how big influence our mom was to us.
When she felt depressed, so did we. And we BOTH wanted to get out of the alcoholic-generation hamster wheel, and get a good life.
2 years ago, my brother called mom, and had a 30 minute conversation, about how selfish she is. and how she brainwashes us sub-conciously to think that drinking once every second day to escape reality is okay.
She screamed "THATS WHAT I DID WHEN I WAS YOUR AGE. I accepted my parents alcohol problems, and I knew it wasnt their fault!"
But look what forgiving/accepting did to her? Now she's an alcoholic, wanting US to accept her. I cant. I just cant.
"Happiness is seeing your mother smile", that is. And My mom is a big influence without realizing it. I just cant anymore.
My mother hanged up on my big brother 2 years ago, when she was confronted, and questioned "Dont you want to be happy? A better life? Please mom.. So we can be happy too" kind of? And my big brother went psychotic, and REALLY schitzophrenic. He's currently at a mental hospital.
TODAY.. I did the exact same thing, confronted her. And she HUNG up on me too!
It probably sound like im cruel, but i swear every word she speaks, she is blinded. She can only see it from her point of view.
Now that I said. "I dont think it's a good idea i see you anymore. For a while. I need to go to college. And I cant focus when you call me and you're drunk asking me why your other son is at a mental hospital etc. I cant"
And she says "What about my garden?" (I do her garden etc).
I know when i leave, her place is gonna be an ever bigger mess.
Do i have the right to be selfish and try, at least TRY to get a better life.
I do believe there is more to life than drinking your own bottle of tears.
To the comments who wants me to stay with her, or pray for her.
I already did. 'All you need is love' and she havent shown me any really, by happiness.
'No one you can save that can't be saved'. I do believe she cant be saved, cause shes so blinded by her own views.
And I think she is selfish for even having two kids, when she started drinking and doing drugs from day 1 we were born etc.
I do realize she had a rough childhood too, (i may sound like a prick) but why would I care? Like why should THAT affect me. It happend way before i came into this world... Why should I suffer her pain. As a son-mom relationship I reflect and look up to her. I feel her pain. and im tired of it.
I feel like this is the last option for her to maybe see herself clearly, now that i boycot her.
It's hard, cause what if she drinks herself to death. I would blame myself, for wanting a better life, leaving her 'behind'.
but trust me. ALL of my childhood, from a little kid, I wanted to help her. To see a brighter day, to see a day through kids innocent eyes. Well at least how kids should see the world. But never has she understood.
How can I go to college, then talk to my alcoholic mother. Who asks me 'why's' of the mystery's.
She is not a christian. (Yes i tried to make her a christian, by reading C.S Lewis quotes etc from an early age)
She WANTS me to accept her. But I cant.
I've not given her up as a human being. I've given her up as a role model, as she is not good for me.
I want a good life. I want to break free from these chains my family generation carry.
The start is to cut the rope. Cut me 'free'. Free from confusion.
I'm not a big christian. But I want to be.
Sorry for the ranting. It's midnight here, and i'm a bit sad.
ANY comments will do.
Thank you for listening to my confusing-midnight ranting kind souls..