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    My husband left me. Until now he still would not admit about the affair and I know for a fact that they are already open to the OW's co-workers. He is making me look bad to his family. He always lies. He does not care who he hurts as long as his image is clean. He is very selfish. He does not want get an annulment. I told him that he should be open about this since he was the one who left, and he was the one who did not want to fix the marriage. He says that he still thinks of me everyday and that he would not be the same without me. We only have minimal communication and we have not seen each other for 3 weeks. He is currently living in his parents house since his parents would not allow him to leave. It is so hard. Please help me.

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    Hi lyza,
    I was simply watching the evening news and had a peek at cc. I'm sorry about your situation, but thank God you have come here for His reasons. May this situation you are in bring you closer to the Lord, Who alone can fix whatever we cannot but bring at His feet. Drop by the New members forum also. Welcome pala.

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    thank you..i will.=(

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    I can imagine your pain and I'm sorry you're going through this, I'm sure it's difficult for you and at the same time I'm proud of you for having to courage to reach out to others and talk to him about it. I've learned through life that we can control anyone's action we can only control how we respond to them and I think you've done a great job, even through your pain. I want to encourage you to seek counseling, read some resources there's plenty out there. Pray for your husband, your marriage and yourself. God is a good God and he is the author of restoration. Let you husband know that your want your marriage restored if that's what you really want, let him know if he wants the same then he would need to let go of his other relationship so you all can work on yours. Hold him accountable for his actions and let him know restoration can happen when to agree to walk the same path to reach the goal of a successful marriage. But we have to acknowledge and let go of what's affecting it now. Praying and hope he repents and turns away and you all have a new beginning. Blessings

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    Quote Originally Posted by Deleon2020 View Post
    I can imagine your pain and I'm sorry you're going through this, I'm sure it's difficult for you and at the same time I'm proud of you for having to courage to reach out to others and talk to him about it. I've learned through life that we can control anyone's action we can only control how we respond to them and I think you've done a great job, even through your pain. I want to encourage you to seek counseling, read some resources there's plenty out there. Pray for your husband, your marriage and yourself. God is a good God and he is the author of restoration. Let you husband know that your want your marriage restored if that's what you really want, let him know if he wants the same then he would need to let go of his other relationship so you all can work on yours. Hold him accountable for his actions and let him know restoration can happen when to agree to walk the same path to reach the goal of a successful marriage. But we have to acknowledge and let go of what's affecting it now. Praying and hope he repents and turns away and you all have a new beginning. Blessings
    You wrote a very encouraging post to this struggling member and offered wise counsel. Glad to have you as a member of our family. Welcome to CC.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lyza15 View Post
    My husband left me. Until now he still would not admit about the affair and I know for a fact that they are already open to the OW's co-workers. He is making me look bad to his family. He always lies. He does not care who he hurts as long as his image is clean. He is very selfish. He does not want get an annulment. I told him that he should be open about this since he was the one who left, and he was the one who did not want to fix the marriage. He says that he still thinks of me everyday and that he would not be the same without me. We only have minimal communication and we have not seen each other for 3 weeks. He is currently living in his parents house since his parents would not allow him to leave. It is so hard. Please help me.
    A husband that loves his wife does not cheat on her or even contemplate doing such a horrendous thing. I'm not sure of the laws in your country but it seems to me that due to your husband's infidelity you have grounds for a divorce. He betrayed your trust and this can never be restored. Sorry that you are going through such a thing. I pray for God to give you strength and clarity of thought in how to proceed to heal and get on with your life. There are other members of this site struggling in this area too so please know that you are not alone in this. Glad to have you as a member of our family. Welcome to CC.
    M & M's melt in your mouth and not in your hands.

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