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Um...so...your thread that you started just 13 hours ago says you are completely over your ex. And not 10 hours later, you're wondering if she'll talk to you again...?
Now I'M confused. Hmm.
Anyway, it really sounds like you need to just get on with your life, hang out with your friends, ask THEM, the people who KNOW you, these questions.
Now I'M confused. Hmm.
Anyway, it really sounds like you need to just get on with your life, hang out with your friends, ask THEM, the people who KNOW you, these questions.
Not much to go on here, but I'll try.
Did you break up with her over the phone? Things like that should be done in person, unless there are practical reasons, such as a long distance relationship.
Your wording is a bit unclear, but I am reading it that she hung up on you. That is pretty rude. Again, without knowing the context, I'd say that she should be the one apologizing, not you.
Did you break up with her over the phone? Things like that should be done in person, unless there are practical reasons, such as a long distance relationship.
Your wording is a bit unclear, but I am reading it that she hung up on you. That is pretty rude. Again, without knowing the context, I'd say that she should be the one apologizing, not you.
C
Just because I'm over her doesn't mean I don't miss her nor do I not care care about her because I do. She's going through some rough situations and I'm just wondering how shes doing. I hope she doesn't think I hate her, she's talks badly about herself and I'd rather have her know I don't hate her.
And yes she should apologize but whatever the case I forgive her.
And yes she should apologize but whatever the case I forgive her.
I'm not taking sides but for the sake of keeping things peaceful, I'd say just contact her ONE last time and tell her what you've told us: that you care and that you don't hate her. Then back off and give her space. She might talk to you when she's ready, or she might not. That part is up to her and you can't really do anything about that. In the meantime, I agree that you need to move on with your life. Keep her in your prayers, but otherwise, let her go.
No, she doesn't think you're horrible. It's hard to deal with breakups, no matter who you are. Most of the time, you have to just stop talking to the person. It's a common way to cope with a loss. This would be like if your dog died, and you decided the best way to get over it way to stuff him and keep him around. It wouldn't help; it would just make it worse! The best way would be to bury it and move on.
J
If you haven't already, tell her you forgive her for hanging up on you, that you wish her well and will pray for her. Then leave her alone. If she is interested in continuing a relationship or in being on good terms with you, she will call at some point. If not, she won't.
If she is the sort of woman who wants you to chase her, don't enable that behavior by doing it. If she DOESN'T want a relationship with you, continuing to contact her is called harassment, so you'd need to stop that immediately.
If she is the sort of woman who wants you to chase her, don't enable that behavior by doing it. If she DOESN'T want a relationship with you, continuing to contact her is called harassment, so you'd need to stop that immediately.
C
Harassment? Funny since she never told me to not contact her again nor told me to leave her alone. That argument is invalid. Besides I never contacted her again since that night, I was only asking if she'd ever want to talk again. Her birthday is next week and ill text her then, and if no response then ill leave her alone forever. Until then I can't help but think of her and miss her.
Many of us have been exactly where you are right now. The confusion as to why someone that claimed to care so much would seem to easily disregard your feelings. It can hurt and even cause us to go into denial not wanting to accept that maybe the things that a person said and the things that they do conflict with one another. Any person can easily say the words, "I love you". But to actually walk in love towards another person is a completely different story.
Two things I would recommend you consider:
One is to consider what Jesus would do and how He would respond. Let Him be your role-model in this and ask the Holy Spirit to lead your actions.
The other is something my mother told me years ago. It gave me peace and I was able to move on when I knew I had done all that I should but that I was just not being received with thanksgiving. She told me to simply respond, "You do not want what I have to offer. I wish you well."
You have to remember that you are considered a blessing of the Lord. In a likewise manner, your affections should be received with honor, praise (not in the worship sense but edifying sense... for the religious critics), and thanksgiving; a grateful heart.
Read Proverbs 5 (Ok... that is more than two things... lol)
I hope the best for you in your current struggle.
Two things I would recommend you consider:
One is to consider what Jesus would do and how He would respond. Let Him be your role-model in this and ask the Holy Spirit to lead your actions.
The other is something my mother told me years ago. It gave me peace and I was able to move on when I knew I had done all that I should but that I was just not being received with thanksgiving. She told me to simply respond, "You do not want what I have to offer. I wish you well."
You have to remember that you are considered a blessing of the Lord. In a likewise manner, your affections should be received with honor, praise (not in the worship sense but edifying sense... for the religious critics), and thanksgiving; a grateful heart.
Read Proverbs 5 (Ok... that is more than two things... lol)
I hope the best for you in your current struggle.
J
Wasn't arguing, simply responding to a post in a public forum. You state in the OP that you have contacted her via text and email since she hung up on you. That counts as at least two communications (more if you sent multiple texts/emails) since she willfully terminated communication by hanging up and never calling back.
I understand that you miss her and that you are hurting, but you will note that the definition below does not say that they have to ask you to stop before it is considered "harassment". Saying happy birthday and leaving her alone would be a good move.
harassment (either harris-meant or huh-rass-meant) n. the act of systematic and/or continued unwanted and annoying actions of one party or a group.
I understand that you miss her and that you are hurting, but you will note that the definition below does not say that they have to ask you to stop before it is considered "harassment". Saying happy birthday and leaving her alone would be a good move.
harassment (either harris-meant or huh-rass-meant) n. the act of systematic and/or continued unwanted and annoying actions of one party or a group.
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C
My state law classifies harrassment as the intent to harass, annoy, threaten, or alarm the other person. A definition wouldn't hold up in the court of law in this circumstance. My text and email were to apologize to her and tell her that I loved her. Keep in mind this was all on the same night so there is reason for my communication given how our relationship ended. Since then I have made no attempt to contact her therefore no harrassment has been done.
C
I didn't join this site to argue. I came here to find comfort and seek advice from like minded people. I already have enough stress in my life and I don't need this to be added on. Thank you for reading my posts and responding but I can't be here anymore. God bless you all and have a wonderful night.
J
Exactly, Helloo. No one is talking about the OP being arrested (although that definition came from a legal dictionary), but why would anyone even dance close to the fire? We are talking about common decency. If someone hangs up on a person and doesn't respond after a text/email, they clearly don't want contact.